Please allow me to jump in here for a little bit and remember that what I write is ONLY from one fellow's perspective.
I sense what you might be experiencing is known as "The Process". You are not alone my friend because I and others have gone through the same sort of trials. I might suggest a modification in your approach technique. Here's what I do...
Research the ladies' profile paying close attention to what she has written. Then, check the blogs / threads / comments to see if her writings support her profile. If all seems in order, and you wish to proceed, try to establish contact. Have an 8-9 sentence, reassuring, introductory letter prepared and ask for "permission" to send her your current (decent ,clothes on) picture. Request some chat and see how it goes.
Do NOT pressure her too much for a recent photo at first. It might create an initial impression of distrust. Give her some time to respond (24-36 hours).
Before current pictures are exchanged or webcam is established the lady might need a little time to find that special blouse that helps her feel pretty or brush out her hair for good first impression. Some of us guys do the same thing. This is totally understandable from my view but,...after all is requested / considered, and they are not willing to present a picture or engage on webcam,...cut the possible losses politely. You have tried in earnest so,... pull up your socks and move on !!
I would suggest in these proceedings that you find a way to remove yourself from any possible "expectations" as if these are not met, will most surely cause discomfort.
If you get "dumped", don't take it too personal. What a fellow from the US might think is polite may not be considered as such in Oriental culture. Be ready to practice some "catch and release".
I know this sounds like a lot of consideration and work but I really feel it is time well spent and just part of due diligence for "The Process".
Good Grief!! We are dealing with women here and,... Asian ladies as well. I have been told by two ladies on this site that the Oriental female mindset can be very complex at times and I now know this to be true for me. I sense special considerations need to be acknowledged and respected especially considering the 50+ ethnic minorities in China (study up).
One of the greatest obstacles I have found is the language challenge. Many of the ladies I have tried to contact are very self conscious about not speaking or understanding English very well and have just stopped communication, never to be heard from again. You might also be given a little test by the lady to see how you react in a communication breakdown situation.
Do not deceive yourself though, many Asian ladies are very smart and strong but,... they are women and, Bless Their Hearts, sometimes have a different grasp on what men perceive as proper conduct.
Now, regarding your question about a "security photo". I must stand in complete favor with Paul on this topic except that I don't think you are talking rubbish. I sense you are just a (self admitted) new fellow that's asking a question. When I first came to CLM (about 3 years ago), I had the same query.
Let us imagine a possible scenario. A member wishes to join. They have a current "security photo".
The CLM staff reviews the profile and picture then, might need to have have a brief webcam chat with the new member for proof. To be thorough, updates every few months might follow. This is just the way I imagined.
I started to consider the amount of members on this site. There's a LOT and the backtracking involved would be enormous! I also considered John and the CLM staff. Even though they have a certain passion for CLM and the uncovering of scammers (world wide internet) they also have lives independent from CLM. The extra burden placed on them for security photos would be too much. Besides, they are already checking IP addresses and photos as well.
Suddenly I realized that I was coming from a puny, self centered perspective and, I changed. Don't forget that John Abbot is a smart fellow and approachable as well. I am fairly certain that he has considered the "security photo" thing and decided to leave it as such. Give all who wish to join in a chance and then,... let the members investigate each other. This seems most sensible to me. Personally, I am happy for the option of photo / non photo.
Oh,...I want to make a suggestion concerning any wording in your profile or letter of introduction that has to do with sex or sexiness. I have found that this topic is VERY delicate when first establishing contact or presenting yourself publicly. Just a clue....
Also I wish to convey (prepare) that when you finally meet that special Oriental lady on the physical plane, more than likely, she will be the sweetest hunk of long lasting , ginger / lemon flavored piece of Hard Rock Candy you have ever experienced. She will burn into your skin and your heart will be "done for".
Game Over,... Love Score,... Advantage Lady!! (rofl)
OK buddy,... there's my $10.00 worth.