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very few people would sent me mails first

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2019-04-05 15:44:31

I tried to respond to a comment on scammer prison by @sunrise68. This is the first time I have tried to comment on scammer prison and I discovered that I was unable to post a comment. I have to assume that only targets of a scammer can make a comment. 



Here is the comment I was going to respond to.



"No wonder this man sent me an mail on this site days ago. Then I thought generally very few people would sent me mails first. Scanning his profile, I saw his age was the same as mine. A man with the same age actively mailing me on this site is very rare to me, so I felt suspicious and didn't reply to him."



My only time actively online dating was in 2009. I did not use a photo on my profile so my first contact was always an email with a photo included. It turns out that you were right to be suspicious of the man who contacted you but why be suspicious of someone who is the same age (still inside your prefered age range) and makes their first contact with you by email? 


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From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @JohnAbbot Time : 2019-04-06 13:00:23 #1

Melcyan - there is no reason I know of why you couldn't comment in Scammer Prison. Usually issues like that relate to cookie overload on your browser, so please clear your browser, restart your computer and then try commenting again.

If that doesn't solve the problem please advise me and I'll ask our developer to look into it.

Cheers, John

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济南(ji nan ) @sunrise68 Time : 2019-04-06 16:14:33 #2

@Melcyan  Thank you for reading my comment and making response. Let me explain that for you.  Since I registered on this site, only several men much older than me have sent me mails first, and almost no men with similar or same age as mine have done this, so I make a conclusion that men on this site generally would like to find women much younger than them  if they come here only for love match without any other purpose. Right now, can you understand why I am suspicious of that man of the same age ?

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2019-04-08 10:59:05 #3

@sunrise68

 

I understand what you are saying but it is definitely not the strategy that I would use. I would interact with as many people as I could. Every interaction is an opportunity to learn. You need to be very careful with the information that you share with another but there should very few limits on the number of contacts that you initially accept or make towards others. How many men have you initiated the contact for on CLM?

 

I think every person male or female needs to start from the position that their chances of success with online dating are low. It is up to each person to do everything they can to maximize their chances of success both online and in their everyday life. The more you talk and interact the clearer you become about what is definitely not acceptable to you in a potential life partner. To decide too much in advance (without experiencing a wealth of interactions) what your future needs are and forever stick with that initial assessment is very limiting and is begging for failure.

 

What happens if a contact becomes abusive or threatening towards you? Report them immediately but also give yourself a reward for withstanding a very negative encounter. It also helps to remember that abusive people are really showing how they feel about themselves much more than how they really feel about you. As well as reporting them it also pays to feel some compassion in your heart for these troubled souls.

 

Our determination to avoid a potentially negative situation can paralyze us. When I was a teenager  I hated being rejected by a girl that I asked to dance. I overcame my "paralysis" by deciding that I would go home if ever I received ten rejections in a row. I never had to leave a dance early because ten rejections in a row never happened. I think four rejections in a row was the record for me. Be very careful how you let both real and imagined dangers affect how you operate in the world of online dating.

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2019-04-08 11:16:45 #4

@JohnAbbot

Problem solved! It was nothing to do with cookies. ScamPris is the only part CLM that requires you to be logged in before you can even attempt to make a comment. If you have not signed in other areas like Blogs and Forum threads any comment attempt will immediately generate a pop-up sign-in box. ScamPris does not do this. You can only make a comment on ScamPris if you have previously signed in.

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济南(ji nan ) @sunrise68 Time : 2019-04-09 11:13:15 #5

@Melcyan Thank you for the advice and encouragement.

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2019-04-10 20:57:25 #6

@sunrise68

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