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love and sex

From: China 辽宁(liao ning) 大连(da lian ) @lancome236 Time : 2010-08-05 11:02:58
I want to know love and sex can be apart?
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lifehurts
From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @lifehurts Time : 2010-08-06 07:42:58 #1
Of course they can be.
However, I think when Love and Sex join together, that will be perfect.
But if they are unable to be, then better don't have sex with the one you are not in love with.
because it would be a lust sin.
Johnny
From: China 湖南(hu nan) 郴州(chen zhou ) @Johnny Time : 2010-08-06 09:57:53 #2
i don't think so !!!!
kalzorch
From: Switzerland Bern - Berne Bern @kalzorch Time : 2010-08-06 16:35:07 #3
I assume you love your parents.
tbriandon
From: China 江苏(jiang su) 常州(chang zhou ) @tbriandon Time : 2010-08-06 22:35:36 #4
Separate love and sex? Some people can and other cannot. I am speaking in generalities here so do not get angry. Men usually can keep the two things seperate - women have more trouble doing it. This is a subject that causes many arguments between lovers/sex partners.

I had a CGF tell me flat out...."Sometimes you are my lover and other times you are my sex partner!" Go figure.....
jinni5781
From: United States Virginia Manassas @jinni5781 Time : 2010-08-07 21:30:45 #5
I think that you can separate the two. sex is physical, and just like physical beauty fades after time, sex is kind of like that as well. Plus with sex, we humans instinctively compare our partners, while with love, we see each love as a separate thing. So I think that it can be down, but I think it depends on the mentality as well as the age of the person. When I was younger, I use to think that loving someone means to ultimately get into bed with them. But now as I have grown older, I want something more. Sex all the time is like a fast burning candle, once its burnt out, its gone. That is why alot of people cheat on their partners.

All in all these is just my thoughts on the matter
jerry2010
From: United States Colorado Boulder @jerry2010 Time : 2010-08-08 09:24:58 #6
I don’t think they can, at least not entirely. Especially in new love. Most relationships begin with a physical attraction. Love comes soon after. Love is the bond that keeps a couple together but it is the physical attraction and sex that brings them together in the first place. In a new relationship the bond is reinforced each time you have sex. Sex is nature’s trick that keeps you interested in being together long enough to fall in love and seal the union. Later in life the passionate love may dwindle and become familiar love that is not related to sex but in young love I think the two go hand in hand.
simonsays123
From: Australia New South Wales Sydney @simonsays123 Time : 2010-08-08 14:27:56 #7
they are different. one iis just a pysical desire and the other is emotional. love may include sex but sex can be done without love. think of women or men faking it or prostitutes. many marry not for love and enggage in sex for progeny and security. love may also noot include sex, just like family members.
yourmaoannian
From: China 江苏(jiang su) 常州(chang zhou ) @yourmaoannian Time : 2010-08-08 21:20:04 #8
This is a good topic.I agree tbriandon's thoughts.I think most men can do,but it is more complex to women.Sometimes it can and sometimes connot.
sbs17
From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 宁波(ning bo ) @sbs17 Time : 2010-08-09 13:39:16 #9
Hi
I believe to have sex with loving is impossible, this maybe as good as rape.
To love someone dearly have not have sex - yes it can happen, especially when old.
All in all, love without sex is possible but difficult but to have sex without love is an animal act!
It is better to lust and have sex than love without sex!
It is better not to have sex upon an animal rage within.
Afterall we are humans and not dogs or animals, we should be able to control lust, urges and animal instincts, others we are no different from animals!
chrisfr2
From: China 江苏(jiang su) 苏州(su zhou ) @chrisfr2 Time : 2010-08-09 14:53:42 #10
sex and love seems not to be exactly the same, in witch i agree with jinni5781
due to darwin evolution, men acts more "instinctively" and can separate sex from love more easily than women does. But some women more "open minded" can fulfill theyr physical needs with sex, without involving love also.
and when sex is the topic without any love, we have a "sex friend" relation
witch can be very strange to understand for chinese people.
In any case : a couple without a good sexual understanding will not last long time.. each one will finaly search some-where else what he needs...
and a good sexual understanding, without deep love and full understanding will not dure forever...

So the best is when the man and the woman are deeply in love and have a deep sexual understanding together.
khaled0311
From: Egypt Al Jizah October 6 @khaled0311 Time : 2010-08-10 04:46:20 #11
i think that sex is the way in love and a long relation ship
if you want a long relation ship i want to be with you
edward72
From: Australia Victoria Carrum @edward72 Time : 2010-08-11 09:01:46 #12
They can be apart true, but they should be together sex with love is the best, sex without love is just sex and meaningless.
karenchen
From: China 江西(jiang xi) 南昌(nan chang ) @karenchen Time : 2010-08-13 02:38:48 #13
I think that most of women can not be apart,because they must love the first ,and then can have sex with lover.But the most of men can be apart,because they can have love and sex together,also they sometimes only want sex.So, there are diffirents from man and womam. I only think no love,no sex.Anyway it is for me.
shon
From: United States California Sherman Oaks @shon Time : 2010-08-13 10:50:48 #14
REMEMBER WHAT A FAMOUS MAN....ONCE WROTE A LONG TIME AGO. IT IS BETTER TO HAVE LOVED AND LOST - THAN TO HAVE NEVER LOVED AT ALL. I THINK MOST PEOPLE IN THE WORLD WANT LOVE=BUT REALLY DONT KNOW HOW TO BE DIRECT AND COMMUNICATE TO FIND IT. I BELIEVE IN REAL LOVE AND IN MARRIAGE. I AM HONEST,ROMANTIC, AND DIRECT. KEEP THE 7 DEADLY SINS AT BAY AND JUST BE REAL AND GOOD. LOVE WILL HAPPEN. KEEP THIS BELIEF ALWAYS. 08-12-10
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