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@Anonymous26594 Time : 2019-11-07 11:47:39 #15

I used to be an active member of CLM and I found my American husband here. After I moved to the US, my husband and I decided that I should get a degree there. I graduated from the top major from one of the top universities in the U.S. with a perfect 4.0 GPA earlier this year. Upon my graduation, I received several offers from several fortune 200 companies, and I chose the one based on my best interest.

Be honest, I don’t understand why my fellow Chinese ladies would be interested in you at all. From most of your blogs or threads here on CLM, one could easily tell you think Chinese ladies are too stupid to be your girlfriends.  So, my question is, if you do think you are much more superior than our Chinese, why don’t you stop dating Chinese ladies? Why bother? I would love to hear your opinions. Thanks

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2019-11-07 12:55:49 #16


Thank you for your comment, and congratulations on achieving full marks in your indoctrination, sorry, I mean 'education'.

I don't think I have EVER said that Chinese ladies are 'stupid'. Any negative comments I have made usually refer to insane jealousy. Whilst one could argue that western women are jealous too, I see it as being slightly different with Chinese women.

Chinese women seek western husbands for various reasons. Yet not ALL Chinese women are interested in Western men.

Therefore, I often get the impression that some of these Chinese women (who seek Western men), become so enamoured once they 'catch' one that they are scared stiff of losing their 'catch'. This is demonstrated by their crazy, insane jealousy. However, for many of us, jealousy is something that WILL push us away and therefore has the complete opposite effect on what they are trying to achieve.

Therefore, knowingly or unknowingly, they are acting stupid.

Also, please take into account that ALL my blogs and threads here on CLM are based on my own experiences.

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2019-11-07 15:27:30 #17


I have some more thoughts regarding your comment, and also a few questions. I hope you don't mind?

Firstly, from my perspective, I see you as a lady who has no reason to be jealous. Had your husband moved to China in order to be with you, then I have no doubt you'd be watching him almost 24/7, lol.

However, since he has been surrounded by Western women all his life, and then chose to marry a lady from a country thousands of miles away, you should almost feel proud, and certainly never need to be jealous.

So with these things in mind, can I ask you ......

1. Instead of meeting someone from America, had you met someone from, say, Canada, Australia, UK, etc, would you be living in that country now, or did you particularly seek to find an American partner?

2. How did your family and friends react when you told them you would be moving to the USA?

3. On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being not at all, and 10 being 100% correct), how would you rate the following statement...."Most Chinese women who join sites such as CLM are looking for a way to move out of China"

4. Is there any particular reason why you moved to America instead of your husband moving to China?

5. Have you found life in America easy, or difficult?

6. What advice would you give to your fellow Chinese women on CLM with respect to moving to a Western country?

I just did an interview with respect to the perspective Western people have about China. It's about an hour long, but you may find it interesting. Again, it's only based on my own experiences.

From: Australia Victoria Thomastown @roughdiamond Time : 2019-11-07 17:38:30 #18


Dude easy up on the drinking

WIFE ok 

But GF / Floozy putting the two in the same group REALY BUD your not doing yourself any favors amoungst the women here

eg Anon26594 coment

i also second her question What are you doing here on CLM



From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2019-11-08 13:33:48 #19


There is a difference between a wife and a girlfriend. As for 'floozies', I've had my fair share over the years. Therefore, my comment was valid. He was talking about his WIFE, and NOT a GF, or a 'floozie' - so I have no idea what point you are trying to make. Perhaps it's you who should go eazy on the 'Beam'?

As for your question, the same could be asked of you. Why are happily married men such as the previous poster, Melcyan, Imi, etc here?

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2019-11-09 14:31:02 #20

@paulfox1 Why is melcyan on CLM? Melcyan's bio says "His focus on CLM has been to learn more about the implications of his life-partner's culture and language for building a lifelong loving relationship."

Why are you here? 



From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2019-11-10 14:13:42 #21


Unfortunately a guy cannot read the bio of another male member here on CLM. If it were possible then you'd be able to read mine.

There are several reasons as to why I am here, and I assure you, they're all honourable.

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2019-11-11 09:52:41 #22



We reveal to others much more about ourselves than we think we do.  My partner's earliest memories of me were about how I treated women with respect. These first memories belong to a time that was 3 years before our relationship started. It is wise to act as if your future ideal partner can see everything that you are doing right now. I have never dated "floozies". Are "floozies" just a stop-gap measure until you finally meet the "right one"? What does that tell the world about who you really are and who you are ultimately seeking?


We do take into account that ALL your blogs and threads here on CLM are based on your own experiences. However, what you reveal about yourself is sometimes repulsive to a Chinese woman like Anonymous26594 or a Chinese woman like my partner. Maybe women like Anonymous26594 and my partner are few and far between, BUT, what if your future "right one" has similar powers of observation?

From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @JohnAbbot Time : 2019-11-11 13:46:12 #23


A guy can read the bio of another guy on CLM. You can search another male's profile by username or via the settings on the Search result's page, etc.

Males can't communicate with other males and females cannot communicate with other females, for reasons I won't bother getting into here. 

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2019-11-11 20:30:07 #24


I have, and always will, treat women with the utmost respect. However, one does not 'date' a 'floozie'.

If you were to go and visit a factory in China, with the intent of doing business, it's normal for the owner to take you out for dinner, followed by a trip to his favourite KTV bar.

Once inside you will be offered a choice of female companionship.

You choose a girl - a 'floozie'.

That girl will be your companion for the evening. She will dance with you; sing with you; drink with you.

Once it's 'home-time' you will usually part company, and never see her again - yet you have likely enjoyed your evening.

You may have a different adjective with which to describe such girls, but where I come from, they are 'floozies'. It's not a derogatory term, BTW.

I believe in transparency. I'm a 'what-you-see-is-what-you-get' kind-of guy, and, quite frankly, I don't give a flying f*ck what others think of me.

Although you may find it hard to believe, I have no 'ego'. I never try to pretend to be something I'm not. I know my limitations; I know what I'm good at, and I know what I can't do.

So if you, like so many others, want to judge me for what I write here, then fine. However, I guarantee you'd change your view if we were to meet in 'real' life.

I admire your tenacity, I admire your values, yet with your final remark about 'what if my future partner has the same powers of observation', she would NOT be my partner if she didn't.

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2019-11-11 20:32:24 #25


I was chatting with 'our' Barry the other night. A friend of his came to visit Barry and Barry asked me to speak to him.

His friend asked, 'Where did you and Barry meet?'

I said, 'On a dating site'   (rofl)(rofl)(rofl)(rofl)(rofl)

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2019-11-12 15:38:48 #26






These are your words. Please post these words in large, bold print on the wall next to your computer.


Make sure that you read these words and ask yourself "Do my words match these two statements?" just before you go to press the submit button on any new CLM thread or new CLM blog. Only press the submit button if there is a match.


Maybe, if you had followed these steps for this thread, @Anonymous26594 would have not needed to make her comment.

From: Australia Victoria Thomastown @roughdiamond Time : 2019-11-12 19:21:25 #27


why am i still here?

to learn

to try and get a better understanding of asian women

to chat with other people. male and female re: Eastern Vs Western differances

to try and improve myself  and my EQ


and look at the odd pretty woman


oh and paul you now have two pretty concice answers to your question

how about showing us the respect we give you and giving all of us a concise answer. not the spin

"There are several reasons as to why I am here, and I assure you, they're all honourable"

 not an answer.....SPIN



From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2019-11-14 13:18:10 #28


I'm not sure if you are trying to be funny; be flippant, or just ignorant.


That does not mean I have to respect an assinine attitude; insane jealousy; stupid remarks, or any other type of behaviour that I find offensive.

As you correctly stated - ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.

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