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Will you tell her or him?

From: China 广东(guang dong) 东莞(dong guan ) @Enyaluo1977 Time : 2016-12-01 17:26:40

你发现你的好朋友的妻子或丈夫有外遇,你会告诉她/他吗?



I would like to hear your opinion:



If you find your best friend's wife or husband is having a fair? Will you tell her or him?


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From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2016-12-03 12:42:14 #1

If you find your best friend's wife or husband is having an affair? Will you tell her or him?

I would treat my best friend the way I want to be treated. I would tell them. If it ends the friendship, so be it. 

From: New Zealand Hawke's Bay Napier @faithfulandtrue Time : 2016-12-03 16:40:38 #2

Most definitely. Why would I not? Such things are soul-destroying things that need to be exposed and dealt with quickly. The emotional fallout and pain from such things for EVERYONE involved is frightening to behold. Of course the way it's done needs some thought. Rushing in like a "bull in a China shop" is far from a useful or helpful thing to do. The first step is to confront the one having the affair and encourage them to desist.It might take a few conversations and a careful choice of words, mixed with genuine care and understanding as to WHY the affair is taking place (if it's just lust, then that's a different matter entirely). But if the "offender" is unwilling, then exposing it, "calling it out" is the right thing do. All a delicate matter, to be sure, but...

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@Anonymous25456 Time : 2016-12-03 18:38:48 #3

I'd tell their cheating spouse to break it off and confess or I would tell my best friend. After a certain deadline I'd like my best friend what's been going on.

From: China 广东(guang dong) 东莞(dong guan ) @Enyaluo1977 Time : 2016-12-05 17:54:57 #4
@melcyan @faithfulandtrue @Anonymous25456

Thanks for your comments,I know I should tell her so she might save their marriage before they go too far from each other.

But it's earier to say than do it. I would try to find a right moment.

Thanks for you all. I wish all of you don't need to face this kind of situation.

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2016-12-08 14:21:36 #5


@Enyaluo1977

Ask yourself this question:

If you DON'T tell your best friend.......... and then your best friend finds out some other way.........and THEN she finds out that you KNEW all the time............... and YOU didn't tell her................

How do you think she will react ?

From: Netherlands @Macchap Time : 2016-12-11 08:13:02 #6

@Enyaluo1977
The first thing that came to my mind was: "Mind your own business". Then... you have to be pretty sure - more than 100% - your best friend's wife/husband is having an affair. How do you know beyond any doubt that she/he is having an affair? Are you with her/him 24/7? You could be wrong, misreading/misinterpreting the signs.

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2016-12-11 21:57:40 #7


@Macchap

 

Likewise. If ANYONE isn't with their partner 24/7, who KNOWS what they may get up to?

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