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Anonymous620

What's your impression on Frenchmen ? Do you hope to marry them ?

@Anonymous620 Time : 2013-06-02 00:04:20
Excuse me, I do not mean to offend any Frenchmen on the CLM .

I met a Frenchman on the CLM, who is in his early 50s. We have communicated for several months.

Frenchmen are known for their romantic. So does he. He has a big smile and a very good shape. Well educated ,speak decently. What's more, he was very good at flattering women.It's hard to resist his sweet words.

But his behavior really confused me a lot. I read a lot of postings about Frenchmen by Chinese women abroad on the Internet that described many bad aspects of Frenchmen's .They said that Frenchmen are lack of the sense of responsibility, selfish and stingy. More or less,Frenchmen are like those men in South China. In fact,in my experience, I'm not likely to accept a southern Chinese man to be my husband.

The famous Hongkong actress, Maggie(Zhang Manyu) once married a French film director,but soon was divorced due to the man's extramarital affairs. It's said that the divorce rate in France is very high,resulting from Frenchmen's lack of family responsibility.

To tell the truth ,he is very attracted to me. I like and respect him,but I think it's time for me to break up the relationship completely. Because I really want to meet a man with responsibility who can bring a bright future to me.

Anyway, I wish him happiness.

What's your impression on Frenchmen ? Do you hope to marry a Frenchman ?
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From: China 广东(guang dong) 广州(guang zhou ) @mary0624 Time : 2013-06-02 17:19:51 #1
邓丽君的男友也是法国人, 她死后她的家里人对其男友颇有微词.
Anonymous6178
@Anonymous6178 Time : 2013-06-02 21:47:32 #2
In fact , i never meet any frenchmen online , i thought they are the same as other westers. even you like him a lot , you had better continue to keep in touch with him . you care about his nature not all frenchmen's characters. how can make you sure he less respinsiblility ? of course you need a long time to know about him .
Anonymous6179
@Anonymous6179 Time : 2013-06-02 22:00:52 #3
当然不希望和这种人结婚,首先他不会真爱你,既使和你结婚了,也难讲今后不会在爱上别人,谁愿意和一个, 人在你这,心在别处,,或心在你这,身子在别处的人结婚?,你觉得这样的婚姻有意思么?除非是豁出去了,不再乎这些,要面子不要里子,,就图一个嘴甜和长的帅也不是不可以。
From: China 四川(si chuan) 德阳(de yang ) @prana Time : 2013-06-02 22:02:23 #4
@Anonymous620
法国人我不知道,但我知道普罗旺斯的薰衣草园,它是很多人喜欢去的地方。
Anonymous6188
@Anonymous6188 Time : 2013-06-03 17:27:47 #5


地域和文化对人性格的影响会在基因中遗传的。在国内择偶,大家都会考虑这个人出生成长在什么地方,寻找国外男士做婚姻伴侣,他出生成长的国家也应该考虑在内的吧。
Anonymous6190
@Anonymous6190 Time : 2013-06-03 19:27:26 #6
没错!邓丽君和张曼玉的男友都是法国人,结果怎么样?死的死 离的离,二人还都是大名鼎鼎的歌星和演艺界的人,最后还不栽了,当然不是绝对的,不过还是慎重些为好。
Anonymous6197
@Anonymous6197 Time : 2013-06-04 04:31:30 #7
浪漫和英俊再加上甜言密语,这些是男人攻破女人感情防线的利器和杀手锏,咱可别这些表象给Hold住.
From: China 广东(guang dong) 深圳(shen zhen ) @zhaohaojuan Time : 2013-06-04 10:54:43 #8
其实这个怎么说呢,应该是没有绝对的好与坏,我一个同事嫁给了法国人,这个法国人比我同事小三岁,他好腼腆还有点害羞没那么奔放,很疼爱我同事还很听话。
From: China 广东(guang dong) 阳江(yang jiang ) @99moonriver Time : 2013-06-04 20:07:17 #9
They say that foxes are too foxy,
so u dumps foxes.

They say that tigers are too tigerish,
so u dump tigers.

They say monkeys are too naughty,
so u dump monkeys.

They say birds are too chatty,
so u dump birds.

They say bears are too lazy,
so u dump bears.

They say most of Chinese men are pigs,
but billions of Chinese women still married one.:)))))))))))))

Sorry, joking.

Learn from others, but keep your own mind.
Even if this French man is a bad man, he is only one of the French, not all.
From: China 新疆(xin jiang) 乌鲁木齐(wu lu mu qi ) @Apinkapple Time : 2013-06-05 00:03:32 #10
@zhaohaojuan

据说法国男人的性格有些像咱们中国南方的男人,多情,心思细腻,但是比较自私和花心。地域和文化在人性格中的烙印还是很深的。

网上一些帖子也许是在法国求学工作的中国女性失败案例的汇集吧,难免显得灰色了一些。但是两种不同地域文化背景中长大的人融合起来确实有难度的。

一千个人眼中有一千个林妹妹,一千个人眼中有一千个哈姆雷特,情人的眼里才会出西施的哦。。。
From: China 新疆(xin jiang) 乌鲁木齐(wu lu mu qi ) @Apinkapple Time : 2013-06-06 16:03:22 #11
@99moonriver

Who say most of Chinese men are pigs ?

Don't forget you were born by a Chinese man.

You can complain about the government who brings so many social problems to Chinese people, but don't put some improper words on the Chinese men.Chinese men are Chinese women's grandfather, or father ,or husbands or brothers.

Although you want to marry a west man, don't forget your origin.
From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @JohnAbbot Time : 2013-06-07 14:33:05 #12
@Apinkapple - I'm taking a wild guess that @99moonriver was actually taking a little sarcastic shot at us because much of our writing about why Chinese women are here will mention some suggested flaws of Chinese men. At least I took it as that and thought it was a pretty funny and not undeserved shot.

But while we may say Chinese men are not romantic (which we think is generally very true) we do not think of them badly. Not being romantic is a cultural characteristic, nothing more. We have many Chinese men members and no doubt some of them are romantic. But those of us of European heritage and that includes most Canadians, Americans, Australians and New Zealanders, come from a culture that had an entire lengthy period (hundreds of years) known as the romantic age, and it helped shape who we are today. China did not have that period in its history to the best of my knowledge.

We admire China at CLM and that includes Chinese men. If not for Chinese men there could be no China. They have their flaws like everyone, but generally they are deserving of admiration and respect.

Personally I count among my very best friends a couple of Chinese men, and I hold them in the highest regard. And I am very cognizant of the fact that they were smart enough to learn English while surrounded by Chinese speakers, while I am not smart enough to learn Chinese while surrounded by by Chinese speakers including my wife. So even more, I respect them.

And frankly, I'm not very romantic myself :-).
From: China 新疆(xin jiang) 乌鲁木齐(wu lu mu qi ) @Apinkapple Time : 2013-06-07 18:12:39 #13
@JohnAbbot

Mr.John,Thanks for your commenting.

I have to admit that I couldn't express myself fully when I write in English. So I'm determined to read more books in English to improve my writing skills in this summer Vacation.

First,I must state that I am not a narrow-minded racist.I respect myself and I respect all creatures on the earth, including all members on the CLM, except scammers.

You know in Chinese culture ,when you say somebody is a pig, which is an insult to the person. We say a dirty pig and a lazy pig. I don't think the Chinese men are dirty and lazy ,on the contrary , most of the Chinese men are very hard working. Among these men are my family and friends. I respect them and love them.

You know what terrible ages the Chinese people have ever had. Now we are suffering so many social problems, including the food safety(food safety issues caused by enterprises and restaurants'food production and processing, not cooking ways at home), which is the biggest problem in China for the time being. We have no choice but to endure it. In between being starved to death and was poisoned , we can only choose to be poisoned. As common people, what can we do ?

Characters are formed by the environment. The Chinese 's characters are shaped by China's history and culture, which have two sides. I have read some postings and blogs written by some Chinese women, saying how bad their Chinese husbands treat them, Which I think exists in some families and in some regions, not all over China.This problem doesn't exist only in China. Some Chinese women also wrote their west men treat them badly,very selfish and stingy, maybe this is caused by their own problems.

I only choose to live with a man who respects me and loves me from his bottom of the heart. I won't give any man any chance to treat me badly,because I'm a mature and independent woman, I have an ability to tell good from bad and to protect my dignity and living from being hurt.

Human natures have much in common, but only there are differences in personalities.
From: China 广东(guang dong) 阳江(yang jiang ) @99moonriver Time : 2013-06-08 16:43:48 #14
@Apinkapple

Hi, sister, calm down. It is just a joke!:))))

I don't want to offend others (why I have to?:)) So if my comment ever made u upset, ok, u get my appologize now.:))

I m just a little surprised at ur tough criticizing about me. “Forget your origin”?? Wow! Do u know me well? R u sure u have the right to judge me like that? Why u pay such attention on a joke “pig” word, while keep ignoring the main point in my common?

Do me a favour, :)) take back ur wrong judgement.:))
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