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The Kitchen Spoon, the Pot, and the Useful Idiot

From: Canada British Columbia Vancouver @Imi5922 Time : 2020-06-04 02:48:13

“Man! I love my life. I don't have to work anymore. I got promoted,” the kitchen spoon says. “I'm a symbol, now.”


“Me too,” the pot says. “We should be on a flag. You know. Like the sickle and the hammer.”


“We work only five minutes a day, but we have the top shelf in the cabinet to all our selves.”


“Yeah, all the dirty kitchen work is left for the others, living and working under deplorable conditions.”


“Oh, look! It's almost seven o'clock. We have to work. Are you ready?” the spoon asks the pot.


“I'm all cracked,” the pot says.


The Useful Idiot comes, wearing a mask and gloves, and removes the pot and the spoon from the shelf. He goes to the balcony and starts hitting the pot with the spoon for five minutes, creating a terrible noise. He's my new neighbor. Something 25-30 years old. I haven't seen his face yet because of his mask. He can be a girl as far as I can tell. I just assumed he's a man from his clothes. But nowadays, not even that simple observation can convince me what kind of a creature exists right next to my door. Let's go with soy boy.


The first time I met him in the hallway on my floor, he stuck to the wall like a gecko until I passed him. I wore no mask. Never had.


I know my days aren't many because I don't wear a mask. As all the rioters in the U.S.A, not keeping six feet apart, will eventually die, right?


So, I'll go and make the most of this little time I have. Farewell to all.

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From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2020-06-05 07:38:55 #1

We both have a neighbor we don't like. You have a mask-wearing soy boy. I have a macho man. Such is life. We all wear "masks" of some form throughout our lives.


I deal with it by feeling gratitude. Gratitude that, prior to my macho-man-neighbor, my previous neighbor of 30 years was great. How many people have a great neighbor for 30 years? I also still have another great (over 30 years) neighbor living on the other side of me.


My greatest gratitude is that my partner and I  can be "mask" free and totally vulnerable in each other's presence.


Imi, I wish you and your wife all the very best. For each new day, may the two of you find all the precious moments of peace, gratitude and love that you need to sustain you.



From: Canada British Columbia Lavington @newbeginning Time : 2020-06-06 00:13:54 #2

@melcyan, what do you mean "macho man"? Do you mean alpha male? 



From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2020-06-07 17:46:39 #3

The term "macho man" was the first thing that came to mind thinking of my neighbor. I probably should have just described him as very noisy, unaware of his surroundings, and selfish. I looked up "macho man" and "alpha" on google. They seem to be similar terms and are not generally used as an insult.


I did notice during my google searching that "alpha" behavior and body language are often recommended by dating gurus. I thought that was funny. I did not mention "alpha" behavior in my "Boy to man" blogs. What I did say was "To women, the sexiest male attributes in a man are having confidence in yourself, knowing who you are, and having a worthwhile ambition." 

From: Canada British Columbia Vancouver @Imi5922 Time : 2020-06-08 00:52:45 #4


We don't live in a vaccum. To every action, there is an equal amount of reaction. If you think the world is moving to the right direction, then you're part of the problem. It seems that you live in a bubble, but one day, it will burst into your face.

From: Canada British Columbia Vancouver @Imi5922 Time : 2020-06-08 01:13:29 #5


If you're a white man who steps up for the things he belives in and against the narrative the corrupt media circulates 24/7, you're automatically considered a racist or, in this case, a "macho man."

From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @JohnAbbot Time : 2020-06-09 10:59:28 #6

Interesting comments. Here's my 2 cents worth.

I suggest that "Alpha Male" describes a male who is genuinely aggressive in his nature while not necessarily recognizing that he is so. He tends to instantly expect to take charge in every situation where there is any need of leadership. He genuinely displays highly masculine characteristics. I don't think you would ever refer to a person as an Alpha Male with sarcasm.

On the other hand, I think "Macho Man" refers more often (although not exclusively) to someone who is posturing in his displays of masculine characteristics. Someone might use Macho Man as a compliment, but I suggest that at least as frequently it is used as a slight, a suggestion that the subject of the slight is phony and not as masculine as he pretends to be.

Maybe that's just in my neck of the woods, but I am pretty sure it applies in North America at least, if not everywhere.


From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2020-06-09 12:22:46 #7

I want to retract my use of the term "macho man". It just goes to show the danger of trying to reduce  something to a two or three word slogan. This eight word description of my neighbor - very noisy, unaware of his surroundings, and selfish - is much closer to the mark. I have no idea where my neighbor positions himself on the political spectrum. It is possible to dislike someone independent of their political orientation. My comment was just about "a neighbor I didn't like" but Imi's thread was more politically directed.

From: Australia New South Wales Sydney @oldghost Time : 2020-06-10 19:30:56 #8

I don't wear a mask and have never seen anything to convince me it is more than a little useful, nor less than a great deal inconvenient.  Governments and Doctors have wavered on this view of late, giving in to population pressure perhaps.  I thought it pointless against the high PM25 in Beijing Shijiazhuang and Zhengzhou too, unless it was high grade.

I have no idea what the banging on a pot is intended to do, other than irritate.  And I am sure it does that in spades!

However I do note your phrase soy boy which you intend to be offensive, and indeed is.  The person you are married to probably likes soya bean and soy sauce too.

From: Canada British Columbia Lavington @newbeginning Time : 2020-06-10 20:15:18 #9

@melcyan, I agree with the term "very noisy, unaware of his surroundings, and selfish" I would also go further and say he and alot of western women are like this in todays society. I work in a place where I constantly see this type of behaviour on display. Everytime I hear this type of person it is an overweight tatted female and her equally overweight and sometimes suprisingly skinny male companion. 

I often wonder how Asian females feel when they come to the west and see this on display. They must feel like they are in the twilight zone.



From: Canada British Columbia Vancouver @Imi5922 Time : 2020-06-12 00:01:24 #10


In Vancouver, people express their support for essential workers, especially for those working in medical fields, by standing outside at 7pm and making noise, hitting pots, honking and such, for five minutes. They've been at it for a couple of months now. That is the story behind the kitchen spoon and the pot.


The masks were “pressured” on people by experts and the MSM's rampant fear-mongering. A mask is to a virus is like a chain-link fence to a mosquito. It does nothing but weakening your natural capability to fight diseases—your immune system. Once you stop breathing your own stinky breath in and remove your mask, you'll get sick from the weakest flu out there for sure and run to the “experts,” begging to save your life from the second wave (“they” already know there will be another wave in the fall) of COVID-19 and give you the vaccine. And that is going to be the end of you.


Yes, soy boy is an offensive phrase, and it was intended to be such. The entire forum thread was written for that purpose. I can see that it bothers you, and you have to—though I have already asked you not to do it—bring up my wife and her background. It's a pity that you have to use my wife's background to make a vague assumption of my eating habit and glean a direct connection between soy boy and me.


You don't really know me, do you? What if I had an Ukrainian wife? Would your presumption be that I eat a lot of borsch? If you want to prove that I'm as much a soy boy as my neighbor is, which is apparent you've tried to do with your last sentence, you have to come from another angle because I don't eat my wife's food—I cook for myself because I have a strict diet—and she hates me for it. I only eat two meals (just to make her happy) that she prepares for me on Sundays, but even those are without any soy products.


My wife now knows that soy is good for women but not for men. And now you know building your case on a single assumption is only shows your lack of desire to get facts straight from my earliest blogs. You should be a journalist or a news anchor. They don't have to fact-check anymore, only bow their heads to their masters, reporting no events that don't support their narratives and undermine and cancel everybody who tries to show the other side of the coin.


“Every record has been destroyed or falsified, every book rewritten,
every picture has been repainted, every statue and street building has
been renamed, every date has been altered. And the process is continuing
day by day and minute by minute. History has stopped. Nothing exists
except an endless present in which the Party is always right.”

― George Orwell, 1984


From: Australia New South Wales Sydney @oldghost Time : 2020-06-12 22:44:16 #11


I was aware of the intent of the banging.

The prejudice against wearing of and wearers of masks is probably a cultural difference. It is likely you observe that very difference in your own household, as another blogger here, I tink, does.  Many westerners are irritated or angered and even abusive at the sight of an Asian mask-wearer, considering it absurd illogical and irrational.  The anger is at least equally irrational.

An extensive scientific research project has just been conducted on a large population - research into the quantitative risk-reduction benefits of masks and distancing, and results have been released.  The distancing and washing are found to reduct the risk by 95%, and further halved with each extra metre.  This is clearly justified.
As to the wearing of masks, the reduction is more than 60% for the N95 grade masks, and 30% for the lighter medical quality masks.  This seems to be the first quantitative measure.  Not wonderful, but certainly significant, and could be considered to justify the discomfort.  It logically should dispel the belief that it is useless - as you expressed "A mask is to a virus is like a chain-link fence to a mosquito" The findings establish that such opinions are mistaken, if not foolish. I can see you hold entrenched views on this and other topics, and I have no thought of achieving any your thoughts.  But you might actually think about instead ef expressing contempt.
I don't know you at all except as much as I can read into your words.  Dogmatic, opinionated, and irritable with some clear prejudices.  Perhaps I am too, although I am capable of changing opinions, as I have for example on the wearing of masks.  I don't know and don't care what you eat and made no reference to your eating or cooking habits.  Nor do I share your contempt for journalists, merely remain skeptical and cautious about blind acceptance. 

From: Australia New South Wales Sydney @oldghost Time : 2020-06-12 22:50:54 #12

You seem to think my brief comment says something about your eating.  Read again, with a clear head.  How does 'The person you are married to probably likes soya bean and soy sauce too.'  relate to your eating habit? Here the too refers to soy boy, of course, and there is no reference to you whatsoever.

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2020-06-12 23:22:24 #13

Imi, you finished with a George Orwell quote. Thanks to you, Orwell has been echoing in my head on and off for the last 6 hours. I read the book "1984" in 1968 when I was 16 years old. The world was much scarier than it is now. The Vietnam war was raging and on the TV news every night. Martin Luther King Jr and Robert F Kennedy were both assassinated. I feared for the future. Would I be fighting in Vietnam in 2 or 3 years time? 1968 turned out to be a very fateful year in my life. That was the year that I decided to apply for a teaching scholarship to fund me through my final year of school and four years of university.


When the year 1984 finally arrived, the hypnotic spell of the book seemed to be broken. Ever since I read the book in 1968, I somehow sensed that 1984 would be a momentous year for me. It certainly was. I renovated my house. My first child was born. I was promoted and changed schools. It turned out to be the second hardest year of my life. Very hard but also very rewarding. Years later, the book "1984" regained its importance for me. "Doublethink" was a word that returned to me, time and time again.

From: United States South Carolina Myrtle Beach @JoeM65 Time : 2020-06-13 04:30:17 #14


I am not writing this to defend @oldghost. He is surely capable of doing that himself. But, just to offer you another viewpoint.

It is true that there is often a lot 'between the lines' in @oldghost's posts. But, even upon rereading his post, I still do not see where he tried to make a direct connection (a 'case') between 'soy boy' and you or your personal diet, @Imi5922. If anything, @oldghost's post seemed supportive of your position not to wear a mask, and he also agreed that the pot banging could be an irritant.

I do see where @oldghost made an assumption about your wife's possible affinity for soy-based products based upon her ethnicity. Maybe you two have some history and/or 'bad blood' that I am unaware of (I have not read your older blog posts and I could just be naive).  But, his comment seemed pretty innocuous. 

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