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Searching for a wife? Here's the answer.......

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2019-12-18 19:38:31

A 35 year-old man was still single. One day he bumped into an old friend. The friend asked, 'Hey, buddy, why are you still single?'

He replied, 'I have found many suitable wives over the years, but when I take her home to meet my parents, my mother doesn't like her'

'I have an idea', said the friend, 'find a woman that is just like your mother, I'm sure you'll be OK'

A few months later the 2 guys bumped into each other again. The friend said, 'Hey, buddy, how's it going......did you find a suitable wife?'

'I found one who was just like my mother. I took her home and my mother loved her'

'Wow', said the friend, 'so what happened?'

'My father hated her.....'


Tired of being single, I advertised for a wife with two simple words....'Wife Wanted'

The following morning I had 397 responses, each one the same.....

'You can have mine!'

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From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @JohnAbbot Time : 2019-12-20 13:11:51 #1

Funny stuff! I come from an age, as do you, when we were allowed to say funny things like this, and people understood that it was meant in jest. Women then would come back with a retort that they would find just as funny in which men were the butt of the joke. Both sides laughed at each other and then, in male/female couples, walked away hand in hand with smiles on their faces.

Today it isn't so simple. Today, for many people, the same joke is taken as a deep and demeaning insult to their person and to their gender. Tears might break out. Screaming at the sky will take place.

And, IMHO, that's why men and women are growing further and further apart these days. Relationships are becoming impossible to maintain for a decade, let alone a lifetime.

It will be interesting to see if, and how, people will react to this thread.

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2019-12-20 19:02:02 #2


I totally agree. With the advent of so-called 'political correctness', and what's laughingly known as 'hate-speech', people have lost their 'backbone' and turned into complete pussies.

YT took one of my videos down for 'hate-speech' and it only included newspaper clippings, yet some dude on fakestream mockingbird media comes out yesterday and says, 'Let's give Trump a fair trial, then hang him'.

Men used to joke at the expense of women, and women used to give it back tenfold.


I remember one time when I was in class and a male student asked if he could go to the W.C. I said, 'Sure, hang on, you might need this...', and offered him a magnifying glass. Of course, the students couldn't stop laughing, but I noticed the girls laughing much more than the boys.

People need to lighten-up. A joke is a joke when intended as such.

From: Australia New South Wales Sydney @oldghost Time : 2019-12-21 20:53:04 #3

A joke at the expense of another is not much of a joke at all   You may register a big chortlemeter score, but the joke object may not appreciate being the donor. A rib-tickler at your own expense who can object to that!?  Some it seems, because imagined loss of face is frowned on.  Even my own joke Chinese name brings occasional criticism as being demeaning.  For myself I am happy to poke fun at me, but Chinese friends seem to think I should be more dignified. 

In the AFF blog there is an American-Taiwanese woman who regularly on Sundays publishes low class and poor taste jokes which seem to come from a circulating source.  She divides her time between the jokes, rants against China, and rants against Trump.  I'd prefer she didn't lighten up, that would be way too much. 老鬼

From: United States Texas Canyon Lake @YinTingYu Time : 2019-12-22 07:53:37 #4


Hey there Blue Apple ;)  !  Long time. This a very funny thread to me. Let's see,...397 responses,...hmmm. 3+9+7=19,  1+9=10 =1. A ha!  Number 1 signifies "New Beginnings". I guess you'll have to go back to square one. Eeeew, gone it.  No pressure. No superstition. Just the facts mam. Later,

Y.T.Y.   aka Gongji

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2019-12-22 12:23:04 #5


397 was a number out of 'thin-air', but I love your thinking, bro.

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2019-12-22 14:38:59 #6



"A joke at the expense of another is not much of a joke at all  "

I agree. My partner agrees too.


"Chinese friends seem to think I should be more dignified"


I think I understand the sentiment behind this comment. My partner always wants me to be more dignified. In public she wants me to abandon all attempts at humour. (Attempts at humour in private are not a problem) She sees me as a very dignified person until the moment that I attempt to use humour in public. It's not so bad in China because in China she is number one in everyone's eyes and she is the expert with Chinese language and she feels confident that she understands what is going on around her.  However, in Australia, she often worries that my attempt at humour may have caused someone else to lose face and she always hates being the last one to get the joke.


My partner does not extend this restriction to my two brothers and if they attempt a joke at my expense she often politely laughs without understanding what they have said. She believes that I should be big enough to ignore their attempt at a putdown. She is right but sometimes her laughter at something she does not understand from my brothers hits a nerve in me and I can't stop myself from responding.


From: South Africa Western Cape Strand @ernest19wood45 Time : 2019-12-22 19:22:30 #7

@Jon Abbot. I agree with you, chuckle chuckle:D:D(rofl)

From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @JohnAbbot Time : 2019-12-23 06:57:55 #8



Welcome back to two great long time members. Seeing you guys here brought a big smile to my face.

I hope all is going well with you!

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2019-12-23 07:04:07 #9


Causing someone to 'lose face' is not at all funny, and should not be confused with having a laugh at someone else's expense.

There are planty of situations in which one can joke at another's expense, yet not cause them to lose 'face'. Simply put, causing someone to 'lose face' causes them embarassment, and would make them feel uncomfortable in a social situation.

There is a 'line' that never needs to be crossed

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2019-12-23 13:36:56 #10



Every time you have a laugh at someone else's expense loss of face or embarrassment is a possible outcome.



From: China @Aalice Time : 2020-01-10 04:56:06 #11
it's quite interesting to read you guys conversations. thanks
From: United States South Carolina Myrtle Beach @JoeM65 Time : 2020-01-11 00:56:47 #12


I rarely agree with you. But, I thought these jokes were amusing and harmless/nonoffensive. 


What/where is an/the AFF blog?

FYI: Occasionally I still read the forums and blogs (especially the older blogs) to try and be more sensitive to and aware of cross-cultural issues. My fiance (now wife) received her K-1 visa a few months ago.

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2020-01-11 10:18:17 #13


"I thought these jokes were amusing and harmless/nonoffensive."

I agree but the focus of the thread comments changed when Paul added his magnifying glass joke. 

From: Australia New South Wales Sydney @oldghost Time : 2020-01-13 08:21:35 #14

@JoeM65 AFF or AsiaFriendFinder or ChineseFriendFinder or JapanFriendFinder (one and the same) are part of the FriendFinder (Penthouse) Franchise, they started in 1999 at which point I joined. Now blocked in China for the last 5 years. They have been been going downhill for at least 15 years and the Chatrooms there are totally empty.  The blog is somewhere between moribund and rigor mortis.  I maintain a presence there just to stay in touch with old friends.  Definitely not worthwhile joining.

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