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Pursue women or not?

@Anonymous1710 Time : 2017-12-30 13:06:07

I would like an intake from women and men on this.  We are all searching for our Mister or Misses Right on this website.  I believe each woman is different in what she likes, and each man is different on how he goes about pursuing women. 

My questions are: Do Chinese women like to be pursued?  After a woman looks at a man's profile more than once and reads his letter and does nothing, should he pursue her further or should he just move on?  Will this woo her into a meaningful conversation eventually or not?  To pursue, I don't mean to become a pest.  But a nice gentleman's approach to winning her over.  And men, have you found success one way or the other? 

Thanks for your responses!

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From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2017-12-31 16:10:53 #1

I think all women like to be 'wooed', (if I can use that somewhat old-fashioned term).

However, on sites such as this, physical attraction appears to be the #1 most important thing.

That said, there is the old cliche that ' Men like what they see and women like what they hear; that's why women wear make-up, and men lie'

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2018-01-02 08:49:07 #2

To pursue or not pursue? Is that a helpful question?


Before you target any woman on CLM you need to be clear about who you really are and what you really value. Be clear on what you want and what you need and how they differ. We remake ourselves every day – are you remaking yourself in the right direction? The better we can accurately read ourselves, the better we can read others. Our future partner may be on the internet or maybe we will meet them face to face today, tomorrow or later. We must be ready for both ways of connecting.


Make yourself ready and worthy of a great relationship. Start getting the foundations right today!  Every relationship you have right now – with any female or male person is valuable (regardless of their age, culture, intelligence or appearance). Nurture ALL of your current relationships. They all provide you with valuable relationship learning opportunities. Some of your existing relationships eventually need to fade and end because, regardless of your best efforts, they make you unhealthier. Some need nurturing because they make you a healthier human being and move you closer to living your best life.  


When you get these foundations right you will KNOW when it is the right time to pursue.

From: Hong Kong,China Hong Kong Tuen Mun @jellyfish Time : 2018-01-02 21:07:05 #3



I always learn a lot from your perspective. I love what you said. Thank you. Only positioning yourself in the right spot could help you to find the right one. 

Also your reminder of keeping the relationship we have right now, regardless it is with female or male, we learn from it on daily basis. 

I really need to hear your message today as I feel discouraged sometimes in searching. At the same time, I tell myself keep moving. 

Truly love your message. Wise and it contains lot of nuggets in it. Thank you. 

@Anonymous26118 Time : 2018-01-02 21:40:40 #4

@paulfox1......Very funny!  And very true!  Thanks for your comments!

@Anonymous26134 Time : 2018-01-16 23:24:23 #5

never pursue a woman, sho interest in her, let her know you are interested and see what happens. NEVER pursue as she will syphon you dry emotionally and financially!!

@Anonymous26137 Time : 2018-01-28 06:37:18 #6

anonymous26134.....Very good point!  Thanks for responding!

From: United Kingdom Bristol Easton @RobertB Time : 2018-05-05 10:20:01 #7

I think that this entirey depends on if you like her or not. 

If you really like her you will try more than once. Yet if you do it more than three times .. Maybe well she may consider you too boring .. Who knows. In any case maybe she is rude, maybe she is too busy and maybe she just helps you to understand that you both would waste your time. 

It is possible of'course to learn from any encounter and to enjoy any meeting. Irrispective if leading to love, marriage or something like that. In any case you have a chance to learn something about her and about dating, culture and the most important about yourself. 

I keep on saying that if you know yourself you know everything. 

It is because our own ability to handle ourselves is the biggest obstacle to any success in life.

So, challenges reveal this and that about us. 

From: United Kingdom Bristol Easton @RobertB Time : 2018-05-05 10:24:07 #8


I cannot stress strongly enough how well you resonate with my thinking. Yes.. we need to learn more about ourselves so we can be better to others. 

It is all interrelated. You can far easier learn about yourself than about other person but the result is the same. SO .. Yes we are different but .. what we look for will always relate to us because we are the originators of all our actions to say it bluntly and .. for simplicity sake it is true. 

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2018-05-06 00:08:47 #9



Thank you both for your supportive comments. When I read this thread again I started to think about the large number of relationship mistakes that I have made in my life. It took me until my mid-fifties to fully understand and put into practice, the words of my last comment.

@Anonymous26204 Time : 2018-05-14 01:56:54 #10

@RobertB   Thanks RobertB!  I'm the writer of the original thread. 

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