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Old guy being oversensitive

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2018-08-30 16:39:56

I am 66 years old. I sometimes describe myself as an old guy but I don't really mean it. I certainly don't feel old.


I run a community group for up to 50 senior citizens where the average age is 75 years. Some are over ninety. They often refer to me as young.


What is the problem? Last night for the first time in my life I was described as an "old guy" in writing! Last night I went to the local shops just before 9pm closing time.  Because I was in a rush, I didn't take any care with my clothing, shave or comb my hair. My partner would have been ashamed to know that I went to the shop in that state. I am not telling her.


At the last shop, that I went to, I made a single purchase. I carefully put the receipt away and forgot to put the item in my shopping basket. I realized my mistake when I got home. It was too late to fix it. I decided to deal with it the next day, today.


When I went back to the shop today I saw my item behind the cash register. I was pleased. It had a note on it. A young girl was at the counter, not the young guy that served me last night. I said to her that I thought that item was mine. She read the note and then read it out loud "Old guy left this behind last night."


My face must have given away how I was feeling at being called an "Old guy" for the first time. I tried to regain my composure. I smiled a very big, generous smile and said: "Please pass on my thanks to the young twit. Much appreciated." The girl laughed.


As I was already in the local shopping center, I decided to do some more shopping but as I shopped I couldn't help smiling. If my partner knew, she would be ashamed and if my children knew, they would laugh their heads off.


Before anyone else makes the comment, yes the other shoppers probably were wondering "what is that silly old fart smiling about?". While they may have thought it, at least they did not say it or write it down.

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@Anonymous26338 Time : 2018-09-03 22:31:13 #1

I havent been called old man yet except of course by my children in jest. I am several years younger than you but I can see it happening as we become the old ones to the younger ones and the younger ones to the older ones. At least we have the opportunity to get this far. You mention you didnt comb your hair, feel lucky you have some hair to comb lol lol  I am looking forward to your story for the first time someone asks you if you need help crossing the street chuckle chuckle chuckle

signed anonymously at the request of my Chinese woman...


From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @JohnAbbot Time : 2018-09-05 15:15:44 #2


I am roughly a year younger than you, so I think I can generally relate to how you feel. I also don't feel remotely 65, although sometimes when I have forgotten to shave for a few days, a look in the mirror confirms that I am 65.  I am currently residing in a beach town where everyone dresses very casually and it is easy to forget to shave for a few days. But when I clean myself up, put on some decent clothes, and do shave, I can pass easily for 62, maybe even 61. 

But my Chinese wife, who is 55, can on a bad day pass for 45, and when she cleans herself up, which she does almost everyday, she can pass for 35. So when we both are looking our best as opposed to our worst, I go from looking 20 years her senior to looking about 27 years her senior. How can you win?

If you want to feel younger, try hanging around with people who are older. When my father was near the end of his days and slowly succumbing to cancer, I went home to Canada from China to be with him for the last few months. My Folks had a three bedroom apartment in a Seniors complex so I stayed there with them. Most of the residents were in their 70's, 80's or even 90's and I hung out with them on occasion down in the coffee shop, or the big screen viewing room, or bumped into them in the hallways. They got to know me quite well, but as often as not couldn't recall my name. 

So I got quite used to having someone trying to get my attention by calling out "Hey, Kid!" or greeting me by saying "Hi Kid" or "How's it going Kid?". When you've reached the age you and I are sharing, being called kid is a very enjoyable experience. Makes you feel like you're 20.

On another note, could you please check your QQ where I have left a message for you.

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2018-09-05 16:06:23 #3


The dishevelled me with a sore eye and no smile looks 20 years older than the well-groomed and neatly attired version of me. However, like you, it is impossible to look better or younger than my partner.


' I got quite used to having someone trying to get my attention by calling out "Hey, Kid!"' My partner and I are often with people who are ten, twenty and even thirty years older than us. We enjoy that feeling too. We need to fully enjoy that feeling now because it won't last.



From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2018-09-09 12:31:47 #4



" I am looking forward to your story for the first time someone asks you if you need help crossing the street chuckle chuckle chuckle"


Three people rushed to help me cross the street this morning. I was grateful. I was pushing my car across an intersection.

@Anonymous26343 Time : 2018-09-10 23:30:05 #5

Your supposed to drive your car not push it....jeez you are old lol

On a more serious note, it is good to hear there are people who still have moral decency when it comes to helping out others...good on the people who helped you. I have made the effort to hold open doors for older men and women but this year I have also made a point of holding open doors for SJW women, goth women, Feminists and militant feminists, I get told to "phuck off" alot by the fems and militant fems lol, talk about miserable creatures. I just smile at them and continue on with my "goins on" 

Last week I help an older gentleman pull the walking cart out of his car trunk he was so pleased he tried to give me money for doing so. I politely refused his offer and walked with him to the store entrance. He told me the hardest and most scariest thing for older folks to do is cross streets, he gets honked at, yelled at by the drivers for being slow and holding up the traffic.(probably feminists lol) In China they would have just been run over by drivers.....

From: Australia New South Wales Sydney @oldghost Time : 2018-10-09 11:18:04 #6


In China and in Weixin I get variously Yéyé shūshu,dàgē,shūzǔ
jiàofù 爷爷,大叔,叔叔,大哥,叔祖 grandpa uncle, big brother, granduncle

The Chinese assistant at the local supermarket calls me dage 大哥. Some of the older shop assistants call me darl' and I call myself 'curmudgeon'. Old chap and old fart are occasionally heard too.   

An ex-student from Liaoning sends me videos of her little son Chinese singing nursery rhymes to 'yeye' since I function more or less as jiàofù 教父 or godfather.

Whichever appellation is used, at 73, they are aprropriate enough, and unlike melcyan, old arthritic bones tell me I am indeed old.




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