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@Jaguarguy
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2013-07-24 20:51:04
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@anonymous6701
Good question and I have no problem answering it. First off there are many many attractive Chinese women everywhere you look but my purpose from the time I signed onto CLM in 2009 was to find the best woman I could to be my wife. Also, I am not young, well young in heart and mind but not in age as I am over 50 so I am very serious in what I want. I had spent almost 11 months talking daily on Skype and Yahoo Messenger with her so I wasn't there for additional opportunities I was there to spend time with her. While most of the women I saw who were attractive also wore makeup and I preferred her natural beauty above all.
I have read on CLM over the years about many a man visiting China and visiting 2-3 women to "see" which one is the best (see=have sex with). I personally believe this is game playing BS and that person isn't serious about marriage. If the person you are talking too gives you doubt then she is probably not the right one for you. Im a realist and feel there are always signs, if they are good ones you will know, if they are red flags (common reference in the US) then move on but don't play games.
If you want to go to China and play because there are so many beautiful women than I say enjoy as I am sure there are many "fun" women out there. If your on CLM because you have a Asian female fantasy then go play but don't lead a woman on who is seriously looking for a stable loving relationship and a life partner.
Whats funny is my girl said she hoped I wouldn't look at too many other beautiful women while I was visiting her but for me there was no one as beautiful as her. I know it sounds mushy but hey, all things led to this so that's how I feel. Oh and by the way I had a past online relationship with someone on CLM in 2009-10 that ended because I couldn't get to China fast enough to complete the paperwork and get her, along with her son, back to the US before her son turned 18.
I have talked with a few other women, heck even one who is a blogger here who thought my intensions were not true to finding marriage (guess she was wrong). I have talked with female "players", scammers and those who were nice but I didn't feel they were what I truly wanted.
I will close with this, if you are serious about what you want in a marriage (remember you can't bring her back here to date her you MUST marry her. Then seek this kind of woman, put what your looking for on your profile, stick to this first and foremost. Look past the beauty and see what the person really seems to be. I also think you need at least 3-6 months of conversing daily before making a trip. Its not cheap to go stay in China even for 2 weeks so make sure you know what you want first and foremost.
Hope this kind of explains, at least, my view on this.