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My China trip, update.

From: United States Arizona Tempe @Jaguarguy Time : 2013-07-21 02:34:11
So here is a quick (haha) breakdown on my 10 day trip to Nanchang (Nanjing). Being an American the first thing I noticed when arriving in Shanghai after 15 hours of plane rides is I am now the minority. Not a problem as everyone from the customs and immigration people at the airport to the counter people at the Westin were very nice. The accommodations in the hotel were also very nice (just like the US) though I and my friend only slept there one evening as we headed off to the airport first thing in the morning to fly to Nanchang.

The smaller airport was more local than Pudong International and it showed. Everyone in the airport looked at me and I mean everyone, to the point I almost felt I was walking around naked (which would have scared most everyone, lol). Again, everyone was nice but having her with me was an asset since she spoke the language and I didn't.

Once we landed in Nanchang I got my first taste of Chinese taxi cab drivers. This in its self is an experience anyone not from China should try once in there life. Coming from Chicago (originally) I have dealt with crazy traffic but not crazy taxi cab drivers. I could talk about this for an hour but lets just say for me at some points it was like being on a scary amusement park ride, LOL.

I stayed at a 4+ star hotel in downtown (old downtown) Nanchang. Very nice but older accommodations, everyone there (waitress, concierge, maid service) were all very nice but spoke some limited English. Again being with someone who spoke the language made it simple. Before my next trips I will learn more Mandarin and what would have helped this time.

So some of my concerns which I mentioned in the last thread I will address now.

First off I had little to no jet lag. I did have some for the first couple days I returned but nothing while there. I did set my phone (which only wi fi worked on) to local time along with my watches and slept at night there so I think this helped.

Money wasn't an issue as I exchanged $500 US at the airport so I had plenty RMB's while there. Other items which needed a card I used my Visa with no problems.

I had no issue with toilet paper or toilets but really never went to the bathroom while we were out.

As far as the food went, I enjoyed so many things I cant even remember them all. I ate everything (no Mc Donalds, KFC or Pizza Hut for me) and while experiencing Hot Pot I wasn't overwhelmed with spicy food at all. I did find the food very rich and could not eat as much as I do in the US but was just as full. I have been back a week now and really miss the Chinese food and even using chopsticks at every meal.

I was rather shocked at the generality of the clothes as it compared to the US. I didn't really feel like I was in another country when it came to that, pretty much everything we have here is the same there but with Chinese price tags instead of US ones.

There habit of drinking warm water and the portion and glass sizes I had to get used too but overall I didn't feel this was that much different than the US. I plan on returning for Christmas and New Years as the K1 Visa process does take almost a year and what could be better than celebrating the holidays with my future wife and her family.

I want to again thank those who provided advise and answers to my questions in my last thread, it was appreciated.
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From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @JohnAbbot Time : 2013-07-21 17:19:00 #1
@JaguarGuy - Congratulations on a great trip and what was obviously a very successful first meeting. We look forward to posting your Success Story in the not too distant future.
@Anonymous6701 Time : 2013-07-23 08:16:54 #2
@Jaguarguy - I would like to ask you a question about your China trip, but I don't want to be disrespectful to you or your future wife. You have just experienced the scenario I have been wondering about for years. You are new to China with your bride-to-be on your arm...but you are a man. At any point did you look around and get overwhelmed by the "sea of opportunity" of women?
From: China 江西(jiang xi) 南昌(nan chang ) @hellen1020 Time : 2013-07-23 22:36:26 #3
Hi ,welcome to China,welcome to Nanchang ,I am also live in Nanchang ,so I know it is very hot weather here ,hope you felt ok in your trip .
And ,congratulations on your ,this is a good start to your relationship, I wish you two will be happiness for even .
From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @ivyfairytale Time : 2013-07-24 09:56:20 #4
From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @ivyfairytale Time : 2013-07-24 09:58:22 #5
hi,it's really great! and looking forward your next trip!
From: China 四川(si chuan) 德阳(de yang ) @prana Time : 2013-07-24 11:56:57 #6
From: United States Arizona Tempe @Jaguarguy Time : 2013-07-24 20:51:04 #7
Good question and I have no problem answering it. First off there are many many attractive Chinese women everywhere you look but my purpose from the time I signed onto CLM in 2009 was to find the best woman I could to be my wife. Also, I am not young, well young in heart and mind but not in age as I am over 50 so I am very serious in what I want. I had spent almost 11 months talking daily on Skype and Yahoo Messenger with her so I wasn't there for additional opportunities I was there to spend time with her. While most of the women I saw who were attractive also wore makeup and I preferred her natural beauty above all.

I have read on CLM over the years about many a man visiting China and visiting 2-3 women to "see" which one is the best (see=have sex with). I personally believe this is game playing BS and that person isn't serious about marriage. If the person you are talking too gives you doubt then she is probably not the right one for you. Im a realist and feel there are always signs, if they are good ones you will know, if they are red flags (common reference in the US) then move on but don't play games.

If you want to go to China and play because there are so many beautiful women than I say enjoy as I am sure there are many "fun" women out there. If your on CLM because you have a Asian female fantasy then go play but don't lead a woman on who is seriously looking for a stable loving relationship and a life partner.

Whats funny is my girl said she hoped I wouldn't look at too many other beautiful women while I was visiting her but for me there was no one as beautiful as her. I know it sounds mushy but hey, all things led to this so that's how I feel. Oh and by the way I had a past online relationship with someone on CLM in 2009-10 that ended because I couldn't get to China fast enough to complete the paperwork and get her, along with her son, back to the US before her son turned 18.

I have talked with a few other women, heck even one who is a blogger here who thought my intensions were not true to finding marriage (guess she was wrong). I have talked with female "players", scammers and those who were nice but I didn't feel they were what I truly wanted.

I will close with this, if you are serious about what you want in a marriage (remember you can't bring her back here to date her you MUST marry her. Then seek this kind of woman, put what your looking for on your profile, stick to this first and foremost. Look past the beauty and see what the person really seems to be. I also think you need at least 3-6 months of conversing daily before making a trip. Its not cheap to go stay in China even for 2 weeks so make sure you know what you want first and foremost.

Hope this kind of explains, at least, my view on this.
From: China 广东(guang dong) 阳江(yang jiang ) @99moonriver Time : 2013-07-25 17:11:18 #8

I admire u for ur heart n the way u looking for a Asian wife.

Good wishes to u n ur lucky lady.
From: China 湖北(hu bei) 武汉(wu han ) @Aimeen Time : 2013-07-26 07:42:34 #9
Agree you!
From: China 陕西(shan xi) 咸阳(xian yang ) @yanchang Time : 2013-07-27 16:48:12 #10
i m working at shanghai for almost 6years , i think i knew better than you of the airport of shanghai . as the new pudong airport , i have got and sent a lots group of my foreigner clients... most people are looking on me but my clients , you may so nervous of been china.
its hard to travel in person to some strange country, dont trust anyone but police , you will be fine dear .
From: China 河南(he nan) 平顶山(ping ding shan ) @jessicacui Time : 2013-07-30 12:43:06 #11
hey, i think you are right. and i have met a man who was serious about marriage with me. i could feel it. but because of something, he disappeared. why is our love so fragile?
From: China 北京(bei jing) 北京(bei jing) @springflower06 Time : 2013-08-02 01:47:57 #12

“Sea of opportunity” sometimes means “none opportunity “. Since you never ever stop looking around and expect that the next will be much better than the previous. In my view, your attitude towards looking for a partner is totally wrong. Especially, you will lose yourself in the end and cannot catch any fish in the sea.


I totally agree with your attitude and manners in terms of looking for a serious relationship.
Firstly, congratulate you on finding your girl on CLM and enjoyed your trip in China.
Also, as you mentioned that some men visited to China in order to visit 2-3 women to "see" which one is the best (see=have sex with). Personally, I agree with your opinion that this is game playing and that person isn't serious about marriage.
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