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Marriage and Money

From: United States Illinois Wauconda @chimikey Time : 2016-12-12 12:05:38

I lived in China for a year.. love the culture and the women...  after being back in the state for 2 years  I realize how much I miss it, I've decide that I want to marry a chinese woman,  I always here of these rich chinese women looking for forgien men... how can I find one??


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From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @JohnAbbot Time : 2016-12-16 04:14:16 #1

@chimikey - I strongly suspect that most rich Chinese women feel the same way as most rich Western men. When they see someone advertising that their primary interest in meeting them and developing a relationship is their money, they turn the other way and run. 

Of course there may be some who are so desparate that they don't care if you're only in it for the money, but then I have to wonder why a woman with so much money is so desparate. Chances are you'd find yourself in a relationship with no upside ad a lot of groveling to do for every dime you gained.

Just saying...

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2016-12-16 12:48:32 #2


@chimikey

You said :- I've decide that I want to marry a chinese woman,  I always here of these rich chinese women looking for forgien men... how can I find one??

 

The answer, my friend, is simple. You can find as many as you wish on the Holodeck of the Starship Enterprise.

From: United States Texas Canyon Lake @YinTingYu Time : 2016-12-16 15:28:19 #3

@chimiki Hello Brother.

I'm responding because I have had the same inclination to find a Chinese lady that was financially secure. Maybe even rich by Chinese standards. Heck,...if you really want to find a good and true partner for rest of days,...why not have her be wealthy ?? I understand, but it does not always work out this way.

Lets take a look at it in more detail. If you want to find a wealthy lady of any race you must start to think in terms of where her intrests might lead her. There is a certain "connection" that exists between money and the appreciation of culture. I suggest the museums, the libraries, the traditional concert halls both Western and Asian. It will take some time for sure but through "networking" I sense you will be able to find. Buddy,...it will take some foot work and trial and error. The financially secure or rich in any culture have the same tendencies ie.,...the appreciation of heritage, art, and culture seems to be a valid place to begin. Perhaps there are a few such "Societies" you might be able to join ?? Also, I have seen several Youtube videos where wealthy women have gone to try and meet a good male partner. I can't name them now but it might be worth some investigation. To me, they seemed like an afternoon of "High Speed Dating" (introduction). Don't like it but,...who knows ?? These are the ponds I would try to fish in.

Another thing,...I suggest that you pay close attention to what John Abbot has written to you. Don't go after the lady in question for only money reasons. Give yourself some time and try to make sure that your future together will be well planned and happy. Best suggestions I can give you.

Take care Scorpio Brother. If you celebrate the end of year holidays,...hope you have some good ones.

Latcho Drom (safe journey),

Gongji, Y.T.Y.

Anonymous25519
@Anonymous25519 Time : 2016-12-20 13:25:58 #4

How much money is rich ? 

Anonymous25520
@Anonymous25520 Time : 2016-12-20 23:28:38 #5

@chimiki, you pose an interesting question one definitely worth commenting on. Even though alot of men here won't admit it we all know that women in general prefer to end up with a rich man, alot of women here are looking for that as well...we call them "gold diggers" most men try hard to avoid these types of women as we want to be loved for who we are inside not for our wallet. Do we always succeed in avoiding these women...NO! Women are masters at hiding their real intentions for the most part, far superior to us men. 

My point to you is as follows: if you have to ask where are the rich ones and how can you find one, it means you don't run with that type of crowd and don't know how to spot it as well. If you meet a rich Chnese woman you will be playing with a fire breathing viper, you will be the token western husband and basic "arm candy" for her, you will also be controlled 24/7. Just like their male counterparts, these women are pursued relentlessly and can spot "you" from miles away.

Hopefully if you do find one she turns out to be the "diamond in the rough" and is truly looking for a western husband to love and be loved by and that you are truly looking for a loving relationship not just the money and being a boytoy. 

Have you ever stopped to think of how Chinese women become "rich"?

Cheers.......

Anonymous25523
@Anonymous25523 Time : 2016-12-22 06:23:08 #6

Getting ready to marry the girl I met here on CLM. Plan to get out of the stock market and invest in gold in silver as many economists, Rep. Paul and various billionaires are divesting their stocks and mutual funds. Plan to buy an apartment for my lovely wife and I in southern China near my mother-in-law who'll live in her apartment near the university where she teachs. I own a home in the US too. Thanks CLM for bringing us together.

Anonymous25529
@Anonymous25529 Time : 2016-12-24 06:39:44 #7

On a scammer site I met women (translators) who were making far too many sexually explicit remarks They would write about how they were millionaires and would make me president of their companies or private universities. Right, who wants to be a kept man and have a sugar mama? On this site I chatted with a woman who is a businesswomen who makes over $100,000 a year. I'm just a university teacher. She has a personal trainer, likes to buy top of the line purses, eat expensive meals and owns a home and car. I bit too high maintenace for me. But I was telling her that money isn't the most important thing in the world. "The love of money is the root of all kinds of evil." But she likes her lifestyle and creature comforts. Many leftover women here have focused on their careers and now realize that it's reallly not that important. Now they want to get married and have children. Their only alternative is foreign men.

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2016-12-25 13:29:02 #8


@Anonymous25529

You wrote:- Many leftover women here have focused on their careers and now realize that it's reallly not that important. Now they want to get married and have children. Their only alternative is foreign men.

 

That's mostly because Chinese men can't accept the fact that their wife earns more money than they do. Crazy!

From: China 广东(guang dong) 深圳(shen zhen ) @Juanler Time : 2016-12-25 13:56:24 #9


@JohnAbbot(sweat)(sweat)(sweat)(whew)(whew)(whew)I want to say is, I'm particularly unhappy today, a man said I was too young and beautiful, so let him no sense of security, so I don't know what to say. Because in this Christmas, I want to want to become more old and ugly? I think maybe he have more need of money.

From: New Zealand Hawke's Bay Napier @faithfulandtrue Time : 2016-12-25 17:57:27 #10

It might be tempting to want to find a 'rich woman' (and as someone else pointed out, what is 'rich'?), but I agree that a rich woman is very likely to be a cold, hard-nosed business tycoon kind of person, who is a) unlikely to give a toss about western culture and b) expect you to obey her without question. After spending 2.5 years in China, having a couple of very different GFs (one of whom was moderately 'rich'), and having trolled through many profiles on this site and another one, my conclusion is that 99% of Chinese women are unsuitable to marry western men. Now, if you don't mind ditching everything you have grown up with a living as a Chinese man (perish the thought!), then you're all good. But if you think for a moment that the bulk of Chinese women, 'poor' or 'rich', have any real understanding of what it mean to be married to a true-blood, free-thinking western man, you're in for a rude, rude shock. Having said all that, my disclaimer is that I'm a "serial noncomformist", which generally puts me at odds with not only 1.4 billion Chinese people, but also the bulk of the western world who are every bit as controlled and as mindless sheep as Chinese people are, but just in a different way. Don't believe me? Try going out with friends from work and telling them that you don't drink and don't like the taste of alchol. After the derisive laughter and a scoffing subsides, follow that up with saying you believe small government is better than intrusive socialism, and that the green agenda is a serious threat to our way of life, and you will soon find out just how "free thinking" westerners are. Which is to say, of course, that they aren't . Gold cage, anyone?

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2016-12-26 08:30:21 #11

@Juanier

Say thank you. He is not right for you and he has saved you from wasting time on him. His problems are not your problems. Next! I wish you well in your search for a worthy man who is a match for you.

 

From: United States Illinois Wauconda @chimikey Time : 2016-12-28 01:17:58 #12

Thank you all for the suggestions and advise, maybe I should say I wanting a  wife that has a good carrer...  meaning, I'm a civil employee, barely enough money for me, so.. 

From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2016-12-29 15:15:24 #13


@faithfulandtrue

I could not agree more, my friend. Excellent post!

 

From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @JohnAbbot Time : 2016-12-30 11:07:17 #14

@Juanler - I don't know exactly the circumstances of the person who said he was too old for you, but for example, your are 37 years old and I am 63 years old. I am already married, but if I was single I too would feel you are too young for me. Frankly I would likely feel that way if I was 53 and you were 37. It just seems to me to be unfair for a man to marry someone that much his junior.

It is almost inevitable that I would die many, many years ahead of you. If we loved each other deeply, then I would most likely be leaving you alone, lonely and sad for those many, many years to come. Better to cut it off before we even come to love one another and let you find a man you can love deeply for the entire remainder of your life, or at least most of it.

Whether you agree with this thinking or not, you should not be hurt or offended by it. Right or wrong he very likely had your best interests at heart. Time to move on and find someone who fits you in every way. This man did not.

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