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Dry wit and Barry

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2018-05-24 15:57:41

Barry, we both could watch the film “Life of Brian” or an episode of the Simpsons and we would both laugh but we would not laugh the same for each moment. How we differed in our reaction would be directly related to our individual sense of humour. It is pointless for you or me  to say we have a better sense of humour than the other but I notice that you keep trying.

When I made the following comment on one of your blogs - "My youngest son, 25 years old, told me today that I have aged a lot in the last 5 years. He says I have lost more hair and what remains has much more grey in it. Maybe I will get younger when he leaves home." - there was no reaction to the humour of the comment from you.

It was outside your sphere of understanding because you have not had children. That is not a problem. It is what it is. I would say that about  a half of my humorous comments on CLM pass without acknowledgement of their humour and like this one they are not meant for everyone. That does not bother me in the slightest.

My humour would definitely be classified as dry wit. I don’t need to get a reaction. It doesn’t bother me if I don’t get a response. It does bother you. On that basis I have my doubts that your humor is dry humour. It seems to me to be far too manufactured. Dry humour (delivered without changing expression) tends to be creative on the spot humour that adds a new relevant insight on the present moment.

Some dry humour can even hurt you if you laugh at it. One of my daughter’s ex-boyfriends did not survive laughing at a dad-joke. He was gone within a week. My daughter used to work as a manager for a small trendy shoe store. Her work was reviewed on a regular basis. On one occasion she was expecting a faultless review. She in fact scored an impressive 105% but was given a list of 5 things she needed to improve. 

She was letting anger out in front of me and her boyfriend. She said it was insane that they could rate her at 105%, yet find all these things that she needed to improve. My response was “Sarah, Sarah, Sarah, haven’t I always told you to give 110%?.”

The boyfriend stood there laughing.

Sarah found a good-bye on her lips

and he laughed no more.

Over to you @Barry1

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From: Australia Queensland Brisbane @Barry1 Time : 2018-05-25 14:30:46 #1



"The boyfriend stood there laughing.

Sarah found a good-bye on her lips

and he laughed no more."


Thanks for your thoughts, Melcyan. It seems I made a serious error of judgement.  It was YOUR DAUGHTER who lacks a good sense of humour! :D


Anyway, let's let sleeping dogs lie.  Let's not get our feathers ruffled. Let's let all the chickens come home to roost, just as they should.  Don't you just love mixed metaphors!  :)


In all seriousness, talking of love, let me advise that we all should go forward with nothing but love and goodwill in our hearts at all times. Don't you just hate people who aren't like this though, thinking that they are real dickheads!  (giggle)


By the way, did you hear about the motorist who was happily chatting on the phone when suddenly a police officer on a motorbike pulled up and motioned that the driver pull over?  "Sorry officer, I can't do this now - I'm on the phone!" he yelled out the window!   :D


What about the little old lady who kept phoning up the local telephone office, complaining annoyingly about nuisance calls, at least fifty times per day. But the only answer she'd ever receive from them was, "Not you again!"  (clap)


My final comment concerns the big problem faced by the young guy who kept visiting the local army clothing store to purchase some camouflage shirts and shorts. But all he kept saying after every fruitless visit was , "I can't ever find them!"   (rofl)


Good on you, Melcyan. You are indeed a mighty and upstanding man amongst many mighty, upstanding men who happily inhabit this website! Have a beer on me! (beer)






From: Canada British Columbia Vancouver @Imi5922 Time : 2018-05-26 10:11:19 #2


Now, that was funny. You made me laugh. Thanks.

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2018-05-27 10:20:37 #3

@Barry1 - Someone with a great sense of humour does not waste their time repeatedly telling others that they do not have a sense of humour. 

From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @JohnAbbot Time : 2018-05-27 12:16:30 #4

In my experience 2 people can each have a "great sense of humor". Each of them can consistently come up with many humorous comments, rejoinders or personal anecdotes that bring their friends, family and acquaintances to reactions ranging from broad smiles to fits of laughter. If they are writers or public personalities, then their humor pleases a broader audience of followers.

And yet, should they meet and indulge in conversation, or find themselves reading each others writings, neither one can find a single hint of humor in the musings or writing of the other, as much as they might earnestly try.

In order to share the same humor, two people have to come from "the same place" or at least close to the same place, be that related to culture, education, occupation, age, religion, spirituality, geography, politics, gender, finances, parenting, etc, etc, etc. There does not have to be commonality as to all of those criteria, but there does need to be commonality relating to at least a few of them, or they will never hit the same mark when it comes to humor.

Likewise, their biggest fans must come from a similar place in at least a few of the critieria, to find them funny, and the followers of one will not likely always also see the humor of the other to be funny, but sometimes they may "get" the humor of the one they do not follow.

In this instance it would seem that, in spite of both apparently being born and raised Australians, Barry and Melcyan seem to not come from the same place.

So what? Shit happens... 

From: Australia Queensland Brisbane @Barry1 Time : 2018-05-27 15:07:11 #5





"In this instance it would seem that, in spite of both apparently being born and raised Australians, Barry and Melcyan seem to not come from the same place."


You're correct, John.


Melcyan is an upper class patrician.  A high breed of character, no doubt with a noble, Romaneque nose.


Au contraire, I am more of a plebeian, a lower caste member of society.


So even though geographically we live in the same country, we may as well come from different planets.


So please stop complaining about my awkward sense of humour, Melcyan.  And I'll reciprocate. Let's just accept that's what is fuinny to me, you find nil humour in.  And vice versa.


Sounds like a fair deal, yes?  :^)


To digress, did you hear the story about the  girl who went to the doctor with her knees all cut up.

The doctor said, "What happened to your knees?"

She replied, "It's from making too much love, doggie-style."

The doctor asked, "Don't you know any other position besides doggie style?"

She said, "Yeah...but my doggie doesn't."   (rofl)(rofl)



From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2018-05-27 16:11:37 #6


 I agree with your last comment. Your words make perfect sense to me.

There have been times when Barry is the subject of his humour or the target is general that I found his words funny. Other times - no, not funny. Again this supports your words.

 However, having read your words carefully my next comment to Barry still remains unchanged.

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2018-05-27 16:37:12 #7


I can read Imi, Ryan and Roger fairly well through their writing. They write with sufficient clarity that it is possible to speculate on their thoughts and values with a reasonable degree of accuracy. Maybe reading people is a problem for you? Could that be why you wear so many masks

- humour / prankster

-victim / blamer

- effusive complimenter

-good cop

-bad cop

-devil's advocate


-controversy creator / views chaser


Honesty does not appear to be your strongest suit. When the spotlight of truth is shone in your direction you duck for cover very quickly by mouthing a torrent of compliments followed immediately by an appeal to let bygones be bygones and let’s all move on.

From: Australia Queensland Brisbane @Barry1 Time : 2018-05-30 13:46:12 #8



"Honesty does not appear to be your strongest suit."

Wow, Melcyan - that observation gave me the best belly laugh I've had for a long time.  Thank you for making it!


You also asked,

"Maybe reading people is a problem for you? Could that be why you wear so many masks..."

My reply to this is it's gratifying that you find me unpredicatble. Banality and boredom are characteristics that don't sit well with me.


Let me thank you for your perceptive comments, Melcyan. Never again should I say that you don't happily possess an extraordinarily keen, sardonic wit - most especially when you're trying to be serious! (rofl)(rofl)(rofl)

From: China @autumn2066 Time : 2018-06-01 22:25:29 #9

melcyan to Barry1: Wait! you are wrong again! (shake)(shake)(wait)(talk)(talk)

Barry1 to melcyan: Shut up! You think you are much wiser than all of us? :^):^)(ninja)(ninja)(punch)

melcyan to Barry1: No, I mean your rude words has hurt my ego. I do think I have my own way of humor.....8-|8-|:^):^)(angel)(angel)(talk)(talk)(talk)

Barry1 to melcyan: You hurt me first! You deserve!(mooning)(mooning)(finger)(finger)(punch)(punch)

melcyan to Barry1: You are crazy! (envy)(puke)(puke)(fubar)(headbang):@(devil)(devil)(punch)

Barry1 to melcyan: My pleasure! Thanks! Welcome~~ (rofl)(rofl)(clap)(party)(poolparty)8)

Passers-by (吃瓜群众):Wow, what happened ??? (think)(think)|(|(

JohnAbbot to melcyan and Barry1: I told you. The two meet, shit happens.(shake)(shake) |-)|-)|-)




@melcyan  @Barry1

I think it is quite common in social, some people we like them very much, some we don't. There is not right or wrong, just following one's nature feeling and react spontaneously. People could adjust the distance from each ohter, if they don't feel comfortable nor happy with each other's way. It is not necessary to criticize or even attack other people, and if other people make it clear that they don't need our suggestion, we should just keep silence. Anyway, nobody is perfect nor has a stone heart, everyone has his own pain points and bomb fuse which we should learn from conversation and try not to touch it next time.

Ignoring is a polite way of keeping distance, while fighting usually means that you two do care about each ohter and want each ohter to be improved.:)

Simple, make a choise. :D 

And if you two don't feel comfortable about my suggestion, fine, I am sorry,I will keep silence while you two fighting next time.:P



From: Australia Queensland Brisbane @Barry1 Time : 2018-06-02 17:39:56 #10



" I told you.The two meet, shit happens"


Very funny writing, thank you, Autumn2066. I can see you have a great sense of humour! :D:D


"if other people make it clear that they don't need our suggestion, we should just keep silence."


Exactly correct!  I've been trying to ask Melcyan to please stop criticising me so much. Not relating to just what he's said recently, but when looked at over the past two or three years. There would have been four critical posts to every one positive one concerning me, an 80/20 ratio. At the very least, I would have hoped for a 50/50.  I don't mind constructive criticism, as long as it's reasonably balanced out later on.


"fighting usually means that you two do care about each other"


Yes, I do care about Melcyan.  He's a highly intelligent ex-vice principal of a school, and his usually scholarly, rather sober attitude reflects this.


I tend to be more flippant and sometimes provocative. "Good cop, bad cop" as Melcyan describes.  In my view though, this is better than being a "boring cop".  (wasntme)


But when I attempt to commend or praise Melcyan - or anyone else that I may have inadvertently offended -  he replies with comments such as


"Honesty does not appear to be your strongest suit.......  you duck for cover very quickly by mouthing a torrent of compliments"


So it seems I can't win.


Though as John Abbot would say, "Who cares, shit happens"   :)


Thank you, @Autumn2066. (f)(f)(f)



From: China @QinQL Time : 2018-06-02 21:39:20 #11

@autumn2066 英文不错👍 懂了你第二段的意思。第一段看去有趣,但没能明白。可以写上来第一段的中文吗?

From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2018-06-03 09:40:58 #12


Thank you very much for your concern. I will give you a more detailed response when the weekend is over and I have more time. Cheers, melcyan.

From: China @autumn2066 Time : 2018-06-03 18:12:34 #13



From: China @autumn2066 Time : 2018-06-03 18:13:45 #14


Thanks. Regard.:)

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