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From: Canada British Columbia Vancouver @Imi5922 Time : 2015-12-05 01:50:37

"Padre, I hate my partner! We fight all the time, but she doesn't want to leave."

"Are you two married?"

"No, we are not, but we've been together for a long time. It's always been a rocky, on and off relationship. Padre, my thoughts are very bad. I'm thinking about hurting her."

"No, Son, don't do that! Hurting is not the solution here. Hurting someone is a sin."

"Yes, I know, but I don't know what else I could do. She's very controlling. Sometimes, she shows up at my work, too, making me embarrassed in front of my workmates . . . There is something else that I have to confess. I met a girl online. She's from China"

"Did you tell your partner?"

"Yes, I did. It was the day before I went to visit my girlfriend in China, and you know what, she got pissed about it and left. I was very happy. Then, I went to China, and I spent two amazing weeks with my girlfriend. She made me forget about her. We visited sites in her hometown in the daytime, and at nighttime, we made love."

"You made love to a girl you've never met before? Before marriage?"

"Yes, Padre. I'm a weak man. She was like an angel. Beautiful black hair, like the night sky. Slim, beautiful legs. And she had made me feel like I was a man just by looking into my eyes with the darkest pair of eyes I had ever seen in my entire life. I was lost in them. I had never felt that before. I felt that we were what we were supposed to be. A woman and a man, coming together and becoming a whole."

"Then, what is the problem? Why do you want to hurt your partner if she had already left?"

"When I returned from China, I opened the door to my apartment, and there she was, staring into my face. Padre, do you watch TV?"

"Yes, sometimes."

"I saw this news about an elephant, once, that had trampled a man to death. They had shown how it happened. The elephant, simply, stepped on its handler's head and smashed it as (if) it was a mere watermelon. My memories of the two weeks that I spent in China was smashed like that man's head when I opened the door. My partner was back and has never left since then, and she has even gotten worse–more controlling."

"Son, as I said, hurting is not the solution here. Do you mind if I talked to her?"

"Actually, she's here."

"Where? Outside?"

"No, here, with me, in the confessional."

"So, she heard everything that we talked about?"

"Yes, Padre."

"Oh. How are you, miss?"

"Oh, no. She can't answer you."

"Why not?"

"Because she can't speak."

"Is she mute?"

"No, Padre. She can only scream and yell and shout, especially, at nighttime. That's the way she communicates"

"Oh. I'm sorry to hear that. What's her name?"



"Yes. Loneliness–of the long-distance dater."

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From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @JohnAbbot Time : 2015-12-06 20:05:35 #1
@Imi5922 - this is an interesting thread Imi. I'm not sure why you didn't post it on your Blog, and I am also not sure how many of the Chinese ladies will get the reference to the "Confessional", but it is certainly relevant to online dating and it will be interesting to see how people respond.
From: China 山东(shan dong) 济宁(ji ning ) @paulfox1 Time : 2015-12-07 13:31:40 #2


@Anonymous23690 Time : 2015-12-07 20:36:02 #3
Good article, (clap)
I think that confession man knew where are his weak points,
he just want someone else understand and share with. :)

I guess Padre would tell him that
"do not be so melancholy and fear, you got what you liked, open your mind, the sunshine would light your heart."

From my view, I like to take all of negative things to get sunshine when I can, however, people need move forward for the life , right?

From: China 广东(guang dong) 广州(guang zhou ) @Grace172 Time : 2015-12-08 23:47:54 #4
Wow, really an attractive article, I saw light suddenly at the end of the story. You are a great writer! And it can be a good fift for your Chinese gf. (f) Thank you for sharing.
From: Australia Queensland Brisbane @Barry1 Time : 2015-12-09 17:36:07 #5

What a great little story, Imi.

I think everyone who reads it would think as we all do here and commend you for a wonderful, thought provoking and oh-so-true parable.

Well done! (y)
From: Canada British Columbia Vancouver @Imi5922 Time : 2015-12-10 22:51:37 #6

Grace what a nice surprise to see you here! We all miss your comments! I hope you are well! Thank you for your comments!


Thank you for your comments! It seems I'm on a winning streak. Two good comments from you in a row, praising my blog and now this forum thread? I'm on the roll:)
From: China @QinQL Time : 2015-12-19 00:44:36 #7

Haha, you gave us a surprise result who she was at the end of the story! So true that she and you both should come to the confessional. Ask a help to reduce fighting and try to find ways to enjoy staying together. Then it is most possible that she also would help you become stronger instead of staying in being weak.
No one is perfect. Everybody has to keep learning. Fortunately, learning is one of human’s natures. It means everyone would enjoy learning if finding some interests or needs in life from there. The key is how we could find interests or needs if we have to company with loneliness in our life. You found the needs, we found the interests from your story.
I very much appreciate your wonderful sharing.
@Anonymous23738 Time : 2015-12-20 13:29:45 #8
当我看到这个最新帖子 "Confession",使我想起一部电影"赎罪", 来自一个宽裕的英国小康家庭的13岁的少女布里奥妮刚刚开始尝试写作,想象力丰富。一天,她暗中发现仆人的儿子——罗比•特纳和她姐姐塞西利亚之间有暧昧关系,而且发现他给她写了一封充满情色意味的情书。布里奥妮丰富的想象力虚构着各种可怕的事情,浮想联翩。当她的表姐罗拉被强奸后,布里奥妮相当肯定她看到是罗比做的,这次指证使罗比蒙冤入狱,留下伤心欲绝的塞西利亚。
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