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Anonymous1590

Chinese women are selfish

@Anonymous1590 Time : 2016-06-22 22:17:25

I am curious to know why Chinese women are for the most part extremely selfish in a relationship be it bf/gf or husband/wife. For the most part I have found almost an ambivilance to the commitment in a relationship from Chinese women. Long distance relationships is where they really show this selfish "me me me" attitude, it almost seems they do not care about the man as long as they get or do what ever they want no matter the damage done.



I can say that most western women I have been invovled with and from what I have seen or heard are so busy trying to emasculate their man they dont ignore them in this fashion...



Opinions from guys and gals most welcomed....


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From: China 广东(guang dong) 湛江(zhan jiang ) @Kittyzx2015 Time : 2016-06-24 08:21:47 #1
请不要一竿子打翻一船的人!!!

关于选择女人

你选择了漂亮的女人,你就要接受她的花费;你选择了能干独立的女人,你得接受她的霸道和不讲理; 你选择了赚钱的女人,你得接受她的不顾家;你选择顾家的女人,你得接受她的没赚钱:你选择了坚强勇敢的女人,你得接受她的固执任性;你选择了理性的女人,你得接受她的算计; 你选择了听话的女人,你得接受她的没主见!...........

否者的话你要中国女人在当今的时代如何活下去!!!

中国女人这个主要的群体内有千千万万的个体,而每一个体的个性各异,互相没有共性,不能因为某个或某些个体的某些劣性,而放大到整个群体当中!
你如果喜欢亚洲女性的话,可以试试日本女性的呀!!!
没有必要在一棵树上吊死呀!!!
Anonymous24836
@Anonymous24836 Time : 2016-06-24 10:50:58 #2
@Kittyzx2015
(giggle)(giggle)我觉得你说得蛮带劲。不过,独立能干也不一定就是霸道和不讲理。。。。。昨晚,我也跟我老公讨论这个贴,他也不认同。他说,也许只是这位先生不了解中国的文化,或许他的运气也不够好。有时候,一个女人表达得很自私,也许只是显示她需要更多的爱。。。。。各种原因。自私的人在哪里都有
Anonymous24842
@Anonymous24842 Time : 2016-06-24 16:48:30 #3
I strongly suspect that the problem has been created by you. Abandon your "dartboard' or "trial and error"or "appearance only" approach to choosing a partner. As @Kittyzx2015 correctly points out, there is an enormous diversity of Chinese women. If you approach your choice with more preparation work and care, you will greatly minimize the problems that you have encountered.
From: China 辽宁(liao ning) 沈阳(shen yang ) @AchrisT Time : 2016-06-24 16:52:16 #4
I call it “Wanting a Chinese man in Western clothing.” First thing not all are like that. There are some, and some of the some are really bad. But for most parts I just laugh and move on when I run across one. I can tell you many stories. But another thing you will find is one of the first questions; even though your profile says single/divorce; is “Are you married?” Not give them something; you will get “If I dated a Chinese man ….. “Sometimes you will find the ones that tell you that “I am a traditional woman looking for a traditional marriage.” All the same there are some very nice people out there you just have to explore, or at least I keep telling myself that LOL
Anonymous24847
@Anonymous24847 Time : 2016-06-24 20:18:39 #5
一叶障目,不见泰山!

还想起一句经典:‘物以类聚,人以分群’。
Anonymous24849
@Anonymous24849 Time : 2016-06-25 00:25:21 #6
@Kittyzx2015 xie xie for your reply. I am not sure if I understand all that you are trying to say, translation is not always correct. Are you saying no matter what behaviors a Chinese woman has I should just take it, deal with it, accept it? For example: if a woman is extremely selfish as a person and in a relationship I should just accept that is who she is?

I do agree that women have individual personalities but also behave and react like most women of different cultures and races do.

Yes I agree Japanese woman are wonderful people, they tend to be very kind and respectful.

(nod)
Anonymous24855
@Anonymous24855 Time : 2016-06-25 12:07:25 #7


Excuse me , most Japanese woman tend to be very kind and respectful that is dependent on the man make all the money supply grow up family ,and money is contral by wife.
From: China 广东(guang dong) 湛江(zhan jiang ) @Kittyzx2015 Time : 2016-06-25 21:27:29 #8
@Anonymous24842

Thank you for your attention!(f)(f)(f)
See your message, let me think of Long Ying tai said: every era has thinking and not thinking of the people.
From: China 广东(guang dong) 湛江(zhan jiang ) @Kittyzx2015 Time : 2016-06-25 21:55:00 #9

@Anonymous24849 and @Anonymous1590 Is the same person???

For "love" confused Sir: Thank you for your attention! Thank you for your patience!

First, please tell me why you first consideration is to choose Chinese woman? Instead of selecting a Japanese woman? Korean woman? Thai woman? ........(the same is Asian countries)

In the vast sea of people, you said that "selfish woman," what initially attracted you to the point?

Now that made a paste, indicating difficult to let go, tangled ....... it means that she has merit? ? ? Still attracts you? ? ?

Her selfishness that you defined? ? ? Or define all your friends? Or communication between you and she have a problem? ??

To understand the Chinese woman the first thing you need to understand Chinese culture, Chinese history, Chinese man, China's system, due to the Pedantic sense preference for boys.

These factors are only created a Chinese woman in the world to make it a "marvel group" .......

Chinese woman is in the vicissitudes of the historical background and the vast expanse of the soil to grow up.......

If you are interested, you can look at American female writer Pearl S. Buck to describe China's novel 《The Good Earth》.

In 1938 for this reason this was awarded the Nobel Prize for literature, many of the problems in this novel, the most serious of the most tragic is the status of Chinese women, to understand today's Chinese women also have reference value! Pearl S. Buck lived in China for nearly 40 years, right? !

Since you mentioned the Japanese woman..... I can also tell you that they are not what you imagine are all very kind and respected man ......There are plenty of people who Foreign to the gentle and virtuous woman lioness's roar.

Please do not generalize, a peephole view, tunnel vision........

I want to say is that in my 20 s, I lived in Tokyo for six and a half years... Japanese women are various, the dizzying...

A lot of people are a mixture of Western and Eastern... (ways of thinking and values .......)

There are also a lot like 《おしん / Oshin》 actress as a woman.

There are women like the Japanese actress in the film below.
Leidenschaften (The Berlin Affair) (1985)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=48HdrL-TKTI

Japanese women in the purchase of a house, to treat men derailment ... etc., it will appear more humane feelings, tolerant attitude...

There is no doubt that the cause of this is built in Japan is a highly developed economy, social civilization and highly sophisticated country .......

I hope you can see is a fair and objective evaluation and description .......

Good luck to you! Life is constantly doing multiple choice!

Excuse me if I've spoken wrong place.

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为“爱”迷茫的先生:谢谢你的关注!谢谢你的耐心!
首先,请你告诉我你为什么最初考虑的是选择中国女人?而不是选择日本女人?韩国女人?泰国女人?........(同样是亚洲国家)
在茫茫的人海里,你说的那个”自私的女人”最初哪点吸引了你?
既然发了贴,说明很难释怀、纠结.......是不是意味着她有可取之处???还是有吸引你的地方???
她的自私是你界定的???还是你所有的朋友界定的?还是你们之间的沟通有问题???
要了解中国的女人首先你需要了解中国的文化、中国的历史、中国的男人、中国的体制、由于重男轻女的迂腐观念.......
是这些因素才造就了中国的女人这一个让世人”惊叹的群体”.......

中国的女人是在饱经沧桑的历史背景下和幅员辽阔的土壤上成长起来的.......

有兴趣的话,可以看看美国女作家赛珍珠描写中国的小说《大地》(The Good Earth),1938年以此获得诺贝尔文学奖,在这部小说的许多问题当中,最严重最悲惨的就是中国妇女的地位问题,对了解今天的中国女人同样有参考价值!赛珍珠在中国生活了近40年吧?!

既然你提到了日本女人.....我也可以告诉你她们并不是你所想象的全部是非常亲切和尊重男人的......对外温柔贤良对内河东狮吼的女人大有人在.....

请不要一孔之见、以管窥天、一概而论........
我想说的是在我20多岁的时候,我在东京生活过6年半.........日本女人也是千姿百态、令人目不暇接的......
很多的人也是西方和东方的混合体.......(思维方式和价值观.......)

也有很多像《阿信》里的女主角那样的女人.

也有像下面这部电影里日本女主角一样的女人.

Leidenschaften (The Berlin Affair) (1985)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=48HdrL-TKTI

日本女人在买房子、对待男人的出轨........等等方面,会显得更有人文情怀、宽容的姿态.......
这一切产生的原因毫无疑问是建立在日本是一个经济发达、社会文明高度成熟的国家.......

希望你所看到的是一个公正和客观的评价和描述.......

祝你好运!人生就是不断的做选择题!

如果我的话说错了,请你原谅!!!
Anonymous24864
@Anonymous24864 Time : 2016-06-25 21:55:16 #10
@Anonymous24855 you said

"Excuse me , most Japanese woman tend to be very kind and respectful that is dependent on the man make all the money supply grow up family ,and money is contral by wife."

Your words describes a Chinese women to the T.
From: China 广东(guang dong) 湛江(zhan jiang ) @Kittyzx2015 Time : 2016-06-26 16:10:43 #11

@Anonymous24836

谢谢你的关注!(f)(f)(f)

看到你说:不过,独立能干也不一定就是霸道和不讲理.....
我可以感觉到你和你的先生非常的相爱,爱到你一切可以尽在不言之中.......

还有你说的:有时候,一个女人表达得很自私,也许只是显示她需要更多的爱.
是的!!!就像小野洋子那样,她很爱约翰·温斯顿·列侬,爱到不让列侬跟前妻和儿子有任何关系......

狄更斯说过的:如果一个人自己具有某种品质,就具备对那种品质的鉴赏力.
这句话很符合你和你的先生!
Anonymous24891
@Anonymous24891 Time : 2016-06-28 04:05:07 #12

跟那货不必废话!

Anonymous24998
@Anonymous24998 Time : 2016-07-13 00:47:39 #13


"Excuse me , most Japanese woman tend to be very kind and respectful that is dependent on the man make all the money supply grow up family ,and money is contral by wife."



No "woman" will ever control my money anytime anywhere. Any man who voluntarily gives up control of his money is a foolish man. Most people have been trained to believe women are better with money which is a fallacy. It is just a way in which women attempt to control the man... lollol


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