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Chinese woman, White man. Yin and Yang?

@Anonymous1641 Time : 2016-11-18 12:38:50

I had some interesting discussion with a couple of foreign expats in Guangzhou (1 Chinese-american, 4 white-American, 3 white-British, 1 white-German) about a topic I feel still many Chinese ladies are shy to speak about but it is very commonplace and extremely typical, that is the relationship between Chinese women, particularly in China, and foreigner men... white men..

Each one of us foreign expats were seeing and dating different Chinese women, all except for the Chinese-American expat, who was dating a Russian girl. Let's call him David, my friend David told me he's not surprised that foreign men desire his country's women, he admits that Chinese women are very beautiful and sensuous, but he prefers Russian girls and that white men can take all the Chinese women they want. It was a joke, but what David said really struck a cord. What he said was fundamentally true; White men have always been attracted to Chinese women and lusted after them--global commercial sexualization of Chinese women on Western medias, sex traffic of Chinese women in massage parlors to serve white men, millions of White men coming to China to take Chinese wives, and I'm not even going to get into the casual, consensual sexual liaisons between non-committed white men and Chinese women that happened daily and routinely. All this means that the white man have got the ‘heaven pass’ which grants unrestricted access to China’s women, and Chinese women globally. 

All the other white expats told me what I already suspected, they essentially see Chinese women are exotic, something totally different than their ‘white’ culture and ethnic background. For some men, this can be very sexualizing. This is often called ‘yellow fever’ admittedly or not, many, many white guys have yellow fever, I included (not ashamed to say!) because we simply see a very exotic, erotic, hypersexualized, conquerable porcelain sex object. This thinking is wrong, it’s not healthy, but it’s completely true. However, there are also many white men who genuinely love Chinese women, her culture, her values, her unique identity, and thankfully THESE are the White men that most Chinese women want. It just boils down to a numbers game of how many white men a Chinese lady will have to go through to find her perfect White prince charming. 


By the sheer size of China’s massive population and its huge pool of Chinese women, if only 20% of these “prime” (age 18-40) females were interested in foreign men, that is still hundreds of millions of available women for Western guys! 

As of today Chinese women and white men relationships have become something of the norm, its super commonplace, happens everywhere, can we will call this “inter-racial” ? In China, there are millions of such unions of Chinese women and white-expat men) already and has been for many centuries. Even overseas, Chinese communities usually see 30-40%, some instances 50 percent of its women being taken away and married to Caucasian men.

This explains why close to 90% of all Chinese-American families, there is always at least 1 or 2 female relative that is dating or married to a white man. My Chinese-American friend David said in his own family, 3 women are married to white American men. He said his friends family, there were 7 white men, that must been white guys took all the women in his friends family I joked to him.


Chinese women and White men, perfect for each other? Yin and Yang? Yes, I do believe so. 

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From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2016-11-21 08:46:32 #1

Only a tiny percentage of Chinese women and a tiny percentage of White men are perfect for each other.


 Are you part of that tiny percentage of White men? Do you have the awareness needed to recognise if a Chinese woman fits that tiny percentage?  Do you have the skills needed to make a long-term relationship work? Do your have the work ethic required to overcome language and cultural barriers? Are you committed to becoming bicultural and embracing the culture of your partner?


If you can answer yes to all these questions you have a good chance of success.

From: China 浙江(zhe jiang) 杭州(hang zhou ) @JohnAbbot Time : 2016-11-21 13:04:49 #2


I agree with what you have written, but I suspect it applies to all relationships, be they same culture, cross culture,  same race, cross race, same gender, cross gender.  There seem to be very few perfect or even near perfect relationships, period.

From: Norway Oslo Oslo @cstorvik Time : 2016-11-22 10:57:40 #3

Nah, in my case I exclusively date chinese and am seeking a chinese wife because they're the only women in the world I feel comfortable with, who I feel chemistry with, and who have common values and desires in life with. I did try flirting with others, including other asian women, but if they were not chinese it always never went anywhere. The only 2 dates I ever had in my life with non-chinese were with 2 vietnamese... and it never went anywhere with them.

From: China 江苏(jiang su) 苏州(su zhou ) @JFjane Time : 2016-11-24 21:56:46 #4
Western men like the slim Asian women,Asian facial features, hair, skin etc are considered very beautiful by Western..Western men treat their Chinese wives or GF very special , not same feeling as Chinese BF and they give them lots of affection...But cross culture marriages have a lot of conflicts and misunderstandings ,,that needs much both sides adjustsment and patience ....
@Anonymous25451 Time : 2016-12-01 00:29:56 #5

Chinese women make western men very happy and satisfied in the bedroom he he he(giggle)

@Anonymous25452 Time : 2016-12-02 15:08:21 #6


I am not sure what point you are trying to make. Are you an adult male or a 14-year-old boy? I can't imagine that there are any female CLM members who think well of your comment.

From: Australia New South Wales Newcastle @Andypanda Time : 2016-12-07 19:12:06 #7

Although Asian and Chinese women in particular are mostly very beautiful,slender and exotic etc, I think this thread is a little demeaning of the true value of a Chinese woman. I will not argue that most have the slim sexy figure, silky hair etc etc but to me the facination is much deeper. Chinese women are so incredibly interesting to talk with and spend time with. I must point out here that I am talking about "traditional Chinese women" not a 20 year old. Some one who has seen a wealth of life in China. I have been facinated many times by stories and antidote's about Chinese life and customs from my wife. However the biggest surprise for me will always be how funny she is and her great sense of humor and fun. Guy's please take one note from me. The sexy exotic Chinese lady bit is a given, focus on getting to know the inner person and you will be rewarded ten fold

From: Australia New South Wales Newcastle @Andypanda Time : 2016-12-07 19:17:55 #8

@JFjane very true Jane. Both have to work at it because there are many unforseen obsticles with the two cultures. I also suggest to all the men here to try learn some very basic Chinese language, It not only helps a little. it shows you have enough respect to make an effort to show interest in her culture. It might impress her parents as well (or give them a good laugh. as I do for my Mama and Baba)

From: China 江苏(jiang su) 苏州(su zhou ) @JFjane Time : 2016-12-08 21:42:26 #9

@Andypanda  From your words I can feel your marriage is sooooo happy  ,full of happiness showing in your posts ...I am so happy to hear it !

Just as I said in another post ,if you want love ,then give love out ,you would get it back ,even  you will be rewarded ten fold....

For me ,  providing an intellectual conversation,sharing  similar thoughts and feelings,having same life value and interests  are  important in a relationship too.

could you pls  share your more happiness here ? thanks!

From: China @AlexandrB Time : 2017-11-17 03:29:27 #10
Что нужно для счастья? Уважение, симпатия, стремление быть вместе, общие жизненные принцыпы и интересы, желание быть большой и крепкой семьей- вот общая культура, вот общий язык- язык любви.
From: China @AlexandrB Time : 2017-11-17 03:48:26 #11
People share common interests. If this condition is met and people like each other, they will have a healthy strong big family, there will be tasty food on the table, children will laugh in the yard. The language barrier? There is no barrier if there is love, the desire to be together, the desire to live happily.
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