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Actions speak louder than words

@Anonymous291 Time : 2012-04-20 10:45:19
Guys, do you open the car door for your girl?

Do you walk her to her door after a date (even if it’s on the 6th floor)?

Do you cuss at the driver that just cut you off?

Do you carry her bag when you walk together?

Do you have an angry face when the waitress doesn’t do the right things?

It has been said that chivalry is dead, but actions do speak louder than words. And if you are not getting a second date from that really nice girl you met, maybe she is listening to her eyes and not to your words. And it’s not easy to see in ourselves what others can see so clearly. We cannot see our frown. We don’t hear the cuss that escapes in anger. Now I’m not claiming to be Mr. Perfect, and believe me, I am far from that (just look at my recent thread about driving!). But to really develop a relationship, we need to care about the other if we want the other to care about us, and that means chivalry must not be dead.
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From: China 北京(bei jing) 北京(bei jing) @lily920 Time : 2012-04-23 12:05:54 #1
I like kind of gental man and hope i can meet that one!!!
@Anonymous1765 Time : 2012-04-23 17:20:05 #2
To love, you have to be lovable... there is no perfect person, but the person will perfect for the other person will embraced the imperfections... a kind sweet gestures matter to women, sweet little thing still works :)

as for the above questions, this is how it depends in women:

do you open the car door for your girl? >>> nice
Do you walk her to her door after a date (even if it’s on the 6th floor)? >> nice
Do you cuss at the driver that just cut you off? >>> turn off
Do you carry her bag when you walk together? >>> i have my own arm and shoulder to carry my bag... maybe shopping bags if its really heavy

its a give and take world...but always consider consistency and transparency :)

From: United States Pennsylvania Pittsburgh @spiderboenz Time : 2012-04-26 01:11:25 #3
1. Yes
2. Yes
3. No
4. Yes
5. No

Chivalry seems to be in danger of dying because a lot of men don't act like gentlemen. However, there is a growing trend of women who do not act like ladies.

for instance...
1. Women who are aggressive about "being equal" with men, and get offended if you open the car door for her.
2. Women who, when you walk them to thier apartment, either take you in to have sex with you on the first date (being very easy to get)/get offended because they think that you are trying to sleep with them.
3. Women who cuss at the driver who just cut you off.
4. Women who, again, get offended at your "chauvenistic point of view" about carrying her bag, and demand to carry it themselves.
5. Women who make angry faces/comments at waitresses who mess up.

contrary to popular belief, chivalry is not strictly dependent on men.

From: United States North Carolina Morganton @EddieG Time : 2012-05-07 07:29:02 #4
1) yes
2) yes
3) no
4) hmm If you are referring to her purse...never have..but never been asked to..Shopping bags..yes.. luggage..yes
5) no

I do realize that some women are offended by having these things done for them, but I prefer not to be around women who are offended by me trying to be a gentleman.
A good example was a woman I was not dating. She was in a martial arts class with me many years ago and one night she dropped something so I reached down and picked up the object to hand it to her and she responded with a hateful look and said "Are you a male chauvinist pig or what?" Had she said it in a joking tone instead of the hateful tone that she did I wouldn't have reacted this way, but she was hateful in her tone so I simply threw the object back down in the floor and told her "Ok, pick it up yourself!" I then walked away and left her standing there with her hands full of so much stuff she had to sit some it down in order to be a "man" and pick it up herself. LOL .. Would you believe that I then got a hateful look for walking away? We never know any more if it pays to be a gentleman or not. But I think in most cases it does. I have never had a complaint from a woman I was dating for being a gentleman though.
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