@Anonymous986 - wow, I first read this and thought it was very cool on several levels. And I still do.

But then I read it again and realized there are no obvious "good guys" in your list. Does that mean that at best, we western men are only occasionally good guys hidden beneath a shallow and not so appealing surface, and more often than not are just plain bad guys?

But then, I read it more carefully and realized that I am #10. Yikes! Not sure how to feel about that! Good list though. (clap)

Hey, is that you,Paul? It seems you have made a "label" for yourself,always close your article with that line. Haha, you just remind me of some criminal movies about serial killers, left their MARK in the crime scenes.(~)

Thanks for the informative thread though,whoever you are if I guess wrong.But it seems something is missing,how about this type: He had intimate relationship before, but failed, and now he wants to find another loved one, a long commitment till the end of the time, but not really into someone much younger than him,just about same age ,what shall we call this? MR.LOVER? Anyone agrees?

So you are type 10,huh?If you are exactly who I guess about.(giggle)(~)
Great, this thread is going to be hot...

不得不承认这是个中肯的帖子，它一定不能概括所有西方男性寻找东方伴侣的动机，但是却有相当大一部分人可以在这个list中对号入座。幸福可以憧憬，可以为之付出无畏的努力，却也需要保持审慎的头脑。愿姐妹们都能找到这个名单以外的西方男性为伴（第10类除外）！(inlove)。
但无论把找对象这件事说的多复杂，归根结底我还是相信缘分，有缘分，纵然相隔万水千山，老天也会屏蔽掉不相干的人，让对的人相识、相爱。

Haha, no it is NOT me who wrote this - but I knew that SOMEONE would - lol

I guess it is a woman - but I could be wrong

I guess I would have to be a #10 also - lol (only because I am certainly not in the 1 to 9 category!)

I know four guys who all are the #10
"Beautiful Conversations On Internet", in my this blog which mentioned "HE" read our great work Dream of Red Mansions(Hong-lou meng). And another guy who also had read the 7 books in English."Dragon Boat Festival in BeiJing", in this blog which mentioned "HE" admire Lei Feng, and he knows lots of great Chinese writers, Mao Dun, Lao She, etc. The last one is amazing who even can speak a litlle Pu Tong Hua and Shanghainese, he loves our opero, colligraphy, kite, so much folk art. I wonder that I always meet with this type guy, except an American project manager.:)

@Anonymous986 - this list is great! Thank you so much for posting it.

However, like John, I fear I am something like a #10. (sweat)

I wanted to modify the description to make it more accurate:

"This man has a fascination with everything about China. He probably THINKS HE knows more about Chinese history than most Chinese women." 8-|

I think you need to add some more to the MR SEX description. You are being too kind.

It should read like this:

"This man's priority is sex. He will seek out vulnerable women and tell them what they want to hear. He has put considerable time and effort into learning what they want to hear. HE WILL ASK YOU TO TAKE OFF YOUR CLOTHES AND RECORD YOU SO HE CAN SHARE YOUR VIDEO ON THE INTERNET. IF HE EVER HAS THE CHANCE HE WILL HAVE SEX WITH YOU, USE YOU, AND LEAVE YOU ONCE HE HAS ACHIEVED HIS GOAL. HE HAS ABSOLUTELY NO PLANS FOR LOVE, MARRIAGE, OR COMMITMENT OF ANY KIND."

MR BIG needs an addition as well.

"He wants to be a big fish in a small pond. South East Asia is his primary destination because he can act like a big man with only a modest amount of money. HE WAS A LOSER BACK IN HIS HOME COUNTRY, A VIRTUAL NOBODY. BUT NOW SINCE HIS DOLLAR IS WORTH JUST A LITTLE MORE THAN A YUAN HE FEELS LIKE A ROCK STAR GOD. HE WILL USE AS MANY WOMEN AS HE CAN FOR HIS OWN ENTERTAINMENT. THIS PERSON DESERVES TO BE (punch) IN THE FACE AND SENT BACK TO HIS HOME COUNTRY TO LIVE IN POVERTY AND SHAME."

Wow, a very interesting list! I don't think this thread was written by Paul. Instead, it was from a great Chinese woman who had many unpleasant experiences during online dating and who does not feel comfrotable with a Western man who sorts Chinese women into different categories as shown from the last Paul Mark sentence.Haha.

This is a good thread to guide Chinese women to avoid certain kinds of men. Thanks, sister!

Aha. Had a glance at your list.
If I had to go with any of the above I would be a very mixed #2 and #5 with modified description since I do not care of the woman's age so long as she isn't too young or too much older than me, is nice enough to look at and I would walk barefoot over sharp shards of glass to meet any woman who would give me their devoted time to meet me in person (after talking enough through other media).

Ok. On second thoughts I do not fit on your list at all. I guess by your words I must an eastern man born in a western land, an alien or a woman. Maybe all three at once? :^)

Then again, I do not purely search for a woman in one location. Earth is fairly large, and houses a lot of people on it. (sun)

may I add one ?

11. Mr. Disillusioned Optimist
He is mostly disillusioned with Western Women and has decided to broaden his horizons. He is brave of heart, but shy when it comes to meeting attractive women at the market… on the street etc. On more than one occasion, he has attempted internet dating in his own country, but has had little luck thus far. (He is somewhat selective) He knows he deserves good things. Ever the optimist he continues onward. He feels his luck changing ;)

@Lily501 I'm fairly certain this isn't Paul, the over all lack of finesse and the short of dashes and ellipses in the writing screams not Paul. Paul paints with a fine bristle brush... this is someone with a can of spraying paint.

That being said it isn't an all together inaccurate portrayal. He/she did nail one thing correctly and that is a good heart is a hallmark of a good relationship.

@JohnAbbott@Lily501 Thank you for your kind words. After reading your comments I have decided to add another type to the list.
11. MR. eQUALITY
This is a quality man searching for a lifetime partner who is his equal. He wants a quality woman who is similar in age, aspirations and values.

After reading his/her post I took to the internet to see if someone had already tackled this tough question. Since Anonymous986 invited us to fill in the blanks I attempted to pull what I found around the internet together and simplify it down to a forum post. I boiled it down to six types and probably it could use some improvement. I imagine most western men, like eastern women, cannot be shoehorned into just one size fits all categories. I'm sure we will see quite a few posts on "types" here shortly.

Type 1: Asian Fever :P

This is a man who finds Asian women in general to be very attractive. Sometimes known as yellow fever (don’t be offended we western men tend to like a tan) or as an Asia-phile. He most likely doesn’t care if you are Chinese, Japanese, Filipino, Korean, and so on. He might have a specific prejudice against one particular asian culture but for the most part if it’s an Asian woman he likes them.

The good thing is he will most likely be open to hear all about your life and culture.

The bad thing is that he will likely have many preconceived notions about Asian cultures in general from Western media such as fiction movies and racial stereotyping. You are going to have quite a time fixing his perceptions.

Type 2: Eastern Veteran (bow)

This is a man who has visited Asian countries or if he hasn’t is at least knowledgeable of the fact that the cultures vary greatly from say Korea to Thailand to China and so on. He might even speak your language and knows how to get around. The distinguishable difference from type 1 is that this person isn’t just interested in Asian women but also in the culture.

The good thing is that he knows what he is getting into beforehand, ha ha. He also has first-hand knowledge of cultural norms.

The bad thing is the same as the good thing.

Type 3: Mr. Playboy (dance) (d)

Not really a lot to say about this guy. He might act like any of the types, but you can pick him out over time by paying attention to his actions and words. He might ask you for naked video chat, be too quick to say he loves you, or wants to rush things. There isn’t much good to say about this guy he will get what he wants and be gone after he feels he can’t get anything he wants from you.

Type 4: The Curious Explorer (mm)

These are men that I would describe as explorers. They have probably travelled abroad before and while they might not know your specific culture they have done enough globe-trotting to know each country has it is own adventures. This man might not be as concerned about dating an Asian woman specifically but he might have a curiosity about them that lead him to a dating website. He is exploring the possibilities.

The good thing is he is probably genuine about getting to know about you and understand you. He also won’t carry as many prejudices as the type 1 man.

The bad thing is his curiosity might move on faster than your conversation. In the process of you talking to him to know him better he might satisfy his curiosity and be finished with his exploring.

Type 5: The disillusioned :^)

This man has had it with Western women. He is probably divorced, maybe more than once. He has an idea of what Asian women are like and thinks it might be what he is looking for. He seeks to be appreciated and respected by his wife. If you want this man to write to you simply put in your profile… “I am a traditional Chinese woman…” You’ve been warned!

The good thing about this man is that he is probably sincere in what he says and does so you should listen carefully to his words to understand what exactly it is he expects in a relationship (remember those preconceived notions).

The bad thing is he is probably a little jaded and might not really know much about what the word “traditional” means. He might also have a rescue complex and think he is going to find an Asian wife who is 15 to 30 years younger than him!

Type 6: Thrill Seeker (headbang)

This guy has no real intention of marrying an Asian woman and he might even been still be actively married (read not separated, ha ha). He is just online seeking attention from women to build up his self-esteem and make himself feel important. In his Western culture he is just an average or most likely below average man. He will tell you what you want to hear, write a few letters, and then poof one day you come online and he is nowhere to be found. Warning signs might include taking a long time to correspond/reply to you, inconsistency in his story, and avoiding video chats at unscheduled times. When it comes time to deliver this man is nowhere to be found!

Nothing good about this guy

The bad… He just wasted 3-6 months of your time and pulled you away from sincere men