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一封意外的信件An unexpected letter:Make Up Your Mind to be Happy!

From: China 辽宁(liao ning) 大连(da lian ) @haifeng Time : 2013-11-13 16:36:51

午饭后稍做休息,打开邮箱,发现一封新的邮件,而我竟然不知道发件人是谁,立刻查阅邮件的id,它来自美国,而发件人的名字竟不在我的朋友之内,看到邮件的标题很好,便打开邮件借助翻译器进行了阅读。



So if one is always depressed here is a guide to remedy it.



Make up your mind to be happy.

Happiness is largely a matter of self-hypnotism. You can think yourself happy or you can think yourself miserable. It is up to you. . . learn to find pleasure in simple things. If you can't go to the opera, you can turn on the radio. Nail on your face the smile that won't come off, and after a bit you will find that it comes naturally.

Make the best of your lot. Of course, you're not everything you want and things are not just right. Nobody is that lucky. Even the most fortunate have a lot of crumpled rose leaves under their forty mattresses of ease. There isn't a single human being who hasn't plenty to cry over, and the trick is to make the laughs outweigh the tears.

Don't take yourself too seriously. Don't think that everything that happens to you is of world-shaking importance and that somehow you should have been protected from the misfortunes that befall other people. When death robs you of one you love, or you lose your job, don't demand to know of high heaven why this should happen to you and grow rebellious and morbid over your sorrow. We are never happy until we learn to laugh at ourselves.

Don't take other people too seriously. They are not so much, anyway. Don't let their criticisms worry you. You can't please everybody, so please yourself. Don't let your neighbours set your standards for you. Don't run into debt trying to keep up with the Joneses, or bore yourself to death trying to be as intelligent as the Highbrows. Be yourself and do the things you enjoy doing if you want to be comfortable and happy.

Don't borrow trouble. You have to pay compound interest on that and it will bankrupt you in the end. It is a queer thing, but imaginary troubles are harder to bear than actual ones.  There are none of us who have not lain awake at night petrified with dread of some calamity that we feared might befall us and that we felt would shatter our lives if it should occur.  Generally it never happened, but if it did, it was not so bad after all and we survived it without serious injury. Enjoy today and let tomorrow take care of itself. There is no sounder adage than that which bids us not to trouble trouble until trouble troubles us. The only good that worrying ever did anyone was make him thin. It is grand for the figure but hard on the disposition.

Don't cherish enmities and grudges. Don't keep up old quarrels. Don't remember all the mean things people have done to you. Forget them. Hate is a dreadful chemical that we distil in our own hearts,  that poisons our own souls. It takes all the joy out of life and hurts us far worse than it does anyone else. There is nothing so depressing as having a grudge against someone. Nothing makes a home so miserable as for the family not to be on good terms.  Meeting someone you don't speak to will spoil any party. So if you have an enemy, forgive him and kiss on both cheeks, not for his sake but simply because it is to making you unhappy and uncomfortable to be stirred up in wrath against him. Keep in circulation. Go around and meet people. Belong to clubs. Travel as much as you can. Have as many interests as possible. Have hosts of friends. That is the way to keep yourself cheerful and jolly and thinking that this is the best of all possible worlds.

Don't hold post-mortems. Don't spend your life brooding over the mistakes you have made or the sorrows that have befallen on you. What is done is done and cannot be changed, but you can have your whole future life in which to make good. Not all the tears can bring back those we have lost, but we can make life miserable for ourselves and those about us by our unavailing weeping. Quit beating upon your breast because you haven't as much money as you used to have. Don't be one of those who never get over things.  Have the courage to take misfortune on the chin and come up smiling.

Do something for somebody less fortunate than yourself. Minister to other people's trouble and you will forget your own. Happiness is a coin that we keep only when we give it away.

Keep busy. That is the sovereign remedy for unhappiness. Hard work is a panacea for trouble. You never saw a very busy person who was unhappy. -  Dorothy Dix

May these inspirational words steer you through the coming year.

Best Wishes,



阅读着邮件,我感到非常的惊讶,发件人好像知道我此刻雾霭的心情,她(他)的这封邮件就像阴霾的天空中出现的那一缕阳光,给我带来了光明.温暖和希望,让我既感激又惊叹,原来人的心灵真的可以跨越时空,感知到遥远的那个人的心情。



而写这篇文字的作者,更像一个尊者,她在和我进行心与心的交流,她的话语是那样的熟悉,又是多么的和蔼可亲,她又像一个勇者,将我的心门层层打开拔除了生长在我心灵的荆棘与纠结着我情感的藤蔓。



因这一份灵动和感激我在互联网搜索了作者,“迪克斯 (Dorothy Dix)小姐在一八四0年代關於精神病患對待的改 革”而这条信息是不是关于该作者的,我也不能确定。我求助于T,请他帮助搜寻,很幸运是的T知道这位作者,并为我提供了信息。“Dorothy Dix ,not her true name”,“she gave advice in a newspaper column”,“she died in 1951”,“her letter is how i live my life”,“i have heard of her. she was very famous”,“she was a newspaper journalist”,“Elizabeth Meriwether Gilmer----her real name”,T提供作者的信息虽然不是很详细,但是至少让我了解了她是谁,来自何方。



世界是如此的神奇与伟大,只因为一个陌生人的信件,我竟然和一个去世了半个多世纪的伟大的女性在对话,而我也从她的文字里感受到了力量和鼓励,感恩逝者,感谢那位陌生的朋友,让我们快乐地拥有每一天没一时刻。 


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From: Australia South Australia Adelaide @melcyan Time : 2013-11-15 22:04:22 #1
Haifeng, I hope Dorothy's words translate well.
Dorothy Dix's 10 rules for happiness are very useful. She was a wise woman who had genuine compassion for others.
I would have liked her to have included at least one more rule. Practice gratitude every day. It is impossible to feel truly grateful and unhappy at the same time. It is a rule I have tried to use for the last 20 years and it has helped me rise above many difficult times. Thank you for sharing this with us.
From: China 辽宁(liao ning) 大连(da lian ) @haifeng Time : 2013-11-16 19:17:48 #2
@melcyan
非常感谢你的关注,给我提供这位伟大女性资料的也是一位来自澳大利亚的朋友,她在澳大利亚也是如此的出名,如果可以希望你能提供更多的关于她的信息,比如她的著作等,非常感谢,祝你一切顺利!
From: United States California Castro Valley @zephyrblau Time : 2013-12-02 14:59:54 #3
the concept is so simple. the execution not so. is it worth trying ? absolutely ! 8)
thanks for sharing :D
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