Chinese Women, Asian Women, Online Dating & Things Chinese and Asian
662 Views | 18 Comments | 1 Articles | 11/6/2017 11:45:26 AM

Recently, I have sent some messages to the CLM members and received some messages from others. What interesting is: once I sent out messages, I usually asked myself a question: he looks so familiar. Where did I see him? I am pretty sure that I never meet them before as I glanced their profile. But why they look so familiar? Finally I got the answer when I looked at the member’s picture. He just looks like one of my very dear friend, a great gentleman whom I met in Maryland. That’s why I felt very fond of him the first time when I saw his profile picture even I never meet him. That is unfair!!! He did nothing but already gained all points from me, right? But this is the reality and how this game works! Read more…

2583 Views | 42 Comments | 1 Articles | 8/27/2016 10:38:42 PM

I know a 53-year-old man who has failed with two marriages with women from China. It is unlikely that he will ever get a third opportunity. He is good at so many things, but not relationships with women. It looks like the relationship part of his brain still only works at the level of a 14-year-old. I also know men in their sixties and seventies who have the same problem with the relationship part of their brain. Read more…

1740 Views | 8 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/16/2015 4:17:42 AM

A final word on multi-meets versus single meets ending with a confession. It is interesting to flip through the blogs and magazine articles that John Abbot has produced over the years. His position on multi-meets has been very consistent over a long time and it probably does not need to be detailed any further in this blog. I will concede that for some men and women the multi-meet is the best approach. However, I know from my own experience that it was not the best approach for me and the many success stories on CLM also seem to support a single meet approach. Read more…

5040 Views | 64 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/8/2015 5:37:49 AM

Let's consider online dating where the women you are looking at have similar backgrounds but the distance apart varies.  Read more…

4207 Views | 30 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/31/2014 7:51:54 AM

In this “episode” I wish to explain further my reasons for having no photo on my Personal or Blog profile on this or any online dating site. It has to do with one of my means of income being in the capacity of “Concert Recitalist”. My instrument,...Classical Guitar. I build them as well. Read more…

2545 Views | 9 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/25/2014 1:02:02 PM

Are you not sure what kind of person is good and suitable for you? Read more…

2895 Views | 5 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/19/2014 4:08:43 PM

I recently received the following letter from a member who has found his match in a lovely Chinese woman through dating on CLM.  He had some questions arising from their current situation, and I thought those questions, and my answers, might be of interest to other members who are now in his same situation, or are hoping to be in it soon. Here's his letter: Read more…

2256 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 8/14/2014 3:28:32 PM

Life is made of all kinds this or that, big or small self-fighting battles. The biggest enemy of us is ourselves.  During your life journey, have you ever suffered or currently suffering these situations? Read more…

2019 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 7/26/2014 2:39:39 PM

It says “All roads lead to Rome” which tells us there is not the only one way could lead to a success. Each story has its own unique beginning…But it can be sure that strong faith, good intention, much of every single effort & attention and great patience are necessities of a successful relationship, especially a cross cultural relationship. Read more…

4036 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/26/2013 3:54:32 PM
The next morning I got up early, cleaned my apartment, watered my plants, went to the market, took a cab to the cinema and bought tickets and booked the seats. I had been longing to sit in the cinema to watch a movie with H, by holding his hand and leaning on his shoulder. Read more…
6393 Views | 9 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/24/2013 1:28:43 PM
Ana Carolina Soares Nakamura - (Carol Nakamura), Brazilian dancer (classical ballerina, Jazz etc) and actress, born in Rio de Janeiro, is 29 years old, she will be 30 in 3 months from now (May 2013) and is the mother of one child. She works in a popular TV variety show and acts in several movies, from drama to comedies. She is a typical middle class girl which loves beaches. Carol is indeed the living proof that the union of Latino and Asian people works very well. I strongly believe that the marriage of people belonging to two different racial groups, e.g. Caucasians and a black African person, Asians, Natives, you name it, produces some of the nicest, prettiest, most intelligent and smarter children as the end product. They inherit the best genes of their parents. She is considered the quintessential sexy woman for SouthEastern Brazilians. Read more…
1906 Views | 4 Comments | 1 Articles | 1/2/2013 1:09:25 AM
We continue to suffer from very spotty internet connections here, and it has caused us again to put off our plans for Christmas. I am trying to be light about this, but it is starting to wear very, very thin. Inside I am filled with expletives screaming to get out. But… Read more…
2739 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/21/2012 3:02:47 PM
I admit that I’ve pretty much beat this to death, and thank you all for your patience while we’ve been trying to sort it out amidst incredible pressures coming from other sources. I’ll try to make this brief, since the last posting basically already advised what we feel we can (and cannot) do to police this issue. At risk of being incredibly redundant let me say this is not about restricting consenting adult members from enjoying cybersex on or off our sites – we do not feel that is any of our business. It is about preventing members from rudely and obnoxiously pressuring other members to have cybersex and received a clear “No thanks”. Read more…
2293 Views | 3 Comments | 1 Articles | 10/14/2012 1:45:36 AM
Have you ever noticed, how, far too often, real life intrudes on your very comfortable fantasy world? Oh, botheration! as my best friend Winnie the Pooh- I was speaking with him just the other day! - used to say. Just as you are ready to triumphantly this or triumphantly that - I always think about the woman I was destined to marry till I saw her holding hands by the side of the road with somebody else - mean old real life intrudes. Read more…
2260 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/25/2012 8:03:00 AM
Have you ever noticed how 'great’ we are at solving other people’s problems but how hopeless we are at working out our own? Read more…
3865 Views | 12 Comments | 0 Articles | 8/5/2012 12:50:37 PM
Recently, long time member “HistGuy” posted a Forum thread entitled “I Miss The Old CLM”. I welcome you to give it a read, along with the comments (especially mine), and then return here for further discussion. In his forum thread HistGuy basically indicates that he feels CLM has become less friendly and the blogs have stopped being helpful and are no longer about seriously seeking a life partner. You’ll see from my first comment on his thread that I take some offence at his approach in the thread, but on second thought I believe that HistGuy’s concerns, regardless of whether I agree with his approach, deserve some serious consideration. Read more…
111591 Views | 41 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/4/2012 11:44:50 PM

Update: Since posting this article almost 2 years ago things have changed. AsianBeauties.com has recently changed it's name to AsianDate.com.  To understand the basic way in which AsianBeauties, and now AsianDate, operate and why you need to avoid getting caught up in either site, keep reading here. But at the end of this article you will find a link to another article just posted, entitled "A Scam is a Scam is a Scam! Part 1: AsianDate.com, AsianBeauties.com - What's the Difference?" which will explain that the two sites are the same, and one can be trusted no more than the other. Read more…

4935 Views | 9 Comments | 3 Articles | 3/11/2012 2:27:16 PM
We do not live in a perfect world, but if we follow simple rules, just common sense, the world will be a lot better place for all of us. Read more…
3761 Views | 4 Comments | 2 Articles | 3/2/2012 9:57:54 PM
Human beings are gregarious by nature. There will be a time in our lives when we will consciously or unconsciously engage in actively seeking a person; to live with us, start a family and it has been like this since the dawn of times. Christians and Jews believe that the first couple was hand picked by God Himself, well, it could not get any better than this, but for the rest of us we have to do the work ourselves. Hopefully, God will give a hand. Some call it fate, others destiny, some believe that is just luck, a love lottery, others that happen by chance. For some it happens accidentally in the most unexpected way while other get a little help from friends, family or even professional matchmakers. With today’s technologies, with the advent of the internet, we have the “dating sites” and I believe that saves us a lot of leg work and help to select a few people that are more suitable than others to share life with us. Read more…
3062 Views | 6 Comments | 2 Articles | 10/21/2011 10:43:08 PM
Been Chinese dating a while and now you're thinking about your first meeting with your favorite western or Chinese date? Are you thinking about your first impression? What will you wear? How will you do your hair (for those with hair)? Are you going to live up to your photos? I hope so. This is the time to see if you match the person in the photos on your profile. This is also for the men as well as the women because a lot of the men look tired and raggedy as hell on here! (Go look at your photos and see for yourself! Haaaha- Make an effort and try to spruce yourself up and take new photos!) For those who have good photos on your profile...sure, your photos have you looking beautiful and sexy, but what is the REAL DEAL when looking in the mirror? No, not 3 years ago, but right now? Go look. I'll wait till you come back... Read more…
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