I know the subject of this blog doesn't relate to Chinese dating, online dating and/or international relationships, and I need to apologize for that. However, I couldn't hold myself back from writing this article for a personal reason. There is a blogger on CLM, whom I'm going to name later in the article if you bear with me, who, like a parrot, keeps repeating his preferred words of nonsense in almost everything he writes about as of late. And what really pisses me off is that he does this condescendingly, calling us, ordinary people, CLM members, and bloggers, sheeple. Well, he's flat out wrong. Read more…

Recently a new member posted a thread on the Forum in which he expressed concerns on a number of items, but specifically was concerned that he had messaged one member twice and so far not received a reply. He originally sent it as a letter to CLM, but we suggested he post a thread in order to get a broader range of responses. This blog is my in response to that thread, which you can find here: Read more…

This was my first trip to Thailand. My first real experience of Asia and Asian culture. Many years before, I had a two-night stopover in KL on my way to Australia. I don’t count that as truly experiencing Asia. I wasn’t there long enough. I stayed at a Shangi-La hotel catering for western tourists and ate western food in their fine restaurant. I hardly mixed with local people apart from a tiring walk through the thronged and narrow flea market at Chinatown’s Petaling Street. Read more…

Asian and Chinese internet dating is, like all online dating, rife with people trying to disengage you from your cash through various forms of internet scams. We try to protect you from these people and one of our best lines of defence is member reporting which we highly encourage. Unlike most dating sites who simply pretend sammers don't exist, we investigate every report and it is one of the best tools we have for getting rid of these people who are at best a waste of your time and at worst extremely vile criminals.  Read more…

Noi means “little one” in Thai. Noi and I had been chatting for nearly two months before I flew to Thailand to start the beginnings of my new life. She definitely appeared to be the “little one.” In the weeks before I flew to Thailand for the first time I kept going back to her profile on the Asian dating site. It was a site that specialized in matching western men with Thai women. I kept gazing at her kind smile and reading her bio. At 5’1” she was one whole inch smaller than my mother, and my Mom was tiny! My mother would often look at my 6’1” adult frame and comment along the lines of “how the hell did I give birth to you!”  Read more…

As a lawyer, I got very used to hearing a quite famous line about lawyers. In fact my then wife, from an earlier life, was the one who most frequently loved to mock me by repeating it at every party we ever attended. But I didn’t mind because it really is a way for people to make fun of lawyers that does no harm to anyone. Everybody loves to hate lawyers, but there generally remains an underlying respect for the fact that without the best lawyers, the truly gifted and honorable ones, the world today would be a harsher and much less free world than it is.  Ok, ok, ok – I digressed, but there is a point. Read more…