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730 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/6/2017 2:15:36 PM

There were so many things to see to before I finally left England and flew back to Thailand. Most of them were connected with finances. It was clear to me that I would have to open a Thai bank account soon after my return. When I wasn’t attending to my finances then I was online connecting to the world. Read more…

440 Views | 5 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/6/2017 1:50:03 PM

Noi and I had said our farewells at the airport in Bangkok. I detest airport farewells. I get emotional. The month in Thailand had gone by all too quickly. And, I was not looking forward to England for many reasons. But, I knew my stay there would be brief. I was sad to be leaving Noi. But, we had got to know each other well. Our future was looking good. The trip had also resulted in us finding the house at Kanchanaburi. I could look forward to my return and settling down in that area. Read more…

791 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/16/2016 3:07:35 PM

Noi means “little one” in Thai. Noi and I had been chatting for nearly two months before I flew to Thailand to start the beginnings of my new life. She definitely appeared to be the “little one.” In the weeks before I flew to Thailand for the first time I kept going back to her profile on the Asian dating site. It was a site that specialized in matching western men with Thai women. I kept gazing at her kind smile and reading her bio. At 5’1” she was one whole inch smaller than my mother, and my Mom was tiny! My mother would often look at my 6’1” adult frame and comment along the lines of “how the hell did I give birth to you!”  Read more…

997 Views | 3 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/6/2016 5:36:19 AM

The lawnmower had gotten me and flattened me onto the ground. The razor-sharp blades cut into my flesh, and an insanely unbearable pain blocked the deafening noise out of my ears. I could hear nothing else but the bawls that I gave out when the blades turned me into a braying chunk of meat. The pain was just too overwhelming. It tested my threshold in waves like an angry sea tests the rocky shoreline. I couldn't bear it for too long. I just wanted to die—drown right there—in the waves of agony, as soon as possible. Read more…

4539 Views | 56 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/11/2015 11:04:05 AM

"Are you a player?" A Chinese woman had asked me this question a long time ago when we talked on QQ one day. Read more…

1560 Views | 8 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/16/2015 4:17:42 AM

A final word on multi-meets versus single meets ending with a confession. It is interesting to flip through the blogs and magazine articles that John Abbot has produced over the years. His position on multi-meets has been very consistent over a long time and it probably does not need to be detailed any further in this blog. I will concede that for some men and women the multi-meet is the best approach. However, I know from my own experience that it was not the best approach for me and the many success stories on CLM also seem to support a single meet approach. Read more…

4331 Views | 64 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/8/2015 5:37:49 AM

Let's consider online dating where the women you are looking at have similar backgrounds but the distance apart varies.  Read more…

10650 Views | 72 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/12/2014 4:26:22 PM

I am emptied from all human emotions, there's nothing left inside me only the rubble of my collapsed hopes and dreams. I try to numb this dismal feeling with a cold shower in a desperate attempt to wash off my own disdain. I can see, I can hear, I can feel as the cold water hits my skin; all of my senses work perfectly, and yet, I'm still in the dark trying to find my own shadow. Read more…

2008 Views | 6 Comments | 1 Articles | 6/27/2014 11:27:36 AM

Fate, destiny, pure chance, or just the inevitable result of the collective choices we make; but it can be simply amazing how two people walking parallel or even divergent paths eventually find each other, and from that point forward become forever intertwined despite being separated again and again by circumstances and time. Read more…

2528 Views | 5 Comments | 1 Articles | 6/11/2014 11:10:51 AM

Over the next few weeks, we caught up with each other’s lives of the last 15 years.  There was no awkward phase; we simply started talking again the way old friends always do – comfortably, eagerly, tenderly.  Like H said, our bridge wasn’t burned; it was merely blocked and made impassable by our individual circumstances in the past.  Read more…

3385 Views | 13 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/10/2014 2:42:47 PM

It happens.  With no conscious effort, without meaning to, or deciding to, or choosing to; you fall in love.  You may wish really hard for a different ending to a story you’ve read over and over; but just as fruitless as it is to hope against hope that a beautiful night will never end, the inevitable will always happen.  You don’t get to choose with whom, or when, or how.  You fall in love.  And you are as helpless as a bird in the air with a broken wing.  But it happens.  Sometimes, two people find and fall in love with each other at the worst possible time and in the least ideal situation.    Read more…

6056 Views | 29 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/22/2014 2:39:06 PM

I didn't feel that I wanted to come back to Vancouver. I love this city, but I left a part of me in China. I wasn't a whole person. Five days after I got home, Lily, Mandy, Jeff and Lily's ex-husband left for Australia. Read more…

1960 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/3/2014 5:37:20 PM

Just like the first time, our rekindled connection abruptly ended.  There was no preamble.  There was no buildup to a satisfying end.  There were no fitting goodbyes.  In retrospect, the abruptness of it all was remarkably fitting to what was an unremarkable re-acquaintance.  I came upon another turning point in my life at that time; I really didn’t know how badly or well his life was going.  As all crossed paths were bound to go, ours continued in different directions, and so we simply went our separate ways. Read more…

2217 Views | 5 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/21/2014 10:51:38 AM

After sixteen years, the time and circumstances were finally right; they weren’t perfect, but they were right.  We were together again.  Third time’s the charm, they always say.  A year into our long-distance relationship, he was finally able to visit me from the U.S.  Seventeen months later, that long-distance relationship came to an abrupt end. Read more…

3146 Views | 13 Comments | 1 Articles | 1/25/2014 7:31:23 PM

Some people on CLM remind me of an American guy who was the first westerner I met on a large international dating site in Feb. 2005. He is a writer who lived in Hawaii. Read more…

1943 Views | 6 Comments | 1 Articles | 11/21/2013 10:06:43 AM

Even “the best-laid plans of mice and men often go awry,” as the saying goes.  I was ready to wait two, maybe three, more years; but my fiancé got himself in a very tight bind, instead.  For two-and-a-half months, I was not sure what was going to happen to us. Read more…

5865 Views | 11 Comments | 0 Articles | 8/1/2013 3:47:07 PM
The following two days, H has been working and I staying home. In the morning when he got up, I followed him up too, and then followed him in and out behind his tail; when he was shaving, I circled his waist from back; when he turned to face me, I stood on his feet hanging on his neck… I cherished very minute being with him. But when he began to take shower, he would push me out from the bathroom, hihi, so concretive and shy that would not let me see him showering… Read more…
1815 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 6/20/2013 9:26:59 AM
One thing I have noticed on CLM website and in dating a few Chinese women in China in particular, many of us are focusing on the result - that is marriage! But I'm still wrestling with this idea - I’m trying to work out what kind of person would you have to be to be successful in life-long inter-cultural marriage! Read more…
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