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662 Views | 18 Comments | 1 Articles | 11/6/2017 11:45:26 AM

Recently, I have sent some messages to the CLM members and received some messages from others. What interesting is: once I sent out messages, I usually asked myself a question: he looks so familiar. Where did I see him? I am pretty sure that I never meet them before as I glanced their profile. But why they look so familiar? Finally I got the answer when I looked at the member’s picture. He just looks like one of my very dear friend, a great gentleman whom I met in Maryland. That’s why I felt very fond of him the first time when I saw his profile picture even I never meet him. That is unfair!!! He did nothing but already gained all points from me, right? But this is the reality and how this game works! Read more…

713 Views | 1 Comments | 0 Articles | 11/26/2016 2:09:02 PM

When you are dating Chinese women or Western men online, being able to video chat with them becomes essential at some point, both to assure yourself that she or he is the person they sya they are in their profile photos, and so you can spend time seriously getting to know each other. Read more…

3540 Views | 14 Comments | 2 Articles | 8/31/2014 11:30:13 AM

This should be a good topic for discussion on the CLM forum; but here are my thoughts on it. Does it mean being the partner that makes all the decisions? Does it mean always having the final say? Does it mean showing he is in charge, any way he can? Read more…

5635 Views | 12 Comments | 0 Articles | 6/23/2013 1:43:24 PM
If he already arrived, he must have called me, he knew my train arrival time. So I dialed his cell phone, no answer; dialed again, no answer. I called to his office number, no answer either. Read more…
4591 Views | 14 Comments | 0 Articles | 6/9/2013 12:10:06 AM
Good things come in threes. Or is it bad things? In either case, when I hear the exact same charge about foreign men repeated three times from completely separate sources in the course of one week, I figure that is worth a report. Read more…
5114 Views | 9 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/14/2013 2:14:33 PM
The next morning he went back to the hotel, to meet a friend whom he was working together with, and I followed him later on. I was wearing a long brown dress, white knitwear, and light pink flat shoes, with my long hair unfolded naturally hanging on my back. Read more…
4036 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/26/2013 3:54:32 PM
The next morning I got up early, cleaned my apartment, watered my plants, went to the market, took a cab to the cinema and bought tickets and booked the seats. I had been longing to sit in the cinema to watch a movie with H, by holding his hand and leaning on his shoulder. Read more…
3858 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/6/2013 4:24:24 PM
The moment when I saw H in the hotel lobby, my heart was drumming, my face was burning, my eyes were blurring. Standing in front of him I even didn’t know where to put my hands, incoherently answered his greetings, I asked for excuse and escaped to the washing room to cool myself down. Read more…
4220 Views | 9 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/17/2013 3:06:53 PM
After he went back to Germany, we got only to chat sometimes on weekends. I understood that he must be quite busy for he just got a new job, besides, he got to settle down in Germany again and there must be a lot of things to deal with. Although I was really hoping that he could be online more often to talk with me, I would be very happy just to see him in the screen. Read more…
2965 Views | 14 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/19/2013 12:28:03 PM
A few people on CLM and other places accuse me of being marriage negative - and I can see their point of view as being valid! They say things like ’there are many good ladies around you, what is wrong with you not wanting to marry one of those?’. Or ’you seem to write like you are playing with the emotions of others, and don't really seem to be serious about any of them!’, or even that I am some vicarious eunuch voyeur intent on extinguishing the love in others...And, that may well be true (from your perspective, although I don't agree), if the end-game is indeed marriage! Read more…
10254 Views | 31 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/30/2012 12:28:35 PM
Preface: He sent email, saying, "I have been thinking a lot between us, also the days when you were in Germany, the more I think the more I get the conclusion, that we don’t have a future together. You live in China, I work and live in Germany for the future years. Sorry for the short message, but I think it is better for you. Please give me no calls or emails any more. Good luck for the rest of your life." Read more…
2914 Views | 13 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/22/2012 7:04:03 PM
2633 Views | 2 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/7/2012 3:38:22 PM
We’ve been hashing over the Cybersex Pressure issue in the background here, while dealing with some other dramatically important (to us) matters relating to Google’s new methods of determining the importance of a website. You’re going to hear a lot more about that in the near future, but meanwhile now we’d like to get back to the cybersex issue and what we hope to do about it. Grab a coffee and settle in because this is going to be a long read. Read more…
2497 Views | 2 Comments | 1 Articles | 9/29/2012 10:54:13 PM
A Canadian lady (from Quebec) I met in Paris some years ago once told me: "When you marry a man, you also marry his country”. So far as I can remember, her words sounded somewhat great and sensible to me, although she and I never considered starting a love affair. Retrospectively, they just don’t echo with the same pomposity. Why? Read more…
3660 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/30/2012 2:45:13 PM
A few weeks ago we posted a blog about incidents of men pressuring numerous Chinese women they met on CLM to have cybersex with them. By pressuring them I mean asking repeatedly in spite of having received a definite “no” at the time the first request was made. We indicated we believed CLM had to do something to eliminate this behavior and invited comments and discussion to help us determine what steps should or could be taken. Read more…
10155 Views | 44 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/2/2012 1:27:15 PM
An issue has been raising its ugly head here on CLM more and more (it’s not noticeably prevalent on ALM yet) and it is reaching the point where we are feeling we need to address it in a real and effective manner. Coincidentally we received a serious report letter on it earlier today, and while I am writing this blog a Chinese member has posted a forum on the same subject, so I feel confident I’m not overstating the seriousness of the situation. Read more…
1847 Views | 3 Comments | 0 Articles | 8/26/2012 6:31:17 AM
Alors que l’amour est un sentiment noble et pur entre deux individus qui se donnent l’un à l’autre tant spirituellement que physiquement, il nous arrive encore, pour des raisons plus ou justifiées et avouées, d’avoir peur d’y succomber. En fait, quel que soit notre passé amoureux (divorcé(e), célibataire, veuf, veuve ou parent), nous avons plus à gagner en cédant au charme d’Eros ou d’Aphrodite . Read more…
2076 Views | 1 Comments | 0 Articles | 8/5/2012 4:40:56 AM
I’m sitting outside my suburban west Beijing apartment on a lazy summer afternoon watching the small world go by. Children skipping madly, toddlers dropping ice cream bars, parents, grandparents picking up after them, awkward skaters, svelte lovers hand-in hand, the occasional beautiful Chinese woman strolling under an umbrella, an elderly woman in a clean black and white fake Nike track suit picking slowly and painfully like an arthritic magpie through trash bins for plastic bottles, paper and cardboard. Read more…
4394 Views | 16 Comments | 1 Articles | 7/27/2012 2:51:08 AM
Hey, whasup CLM! :) back again after hearing the latest buzz...my wife just hipped me to this new independent documentary!!! It is right up CLM's alley and very interesting indeed. I was trying to get fellow blogger Peter or JohnAbbot to write about it, but Peter balked and in replying to him (also realizing the movie is still on the festival circuit and not available to watch as of yet), I figured why don't I submit my reply as a blog to CLM instead. So this is just a quick entry with me posing questions and thoughts to create discussion! It may seem very random and scattered, but what the hell. I'm just riffing and typing away here with no structure... Read more…
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