Chinese Women, Asian Women, Online Dating & Things Chinese and Asian
598 Views | 5 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/26/2017 1:17:09 AM

We recently received a message from a fairly new member thanking us for introducing Security Photos to him. Of course, Security Photos have an important role to play on legitimate dating sites, but they should not be relied on too much. In some situations they provide a great deal of security, but in others they provide none. Read more…

2205 Views | 9 Comments | 1 Articles | 2/26/2014 3:21:22 PM

I have selected a few topics to write articles, but somehow I feel that this one should be the first one of this new series. I intend, God willing, to venture at my own risk into unchartered territory, write about curious, bizarre, current and hopefully useful subjects and to openly discuss with our community. They won't be about Chinese dating, but for members of CLM they will be relevant to understanding each other and each other's cultures and society.  I encourage people to openly comment and allow us to benefit from their experience or knowledge. Read more…

2154 Views | 3 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/28/2013 8:26:49 PM
Anecdote 1. Back in college, I had been receiving unwanted attention from this guy who looked every bit the cliche of a weirdo, from his pants that he wore almost up to his armpits, to his soda bottle eyeglasses, to his greasy and flat hair parted in the middle. Even though his advances bordered on creepy, and he even had a habit of following me around like a stalker, I was sure he was a harmless guy. The times he managed to corner me to say hello or to have a short chat with me, I could not find it in me to be mean and tell him to leave me alone; I could not even come up with an outright lie so I could leave right away. So I would return the smile and the hello, or endure the few minutes of small talk. I can honestly say I did not lead him on, but at the same time, I also did not expressly refuse his advances. There were times I chose to take the long way around school or literally hide to avoid him when I was lucky enough to see him before he saw me. Read more…
2707 Views | 3 Comments | 1 Articles | 3/1/2013 2:01:54 PM
One of the most romantic and affectionate expressions of love between two people is a kiss. It is the seal of love. Yet, it can carry many dangers, with all its innocence, good intentions and warm feelings. At one time or another during our life time, chances are that every pathogenic (disease causing) organisms that exist in our planet will travel in our mouths. Read more…
6422 Views | 9 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/24/2013 1:28:43 PM
Ana Carolina Soares Nakamura - (Carol Nakamura), Brazilian dancer (classical ballerina, Jazz etc) and actress, born in Rio de Janeiro, is 29 years old, she will be 30 in 3 months from now (May 2013) and is the mother of one child. She works in a popular TV variety show and acts in several movies, from drama to comedies. She is a typical middle class girl which loves beaches. Carol is indeed the living proof that the union of Latino and Asian people works very well. I strongly believe that the marriage of people belonging to two different racial groups, e.g. Caucasians and a black African person, Asians, Natives, you name it, produces some of the nicest, prettiest, most intelligent and smarter children as the end product. They inherit the best genes of their parents. She is considered the quintessential sexy woman for SouthEastern Brazilians. Read more…
11378 Views | 22 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/11/2013 10:41:36 PM
We take a lot of pride here on CLM/ALM in introducing Achelle Vinzons to the blogs. To have such an intelligent and educated Filipina here blogging for us is a real coupe in our opinion. What Achelle has to offer us all, our members especially, is a chance to learn about the real majority of Filipinas, not the minority who have overwhelmed many Asian dating sites and given Filipinas generally an undeserved bad name. Achelle has been given as free a reign as any of our bloggers, and her opinions as expressed in her blogs are her own, not dictated by us. Here then is Achelle Verzons, a great new blogger: Read more…
2756 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/21/2012 3:02:47 PM
I admit that I’ve pretty much beat this to death, and thank you all for your patience while we’ve been trying to sort it out amidst incredible pressures coming from other sources. I’ll try to make this brief, since the last posting basically already advised what we feel we can (and cannot) do to police this issue. At risk of being incredibly redundant let me say this is not about restricting consenting adult members from enjoying cybersex on or off our sites – we do not feel that is any of our business. It is about preventing members from rudely and obnoxiously pressuring other members to have cybersex and received a clear “No thanks”. Read more…
5686 Views | 16 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/10/2012 12:04:55 PM
A few days ago we placed a member, Gustamel, in Scammer Prison after receiving a couple of reports from women indicating he had asked for money and enclosing copies of the chat in which he did this. In our investigation of his onsite behavior we were left with no doubts that Gustamel was indeed a Scammer and the reports were true. Into the Scammer Slammer he went. Read more…
2644 Views | 2 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/7/2012 3:38:22 PM
We’ve been hashing over the Cybersex Pressure issue in the background here, while dealing with some other dramatically important (to us) matters relating to Google’s new methods of determining the importance of a website. You’re going to hear a lot more about that in the near future, but meanwhile now we’d like to get back to the cybersex issue and what we hope to do about it. Grab a coffee and settle in because this is going to be a long read. Read more…
3684 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/30/2012 2:45:13 PM
A few weeks ago we posted a blog about incidents of men pressuring numerous Chinese women they met on CLM to have cybersex with them. By pressuring them I mean asking repeatedly in spite of having received a definite “no” at the time the first request was made. We indicated we believed CLM had to do something to eliminate this behavior and invited comments and discussion to help us determine what steps should or could be taken. Read more…
10244 Views | 44 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/2/2012 1:27:15 PM
An issue has been raising its ugly head here on CLM more and more (it’s not noticeably prevalent on ALM yet) and it is reaching the point where we are feeling we need to address it in a real and effective manner. Coincidentally we received a serious report letter on it earlier today, and while I am writing this blog a Chinese member has posted a forum on the same subject, so I feel confident I’m not overstating the seriousness of the situation. Read more…
2074 Views | 0 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/14/2012 5:44:22 PM
After the exchange of letters you saw in Part 1 of this blog, in which MemberX was dating a “Chinese girl” who supposedly resides in the UK but had gone on a trip to Nigeria, I discovered that a letter I had sent to MemberX earlier than the last letter in Part 1 had actually not reached him, so I sent it again. You’ll find it below and it’s valuable because of our recommendations to MemberX on what to watch for, as well as his understandable refusal to want to give up on Kibecky, but his intelligent plan to now test Kibecky more thoroughly to determine if she was real or not. In this letter I am setting MemberX’s responses in bold so they’re easy to separate from my own questions and comments. Read more…
3183 Views | 4 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/8/2012 4:26:36 PM
We recently went through a fairly intensive investigation of a Scammer. We received a letter from a member who had “found someone on ALM”. This was a fellow whose profile we had recently reviewed because we thought it was very sensible, and displayed an intelligent awareness and approach to the potential problem of being scammed on a dating site. Just one example was his insistence that anyone contacting him must have a webcam. I will simply refer to the member as “MemberX”. Read more…
112380 Views | 41 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/4/2012 11:44:50 PM

Update: Since posting this article almost 2 years ago things have changed. AsianBeauties.com has recently changed it's name to AsianDate.com.  To understand the basic way in which AsianBeauties, and now AsianDate, operate and why you need to avoid getting caught up in either site, keep reading here. But at the end of this article you will find a link to another article just posted, entitled "A Scam is a Scam is a Scam! Part 1: AsianDate.com, AsianBeauties.com - What's the Difference?" which will explain that the two sites are the same, and one can be trusted no more than the other. Read more…

4180 Views | 11 Comments | 6 Articles | 3/29/2012 10:28:38 PM
“Someone who thinks the world is always cheating him is right. He is missing that wonderful feeling of trust in someone or something”. Eric Hoffer Read more…
4417 Views | 25 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/26/2012 11:28:41 AM
Hello, CLM fam! Yes, longtime; no see! Could I stay away?! Hell yes! But during my retirement, I was shared a serious subject matter from a Chinese female friend of mine from my CLM past. After discussing it with John Abbot, we both agreed that we can not confirm that her story is completely true or possibly exaggerated. Only time will tell if things will be ok, whatever the case. So I decided to add the clause: I'm going to write this as IF IT IS TRUE... then this is how I feel about it. If it is NOT true, this is how I would feel about it if it WERE TRUE! Then I would like all of you to please comment back as to how to help a friend in need? What would you do if this happened to you? Share your thoughts! I hope to see some interesting discussion here. Read more…
6920 Views | 16 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/5/2012 4:06:22 PM
We’ve had an interesting little run in with a Scammer over the last few days so I thought you all might be interested in it. It’s been quiet on the scammer front for the last few months, and while a few have been caught and placed in Scammer Prison, it has mostly been online Chinese Dating as usual here on CLM. But this one is a little unique so maybe it's worth the write up. Read more…
3874 Views | 11 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/17/2011 1:33:45 AM
I never put any of my personal story in this website and I also have been away from here for a while. No surprisingly, I met someone and went on dating with him. But hold your congratulations yet because it turns out to be a very sad story actually the saddest story ever. Read more…
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