Now, one objection that might be raised with respect to the rule with which I ended my previous entry—that one should not say anything negative about China to your Chinese partner—is: Don’t couples need to be truthful with each other? And if the negative statement about China is true, shouldn’t I inform my partner about this fact? Read more…

“In order to find yourself, first you must lose yourself.“  I felt rather annoyed by the smug words written in the stupid book in front of me. A supposedly learned treatise on how to live life and feel better. What utter bullshit it was!  How dare they suggest that people should become dysfunctional or desperate, before somehow miraculously stumbling across some sort of supposed salvation. Much better to simply skip the bit about becoming lost and go straight to deliverance! Read more…

So, you are contemplating dating a Chinese woman. Yes, it’s true that finding a Chinese woman of your dreams is more or less the same as finding a woman from any part of the world. However, the difference in culture might complicate matters for you just a little bit. To increase your chances of finding and dating the right Chinese woman, you should learn more about the Chinese culture and learn more about their differences. In that way, you will be able to go about your search with ease and confidence. Read more…

Originally, when I first saw this, my thought ran something like this - "If this is how you feel about relationships and women, then dude, you've been in the wrong relationships and been choosing the wrong kind of women! A good, Chinese woman will most certainly shift your perspective and you'll have a genuine happy ending." But then I thought, maybe that's just me, and maybe I've just been lucky. Read more…

The photo says it all, doesn't it?  A Chinese woman's loyalty and dedication will never waiver once you've proven to her that you are deserving of her love. This Chinese wife has proven her love and courage over and over again. Read more about Mi Shixiu and He Quangui here... Read more…

I glanced at my watch.  It was quarter to six in the late afternoon.  The sun sank around 6.00pm.  Tina and I had a two hour hike home from the half constructed Buddhist temple we’d visited.  It was a large, sprawling affair, perched high up on one of the far hills around Shawan.  This meant the bulk of our walk back would be in either semi-dark or totally dark conditions.  Oops! Not the best of planning on our part, but there was nothing now that could be done about it. Read more…

My travels in China increasingly caused me to focus more and more on things that had only peremptorily been glanced at previously.  One cannot help but be influenced by the environment one’s in and on this trip, I was living with Tina who I slowly realised had an innately different set of values to me.  This didn''t mean we were incompatible, it simply meant we each were in a good position to both learn and grow from each other.  Read more…

The alarm woke us at 7.20am.  We had to be sure not to sleep in as today we’d booked our return journey on the bus back to Chengdu, a long eight hour journey.  In fact, we’d planned making a very big day of it and returning all the way to Tina’s home town of Shawan.  This necessitated us to catch a second bus late in the afternoon from Chengdu to Shawan. Read more…