Chinese Women, Asian Women, Online Dating & Things Chinese and Asian
113 Views | 3 Comments | 4 Articles | 6/14/2017 3:47:18 PM

"To see a world in a grain of sand Read more…

942 Views | 2 Comments | 0 Articles | 5/19/2017 9:08:49 PM

Nelson Mandela apparently said words to the effect of - 'There's nothing like going back to a place that's never changed in order to realise how much you have altered' Read more…

628 Views | 9 Comments | 1 Articles | 3/23/2017 10:40:47 PM

Chinese customs seem to be going through a cultural change due to the huge generation gap between people who grew up in rural communities and their children who crave smartphones and other things their parents could never afford. Read more…

494 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/28/2017 1:03:14 PM

The small shop was full of flowers every kind, in colors one could have never imagined of existing. Daffodils, tulips, lilies, gladiolas, carnations, orchids, and, of course, most people's favorite, roses were everywhere, on the floors, in fridges, on the walls, and in buckets. There was barely room for the customers to walk around. The flowers' scents filled up your nose with such a freshness that you could easily imagine standing in a meadow somewhere in the Alps, breathing in the essence of the virgin Earth. Read more…

440 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/7/2017 5:56:18 AM

Spring Festival in China is a tradition that involves the biggest human migration in the world. People from all over China head home to visit their family. Many of those young people who are still single are filled with dread, instead of excitement, at seeing their family again. They must face the wrath of their parents and grandparents for not being married. Read more…

2727 Views | 78 Comments | 3 Articles | 3/19/2017 12:29:42 PM

For those new to my blogs, this article is a continuation of the story that can be seen in the link below.  For the sake of continuity, it might pay newcomers to read the previous blog, before starting on this current one. Read more…

939 Views | 18 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/25/2016 11:03:08 PM

For a Western man interested in Chinese dating, his becoming a member of CLM is as welcomed by many Chinese women as a portion of fried chicken is by the poorest people of Africa. Read more…

1274 Views | 8 Comments | 0 Articles | 11/6/2016 2:19:28 AM

So, you are contemplating dating a Chinese woman. Yes, it’s true that finding a Chinese woman of your dreams is more or less the same as finding a woman from any part of the world. However, the difference in culture might complicate matters for you just a little bit. To increase your chances of finding and dating the right Chinese woman, you should learn more about the Chinese culture and learn more about their differences. In that way, you will be able to go about your search with ease and confidence. Read more…

1517 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/9/2016 12:19:30 AM

We recently received two messages from a new member with the username of ORGASMDONOR. Yes, he wrote that name in CAPS and he got away with that username because the Chinese employee who approved it didn't get what it meant. You be the judge as to whether our reaction was appropriate coming from a Chinese dating site intended for Chinese women and Western men seeking life partners and/or marriage. Read more…

792 Views | 4 Comments | 0 Articles | 5/31/2016 6:52:17 PM

The following article is based (mostly) on something I read online in the New York Times titled "Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person" by ALAIN de BOTTON. It was so pertinent to dating, including Chinese dating, that I had to share it with you..... Read more…

1634 Views | 15 Comments | 0 Articles | 8/29/2016 11:46:00 PM
We recently received a message from a member of CLM asking about the number of Chinese women on CLM, why he is not getting much interest and why there don't seem to be many young Chinese women here. I have posted it below along with my response. I thought the discussion might be of interest to the men as a whole, and I am also interested in receiving member's thoughts on the subject too. Read more…
742 Views | 8 Comments | 3 Articles | 5/16/2016 12:24:23 AM

I once interviewed a Chinese poet who made an interesting, probably inaccurate, but ultimately insightful claim about intercultural relationships.  Asked why the number of Chinese men who dated western women was relatively small compared to the number of Chinese women who dated western men, he replied in one word: breakfast.  Chinese men had a clear idea of what they wanted for the first meal of the day (and for every other meal as well) and were not interested in the compromise, negotiation, or god forbid change, in dietary habits that a relationship with a western woman would entail. While we in the West obsess about appearances or fret about emotional compatibility, the Chinese mind, as is its nature, focuses on a practical, earthy, and ultimately much more relevant issue. Looks fade and disagreements are inevitable; but meals are forever, a permanent part of the marriage landscape. Read more…

14244 Views | 254 Comments | 8 Articles | 5/14/2016 12:49:47 PM

“Love is poison. A sweet poison, yes, but it will kill you all the same.” (excerpt from ”Game of Thrones”). Read more…

1473 Views | 16 Comments | 6 Articles | 2/3/2016 7:18:19 PM

Many of my male knuckle-dragging friends back home have asked me, “Cut the bullshit Barry, what do you really think of China?”.  Initially I only told them the good things, the exciting things, about the place. But as time went on, I realised this wasn't really doing them any good.  I now prefer complete honesty, giving them the whole story, both good and bad, so they can make a well informed decision as to whether to come here  - or more importantly, to work here  -  or not. Read more…

2365 Views | 30 Comments | 3 Articles | 1/14/2016 6:40:26 PM

As a long term unbiased observer of this website, one feature that particularly stands out is the fact that most of the men here on average are of discernibly lower intelligence than the ladies.  As a practising teacher working in China, I can say this definitively, having honed my skills both as a keen student of human nature and mental perspicuity, particularly the differences between the sexes. Read more…

1987 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/3/2016 12:42:42 AM

After all the fights on my "Are You a Player?" article, I still have some truculence left in me and want to talk about the same topic–SEX. John, I don't mean to start the Second CLM War here with this blog, but I feel that I need to talk about a problem that had been bugging me since I visited my current Chinese girlfriend for the first time. Read more…

1010 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/2/2015 11:11:02 PM

[Readers may be interested (but not required) to read the previous blogposts in this series, which describes a visit to America by one exceptionally daring Chinese woman.] Don't Do This with a Chinese Woman and First Sight Read more…

3768 Views | 21 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/22/2015 3:25:01 AM

Don’t judge a book by its cover.  This is one saying that should be taken to heart by any foreign man seriously looking for a Chinese wife through Chinese online dating.  More specifically, do not believe right away that a woman’s photo is an “accurate” representation of her real looks, especially when she is all made up in it and in all the other photos in her profile.  Read more…

1574 Views | 11 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/13/2015 3:25:43 PM

Hello, everyone.  My name is Carl (CJS1960), and I have been hanging around CLM for about a year.  I have truly enjoyed the experience, and I have met some great ladies, I have enjoyed the writings of many of the bloggers, and (quite frankly) I’ve learned a lot.  Of course, I’ve also pissed off some great ladies, I’ve read some real b.s. on the blogs, and I’ve wasted an incredible amount of time sending emails to women who haven’t been on the site since 2009.  I just recently learned about the “last login” feature.  No wonder “Iamtheone” never responded. Read more…

2876 Views | 26 Comments | 4 Articles | 9/27/2015 7:11:30 PM

A happy pig, and painful Socrates, what differences are there between them? A pig is happy, in human’s opinion, it only means the happy in the body. Perhaps, the difference between human and animals is the awakening of self-consciousness.  The awakening of self-consciousness is not equal to a blind pursuit of freedom, the light of blind pursuit of freedom is not human glory, where there is no yourself, but your pursuit; without knowing who you are, how could you make sense of self-awareness? Read more…

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