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1078 Views | 33 Comments | 5 Articles | 3/17/2017 7:46:13 AM

On the surface, life in China seems to throw up very few 'social issues' when compared to life in the West. You don't see graffiti; no hooligans pissing up the side of cars at closing-time; no-one throwing rocks through plate-glass windows just because they are drunk and think it's a good idea; few people get attacked because of their race, colour or creed; and there is no cancerous PC. Read more…

2302 Views | 42 Comments | 5 Articles | 7/15/2017 12:24:47 PM

This series unapologetically delves into the depths of the traumatic breakup with my former partner Lily and its immediate aftermath, including what happened in the fraught days and weeks following the separation. Writing it is providing a much needed catharsis, releasing me from many negative emotions associated with the galling break up. Read more…

989 Views | 27 Comments | 1 Articles | 7/2/2017 2:12:31 PM

This story continues from the last article.  It describes the day after I’d been unceremoniously kicked to the kerb by my last girlfriend, Lily. One of the less joyous times of my life. One that even to this day, is etched painfully into my memory. It's easy to say "Well, as one door closes, another one opens". Read more…

1067 Views | 24 Comments | 4 Articles | 6/14/2017 3:47:18 PM

"To see a world in a grain of sand, And heaven in a wild flower, Hold infinity in the palm of your hand, And eternity in an hour"  Read more…

1057 Views | 2 Comments | 0 Articles | 5/19/2017 9:08:49 PM

Nelson Mandela apparently said words to the effect of - 'There's nothing like going back to a place that's never changed in order to realise how much you have altered' Read more…

760 Views | 9 Comments | 1 Articles | 3/23/2017 10:40:47 PM

Chinese customs seem to be going through a cultural change due to the huge generation gap between people who grew up in rural communities and their children who crave smartphones and other things their parents could never afford. Read more…

564 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/28/2017 1:03:14 PM

The small shop was full of flowers every kind, in colors one could have never imagined of existing. Daffodils, tulips, lilies, gladiolas, carnations, orchids, and, of course, most people's favorite, roses were everywhere, on the floors, in fridges, on the walls, and in buckets. There was barely room for the customers to walk around. The flowers' scents filled up your nose with such a freshness that you could easily imagine standing in a meadow somewhere in the Alps, breathing in the essence of the virgin Earth. Read more…

541 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/7/2017 5:56:18 AM

Spring Festival in China is a tradition that involves the biggest human migration in the world. People from all over China head home to visit their family. Many of those young people who are still single are filled with dread, instead of excitement, at seeing their family again. They must face the wrath of their parents and grandparents for not being married. Read more…

3175 Views | 78 Comments | 3 Articles | 3/19/2017 12:29:42 PM

For those new to my blogs, this article is a continuation of the story that can be seen in the link below.  For the sake of continuity, it might pay newcomers to read the previous blog, before starting on this current one. Read more…

1113 Views | 18 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/25/2016 11:03:08 PM

For a Western man interested in Chinese dating, his becoming a member of CLM is as welcomed by many Chinese women as a portion of fried chicken is by the poorest people of Africa. Read more…

1435 Views | 8 Comments | 0 Articles | 11/6/2016 2:19:28 AM

So, you are contemplating dating a Chinese woman. Yes, it’s true that finding a Chinese woman of your dreams is more or less the same as finding a woman from any part of the world. However, the difference in culture might complicate matters for you just a little bit. To increase your chances of finding and dating the right Chinese woman, you should learn more about the Chinese culture and learn more about their differences. In that way, you will be able to go about your search with ease and confidence. Read more…

1689 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/9/2016 12:19:30 AM

We recently received two messages from a new member with the username of ORGASMDONOR. Yes, he wrote that name in CAPS and he got away with that username because the Chinese employee who approved it didn't get what it meant. You be the judge as to whether our reaction was appropriate coming from a Chinese dating site intended for Chinese women and Western men seeking life partners and/or marriage. Read more…

916 Views | 4 Comments | 0 Articles | 5/31/2016 6:52:17 PM

The following article is based (mostly) on something I read online in the New York Times titled "Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person" by ALAIN de BOTTON. It was so pertinent to dating, including Chinese dating, that I had to share it with you..... Read more…

1878 Views | 15 Comments | 0 Articles | 8/29/2016 11:46:00 PM
We recently received a message from a member of CLM asking about the number of Chinese women on CLM, why he is not getting much interest and why there don't seem to be many young Chinese women here. I have posted it below along with my response. I thought the discussion might be of interest to the men as a whole, and I am also interested in receiving member's thoughts on the subject too. Read more…
841 Views | 8 Comments | 3 Articles | 5/16/2016 12:24:23 AM

I once interviewed a Chinese poet who made an interesting, probably inaccurate, but ultimately insightful claim about intercultural relationships.  Asked why the number of Chinese men who dated western women was relatively small compared to the number of Chinese women who dated western men, he replied in one word: breakfast.  Chinese men had a clear idea of what they wanted for the first meal of the day (and for every other meal as well) and were not interested in the compromise, negotiation, or god forbid change, in dietary habits that a relationship with a western woman would entail. While we in the West obsess about appearances or fret about emotional compatibility, the Chinese mind, as is its nature, focuses on a practical, earthy, and ultimately much more relevant issue. Looks fade and disagreements are inevitable; but meals are forever, a permanent part of the marriage landscape. Read more…

15628 Views | 254 Comments | 8 Articles | 5/14/2016 12:49:47 PM

“Love is poison. A sweet poison, yes, but it will kill you all the same.” (excerpt from ”Game of Thrones”). Read more…

1635 Views | 16 Comments | 6 Articles | 2/3/2016 7:18:19 PM

Many of my male knuckle-dragging friends back home have asked me, “Cut the bullshit Barry, what do you really think of China?”.  Initially I only told them the good things, the exciting things, about the place. But as time went on, I realised this wasn't really doing them any good.  I now prefer complete honesty, giving them the whole story, both good and bad, so they can make a well informed decision as to whether to come here  - or more importantly, to work here  -  or not. Read more…

2599 Views | 30 Comments | 3 Articles | 1/14/2016 6:40:26 PM

As a long term unbiased observer of this website, one feature that particularly stands out is the fact that most of the men here on average are of discernibly lower intelligence than the ladies.  As a practising teacher working in China, I can say this definitively, having honed my skills both as a keen student of human nature and mental perspicuity, particularly the differences between the sexes. Read more…

2169 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/3/2016 12:42:42 AM

After all the fights on my "Are You a Player?" article, I still have some truculence left in me and want to talk about the same topic–SEX. John, I don't mean to start the Second CLM War here with this blog, but I feel that I need to talk about a problem that had been bugging me since I visited my current Chinese girlfriend for the first time. Read more…

1082 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/2/2015 11:11:02 PM

[Readers may be interested (but not required) to read the previous blogposts in this series, which describes a visit to America by one exceptionally daring Chinese woman.] Don't Do This with a Chinese Woman and First Sight Read more…

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