Chinese Women, Asian Women, Online Dating & Things Chinese and Asian
1240 Views | 15 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/9/2018 10:00:17 PM

            Every day I checked to see if she has logged-in again, and every day I was both disappointed and relieved that she has not.  I was disappointed that she has not logged-in and read my messages, thus proving my interpretation of the fact pattern correct.  I was relieved that she has not proven my interpretation false by logging-in and then failing to read my messages. Read more…

1058 Views | 22 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/9/2018 9:57:45 PM

            I had peace of mind for the next nine days as I waited patiently for my almost perfect match to return from her vacation.  But on the tenth day, I began to feel uneasy again.  I dealt with my uneasiness by sending two more messages to my almost perfect match.  The first message was short, just a reassurance that I was still waiting patiently for her.  The second one was to correct a mistake which I had made in my second message.  Those mistakes revolved around some confusion which I had about the time stamps on CLM. Read more…

924 Views | 18 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/26/2018 11:17:40 PM

            At 6:00 p.m. I had resolved to upgrade my CLM membership.  I attempted to pay for the upgrade but I immediately ran into a problem.  The only card I had available to make the payment was the ATM card associated with my primary checking account.  Unfortunately, the card was a Mastercard and, for reasons involving international banking, PayPal would not accept it.  After three hours of fruitless attempts to use my bank card to pay for my upgrade, I sent an e-mail to CLM's customer support to ask them why I couldn't pay for my upgrade with a Mastercard. Read more…

840 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/2/2018 3:21:58 AM

            I vividly remember a case on another dating website where I encountered a woman with three or four pictures in her profile.  Her primary picture showed her wearing a business suit.  I did not find that picture particularly attractive but there was another picture showing her riding a lawn tractor.  She was dressed casually and she was not wearing any make-up or jewelry and that was the picture that made me interested in her.  That was the picture where I felt she looked the most beautiful and that was the picture that attracted me to her.  If her primary picture had been the only picture on her profile, I would not have given her a second glance.  I certainly would not have tried to contact her.  Naturally, she was an Asian woman living in Virginia and at the time she was a couple of years older than me. Read more…

967 Views | 23 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/29/2017 3:36:46 PM

When I was writing about my ideal match it never occurred to me that anyone would seriously object when I said that she would be both beautiful and sexy.  But then again, I had forgotten what I had learned in speech communication class:  that we interpret all forms of communication, even written communication, through the prism of our beliefs, experiences, emotions, and prejudices.  Thus, the reader will never perceive the message in the same way that it was originally conceived by the writer.  Words such as 'beauty' and 'sexy' are far more open to interpretation than others. Read more…

762 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/23/2017 6:31:39 AM

"On These Pages Awaits Your Perfect Match".  Those words appeared at the top of every page whenever you use the browse feature on CLM.  I have to admit that the first time I encountered them I was more than just a little skeptical.  I simply dismissed them as little more than advertising copy.  But within perhaps ten to fifteen minutes I found those words rather unexpectedly validated.  My first action upon joining CLM was to perform a search for women between the ages of 21 and 45.  Within the very first page of search results, I found her, the woman who has ever come closest to matching the profile of my ideal match. Read more…

2108 Views | 13 Comments | 5 Articles | 12/21/2016 10:48:20 PM

What could be better than snuggling up on a couch and reading a good book at Christmas time? Well, I genuinely believe that there's nothing wrong with that picture. In truth, there have been times when I preferred being alone to giving up my solitude for anybody. However, times have changed, and I have certainly changed with age—for better or for worse, I can't really say. What I can truly say is that if I could, I would spend this holiday season in a more enjoyable setting. Read more…

2429 Views | 15 Comments | 0 Articles | 8/29/2016 11:46:00 PM
We recently received a message from a member of CLM asking about the number of Chinese women on CLM, why he is not getting much interest and why there don't seem to be many young Chinese women here. I have posted it below along with my response. I thought the discussion might be of interest to the men as a whole, and I am also interested in receiving member's thoughts on the subject too. Read more…
5278 Views | 30 Comments | 3 Articles | 1/14/2016 6:40:26 PM

As a long term unbiased observer of this website, one feature that particularly stands out is the fact that most of the men here on average are of discernibly lower intelligence than the ladies.  As a practising teacher working in China, I can say this definitively, having honed my skills both as a keen student of human nature and mental perspicuity, particularly the differences between the sexes. Read more…

4389 Views | 38 Comments | 8 Articles | 12/5/2015 1:26:54 PM

令人遗憾的是文章不能翻译成中文。 Read more…

4766 Views | 17 Comments | 1 Articles | 6/5/2014 1:20:56 PM

The next morning I woke up in pain. My skin was burning on my back. I looked at it in the mirror and it was very red from the sun. I took a cold shower just to ease the pain. It had helped me only for a few minutes. When Lily woke up, I asked her if she could apply some lotion on it. I was standing before her, half naked ,with my back turned to her as she started applying the lotion onto my skin. It felt good, it really eased the pain. She was finished with my back, stepped in front of me and said, Read more…

3912 Views | 14 Comments | 0 Articles | 5/26/2014 11:22:20 AM

We woke up late the next morning, It was already 10am when Jeff and I got up and we wanted to go to the beach. He went to the other room to wake her mother and Mandy up, came back and said, Mandy and her mother didn't want to go to the beach because it was too hot and they were afraid of burning their skins. They wanted to go in the evening time. Finally we agreed to go, but they were going to stay in the shades. Jeff was very happy because I promised him I was going to teach him how to swim properly. Read more…

2894 Views | 3 Comments | 1 Articles | 5/23/2014 2:08:46 PM

Being a private eye in Bangkok doesn’t even pay all the bribes on my work visa, so I was really happy when the U. S. Embassy offered to pay me big money to find the mysterious Hero Cat.  Read more…

2975 Views | 15 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/30/2013 1:13:33 PM

Since the dawn of time when man sent his woman to the local takeaway on a Saturday night for deep fried Dodo and chips, the subject of women's beauty has long been a somewhat topical discussion for the discerning male. In the same way as "one man's meat is another man's poison", your idea of a beautiful woman may not match mine, and vice versa... Read more…

4458 Views | 26 Comments | 3 Articles | 2/9/2014 1:43:11 PM

Lou-ann Brizendine, founder of the Women's Mood and Hormone Clinic, published a revealing piece in "The Female Brain" journal.  She stated that women spoke an average of around 20,000 words or more per day, nearly three times the grudging 7000 spoken by most taciturn men. Read more…

4129 Views | 8 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/30/2013 4:04:55 PM

Her answer came two days later and I was happy reading it because it said she was willing to get to know me better, and if everything went well between us she would be even open talking about moving to another country.  I asked for her personal email address in my reply and went to work with a happy smile on my face, suddenly very excited about my new experience with online Chinese dating. Read more…

6172 Views | 19 Comments | 1 Articles | 12/2/2013 4:24:13 PM

Much in the vein of Zoe's recent blog series which captivated us all, we now bring you a similar series about a relationship that has developed between a Western man and a Chinese woman, but this time through the eyes of the man. We offer to you Imi, and his brilliant biographical blog series entitled simply "My Love for Lily". And in the spirit of her own blog offering the men a chance to experience the thoughts and feelings of a Chinese woman, in order to ensure that the Chinese ladies can use this opportunity to experience the thoughts and feelings of a Western man, Zoe has generously agreed to translate Imi's story for the Chinese ladies. Any member who doesn't follow this series really doesn't understand what a fabulous learning tool she or he is missing.  Please welcome Imi and enjoy! Read more…

10545 Views | 42 Comments | 1 Articles | 11/11/2013 3:37:31 PM

“For every glimmer of light, somewhere there’s a corresponding shadow of darkness.” As a forewarning, if you have delicate sensibilities or are easily upset, please read no further.  My last blog posting was somewhat satirical, but this one is serious. One of the enduring impressions unfortunately emblazoned into my mind on one of my China trips was when visiting a temple on the outskirts of Hangzhou. Read more…

2622 Views | 3 Comments | 0 Articles | 7/10/2013 2:46:37 AM
I’ve been thinking about my last article, and about how I berated the guys who came here for fun and games. Perhaps I was a little hard on them. We all have our own reasons for coming to China, and leaving behind what we had back home. From economic reasons to personal or even a combination of the two, sometimes we come because we are searching for that beautiful Chinese woman that will complete us. I know my experience with Western women that definitely played a big role for me leaving my world behind. Read more…
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