Jenny and I sat at the lunch table in the refectory area of the university in China where I worked as an English teacher. Our conversation together was rather stilted, as neither of us understood the other person’s language. But we did a lot of grinning and gesticulating, that seemed to have the desired effect. Two pairs of impassioned eyes meeting, staring poignantly into eachother's soul, are arguably all that's needed for the most indepth conversation of all time. I sensed there was something special about this enigmatic lady. I couldn't quite put my finger on it, even as the hairs on my arms bristled. Where would it lead? Read more…
After all the fights on my "Are You a Player?" article, I still have some truculence left in me and want to talk about the same topic–SEX. John, I don't mean to start the Second CLM War here with this blog, but I feel that I need to talk about a problem that had been bugging me since I visited my current Chinese girlfriend for the first time. Read more…
Day 21 in China dawned – I couldn’t believe how quickly time was passing. I’d been here three weeks already yet it felt closer to just half this time. My return home to Brisbane was inexorably drawing closer, I was already feeling subtle pangs of regret knowing I’d have to leave this fascinating country soon. Why does time invariably pass by so quickly when you’re having fun? Yet pass by so slowly when you’re not! Read more…
I have just passed a milestone in my life - I realised last week that I have lived one third of my life in China! Quite a shock really! To think that I have spent that amount of time in one place - and that place is so different from my home! Read more…
Oh dear, with so much testosterone-fuelled aggression flying around these days on CLM, I am a bit in awe of the alpha-bears and the beta-koalas having all the limelight. Read more…
I've decided to put my thoughts together on this based on my observations and feelings in relationships in China. I will not say I am an expert by any standard - these are just my personal observations and ’fears’ and ’annoyances’ when dating Chinese ladies in China. If you are a lady reading this and identify some of the traits in this, consider if you might need to modify some actions to appear less so! If you are a male looking to date Chinese ladies, be ready for the emotions and situations and accept it is ’normal’ in China. Read more…