Chinese Women, Asian Women, Online Dating & Things Chinese and Asian
1432 Views | 44 Comments | 4 Articles | 4/16/2019 5:11:04 PM

My eyes flicker open. I awake in a bed that I have never slept in before. A young Chinese woman is above me. Where am I? Read more…

404 Views | 8 Comments | 1 Articles | 3/10/2019 1:19:20 PM

My bedroom has not changed during the time my partner and I have been together. A queen size bed faces a lifeless double window.  Two wardrobes and a dressing table are on one side of the room. A chest of drawers and a desk are near the window. The other long wall has two large metal filing cabinets and two smaller filing cabinets covered with a top to make it function as a computer desk. A computer sits on top of that. The carpet has long passed its used by date. The walls need repainting and show many cracks. WARNING! I have taken a patent out on this uniquely designed love nest, so don’t try to copy it. Read more…

877 Views | 28 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/22/2019 1:46:30 PM

Decluttering is all about love. Great love is all about presence. Being present is a 24 hour a day activity. Read more…

337 Views | 4 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/9/2019 1:03:07 AM

This article is a follow up on the previous blogpost. If you haven’t read the previous article, don’t worry. I’ll summarize. For an English class, my wife, Yong, had the assignment to take a survey from a book “Five Love Languages” (5 lovelanguages.com). The premise of the book is that there are five basic ways couples communicate with each other. These five ways are: (1) Acts of service; (2) Quality Time; (3) Physical touch; (4) Giving Gifts; (5) Words of affirmation. A happy relationship is premised on knowing your partner’s main communication styles and working with them. Read more…

504 Views | 9 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/30/2018 12:45:08 AM

Mike Royko, the classic curmudgeon and commentator of human foibles writing for the Chicago Sun Times, was one of my favorite columnists. In response to a famous survey that found women would rather snuggle than have sex with their partners, Royko commissioned one of his own studies, polling his readers about whether they would rather go bowling with their buddies or have sex with their wives. Sex won, but Royko was on to a larger point that would later be validated by John Gray in his classic, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus: Men and women communicate affection in different ways. In particular, men bond by doing and women by talking. Read more…

1160 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/2/2018 3:21:58 AM

            I vividly remember a case on another dating website where I encountered a woman with three or four pictures in her profile.  Her primary picture showed her wearing a business suit.  I did not find that picture particularly attractive but there was another picture showing her riding a lawn tractor.  She was dressed casually and she was not wearing any make-up or jewelry and that was the picture that made me interested in her.  That was the picture where I felt she looked the most beautiful and that was the picture that attracted me to her.  If her primary picture had been the only picture on her profile, I would not have given her a second glance.  I certainly would not have tried to contact her.  Naturally, she was an Asian woman living in Virginia and at the time she was a couple of years older than me. Read more…

3433 Views | 40 Comments | 0 Articles | 11/16/2017 11:17:01 AM

            My name is Roger and I am rather new to CLM, having joined on September 24th.  I am a 52-year-old divorced man currently living in Chambersburg, Pennsylvania.  My ex-wife is a Chinese lady whom I met through online dating.  Unfortunately, our marriage lasted only for three years.  I'll go into more detail about the reasons for the failure of my marriage in a future installment. Read more…

1240 Views | 5 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/10/2016 9:01:46 PM

So Yong wanted flowers. Usually this is one of her easier requests of her life in the West to fulfill. Certainly much easier than her request for “real” Chinese food, which requires a seventy-mile trip to Chicago’s Chinatown. Read more…

2978 Views | 13 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/9/2016 12:19:30 AM

We recently received two messages from a new member with the username of ORGASMDONOR. Yes, he wrote that name in CAPS and he got away with that username because the Chinese employee who approved it didn't get what it meant. You be the judge as to whether our reaction was appropriate coming from a Chinese dating site intended for Chinese women and Western men seeking life partners and/or marriage. Read more…

1474 Views | 4 Comments | 0 Articles | 5/31/2016 6:52:17 PM

The following article is based (mostly) on something I read online in the New York Times titled "Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person" by ALAIN de BOTTON. It was so pertinent to dating, including Chinese dating, that I had to share it with you..... Read more…

1895 Views | 5 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/23/2016 5:41:41 PM

There are some, many or numerous foreigners who often make an interesting comment about Chinese people and their social behavior or thinking .  I have heard (and in the beginning years of living with Chinese I also used the same comment ... ) -- Chinese have no logic!!  In other words, these foreigners assert that Chinese social behavior is devoid of rational logical thinking ... So, I am going to write more than enough blog posts to consider this assumption .   Read more…

1464 Views | 3 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/23/2016 12:17:55 PM

I have received enough suggestions ... I write too much and too long and with too much fluff....  Hopefully this is better .. Read more…

1551 Views | 8 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/15/2016 1:42:08 PM

If you really wish to be happy living in China (excluding the SARs and that Island ) Read more…

997 Views | 1 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/16/2016 4:21:14 PM

满月是一枚婚戒   Read more…

1082 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/14/2016 10:44:57 PM

    The title is concerned with seeking positive social behavior towards others... Read more…

3070 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/3/2016 12:42:42 AM

After all the fights on my "Are You a Player?" article, I still have some truculence left in me and want to talk about the same topic–SEX. John, I don't mean to start the Second CLM War here with this blog, but I feel that I need to talk about a problem that had been bugging me since I visited my current Chinese girlfriend for the first time. Read more…

5909 Views | 48 Comments | 1 Articles | 12/7/2015 7:17:05 PM

“Barry, I love you.”  Tina whispered gently into my ear. “Please never doubt this.”    Read more…

2915 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 11/17/2015 3:58:03 AM

Okay, I admit that maybe I was overreacting but enough is enough! Someone brought to my attention a braindead article that got posted not once, but twice, in two major publications. In it The Telegraph UK and ChinaDailyAsia take the basic approach that every western guy who is attracted to Chinese or Asian women is suffering from a sexual perversion. Needless to say, as someone married to a great Chinese woman, and as co-owner of CLM and ALM, I was more than a little pissed at this crap being published as if it was an unquestioned fact, when it is actually a careless and extremely insulting slur with no basis in fact whatsoever. Read more…

1548 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/12/2015 12:46:50 PM

一周过去了。我和我的客人完成了帮助小孩检查视力的工作,客人们配好了眼镜又亲自把眼镜送到小孩子们手上。然后我依依不舍的送别我的客人,我很想在客人离别时送上一份我的礼物以表达我对他们的感激之情,但因为一周来我和客人都早出晚归,我只能让我女儿亲自去帮我买几个绣球在送别客人时送给他们,我之所以把绣球作为礼物,是因为绣球是壮乡人民吉祥物象征之一,在中国古代流传着绣球是壮乡青年男女爱情的信物,有些地方有一个风俗,姑娘抛出一个绣球,谁得到这个绣球,谁就可以成为这个姑娘的丈夫。当然,姑娘一般会看准意中人,把绣球抛到他身上,以便他捡到。后来也就有了抛绣球、狮子滚绣球等民间活动,现在,抛绣球仍然是壮族人民喜闻乐见的传统体育项目,人们在茶余饭后常互相抛接以娱乐,起到沟通感情的作用。 Read more…

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