Chinese Women, Asian Women, Online Dating & Things Chinese and Asian
311 Views | 6 Comments | 5 Articles | 1/23/2020 12:25:36 PM

The snow virgin, so sad I worried my arms would fold themselves around her on their own, was sitting on a chair in front of the window. With the curtains drawn, she was looking at passersby on the street, dressed in winter clothes. I knew she wasn’t aware of my presence, and I didn’t mean to let her know about my being there. If I had, I would have risked breaking my train of thought. Read more…

5050 Views | 56 Comments | 4 Articles | 4/16/2019 5:11:04 PM

My eyes flicker open. I awake in a bed that I have never slept in before. A young Chinese woman is above me. Where am I? Read more…

647 Views | 8 Comments | 1 Articles | 3/10/2019 1:19:20 PM

My bedroom has not changed during the time my partner and I have been together. A queen size bed faces a lifeless double window.  Two wardrobes and a dressing table are on one side of the room. A chest of drawers and a desk are near the window. The other long wall has two large metal filing cabinets and two smaller filing cabinets covered with a top to make it function as a computer desk. A computer sits on top of that. The carpet has long passed its used by date. The walls need repainting and show many cracks. WARNING! I have taken a patent out on this uniquely designed love nest, so don’t try to copy it. Read more…

1311 Views | 28 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/22/2019 1:46:30 PM

Decluttering is all about love. Great love is all about presence. Being present is a 24 hour a day activity. Read more…

740 Views | 4 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/9/2019 1:03:07 AM

This article is a follow up on the previous blogpost. If you haven’t read the previous article, don’t worry. I’ll summarize. For an English class, my wife, Yong, had the assignment to take a survey from a book “Five Love Languages” (5 lovelanguages.com). The premise of the book is that there are five basic ways couples communicate with each other. These five ways are: (1) Acts of service; (2) Quality Time; (3) Physical touch; (4) Giving Gifts; (5) Words of affirmation. A happy relationship is premised on knowing your partner’s main communication styles and working with them. Read more…

771 Views | 9 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/30/2018 12:45:08 AM

Mike Royko, the classic curmudgeon and commentator of human foibles writing for the Chicago Sun Times, was one of my favorite columnists. In response to a famous survey that found women would rather snuggle than have sex with their partners, Royko commissioned one of his own studies, polling his readers about whether they would rather go bowling with their buddies or have sex with their wives. Sex won, but Royko was on to a larger point that would later be validated by John Gray in his classic, Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus: Men and women communicate affection in different ways. In particular, men bond by doing and women by talking. Read more…

1332 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/2/2018 3:21:58 AM

            I vividly remember a case on another dating website where I encountered a woman with three or four pictures in her profile.  Her primary picture showed her wearing a business suit.  I did not find that picture particularly attractive but there was another picture showing her riding a lawn tractor.  She was dressed casually and she was not wearing any make-up or jewelry and that was the picture that made me interested in her.  That was the picture where I felt she looked the most beautiful and that was the picture that attracted me to her.  If her primary picture had been the only picture on her profile, I would not have given her a second glance.  I certainly would not have tried to contact her.  Naturally, she was an Asian woman living in Virginia and at the time she was a couple of years older than me. Read more…

4002 Views | 40 Comments | 0 Articles | 11/16/2017 11:17:01 AM

            My name is Roger and I am rather new to CLM, having joined on September 24th.  I am a 52-year-old divorced man currently living in Chambersburg, Pennsylvania.  My ex-wife is a Chinese lady whom I met through online dating.  Unfortunately, our marriage lasted only for three years.  I'll go into more detail about the reasons for the failure of my marriage in a future installment. Read more…

1369 Views | 5 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/10/2016 9:01:46 PM

So Yong wanted flowers. Usually this is one of her easier requests of her life in the West to fulfill. Certainly much easier than her request for “real” Chinese food, which requires a seventy-mile trip to Chicago’s Chinatown. Read more…

3405 Views | 13 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/9/2016 12:19:30 AM

We recently received two messages from a new member with the username of ORGASMDONOR. Yes, he wrote that name in CAPS and he got away with that username because the Chinese employee who approved it didn't get what it meant. You be the judge as to whether our reaction was appropriate coming from a Chinese dating site intended for Chinese women and Western men seeking life partners and/or marriage. Read more…

1621 Views | 4 Comments | 0 Articles | 5/31/2016 6:52:17 PM

The following article is based (mostly) on something I read online in the New York Times titled "Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person" by ALAIN de BOTTON. It was so pertinent to dating, including Chinese dating, that I had to share it with you..... Read more…

2083 Views | 5 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/23/2016 5:41:41 PM

There are some, many or numerous foreigners who often make an interesting comment about Chinese people and their social behavior or thinking .  I have heard (and in the beginning years of living with Chinese I also used the same comment ... ) -- Chinese have no logic!!  In other words, these foreigners assert that Chinese social behavior is devoid of rational logical thinking ... So, I am going to write more than enough blog posts to consider this assumption .   Read more…

1692 Views | 3 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/23/2016 12:17:55 PM

I have received enough suggestions ... I write too much and too long and with too much fluff....  Hopefully this is better .. Read more…

1681 Views | 8 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/15/2016 1:42:08 PM

If you really wish to be happy living in China (excluding the SARs and that Island ) Read more…

1166 Views | 1 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/16/2016 4:21:14 PM

满月是一枚婚戒   Read more…

1211 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/14/2016 10:44:57 PM

    The title is concerned with seeking positive social behavior towards others... Read more…

3349 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/3/2016 12:42:42 AM

After all the fights on my "Are You a Player?" article, I still have some truculence left in me and want to talk about the same topic–SEX. John, I don't mean to start the Second CLM War here with this blog, but I feel that I need to talk about a problem that had been bugging me since I visited my current Chinese girlfriend for the first time. Read more…

6346 Views | 48 Comments | 1 Articles | 12/7/2015 7:17:05 PM

“Barry, I love you.”  Tina whispered gently into my ear. “Please never doubt this.”    Read more…

3217 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 11/17/2015 3:58:03 AM

Okay, I admit that maybe I was overreacting but enough is enough! Someone brought to my attention a braindead article that got posted not once, but twice, in two major publications. In it The Telegraph UK and ChinaDailyAsia take the basic approach that every western guy who is attracted to Chinese or Asian women is suffering from a sexual perversion. Needless to say, as someone married to a great Chinese woman, and as co-owner of CLM and ALM, I was more than a little pissed at this crap being published as if it was an unquestioned fact, when it is actually a careless and extremely insulting slur with no basis in fact whatsoever. Read more…

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