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460 Views | 11 Comments | 0 Articles | 7/15/2018 6:28:16 AM

            For five centuries, China was the most powerful nation on Earth and poised to dominate the world.  Why didn't it?  Professor McNeill saw the answer in Chinese culture in general and Confucianism in particular.  Chinese iron production began to drop in the 13th century.  The same foundries that had been producing 30,000 tons of iron a year in the 11th century were barely producing 8,000 tons per year by 1260 and had ceased production altogether by 1736.  The Ming Dynasty forbade private merchants to engage in foreign trade in 1371, a ban that was not lifted until 1567 and by then the initiative had already been lost to the Portuguese.  In 1433, the Chinese navy stopped sailing into the Indian Ocean and in 1436 the Ming Dynasty issued a decree forbidding the construction of sea-going vessels. Read more…

1018 Views | 31 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/24/2018 12:46:36 PM

            When I was attending the University of Maryland, one of the classes I took was History and Culture of China.  Naturally, the material covered in the course included Chinese philosophy and Taoism was featured with some prominence.  The main text for the course, An Introduction to Chinese Civilization edited by John T. Meskill, included a brief synopsis of Taoism.  According to the book, one of the central precepts of Taoism was "Do by Not Doing".  I have to admit that this concept completely escaped me.  My ex-wife later assured me that I could not possibly understand Chinese philosophy unless I could read it in the original Chinese.  I came to accept this simply because I could not conceive how one could ever do something by not doing it.  My mind just could not conjure a scenario where that was even remotely possible. Read more…

489 Views | 5 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/6/2018 10:52:44 AM

My friend Wayne (not his real name) is a medical doctor at a large university hospital.  Twice divorced but ever the optimist, he is currently in search of the woman to spend his remaining years with.  Recently a female researcher from China visited his university.  He was interested, and not only in a scholarly sense, as I deduced from a couple of emails I received from him querying me on matters of Chinese culture. After not hearing from him for a while, I decided to check on  how things were going, and received the following response: Read more…

851 Views | 28 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/5/2018 12:36:35 PM

Many of you familiar with the blogs and forum know that I’m a Christian through the various comments I’ve made there, and the debates I’ve entered into concerning climate change, apologetics, politics, macro-evolution, comparative cultures, US History, Chinese culture, worldviews, religion, and homosexuality.  I’m a Christ-follower who used to be a religious person. I attended church and embraced a New Age/Buddhist/Hindu worldview. I came to trust and follow Jesus while a Senior in High School. Read more…

672 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/21/2018 11:00:55 PM

I started this series by describing an incident that occurred while Yong and I were travelling in which she uttered a statement about the superiority of Chinese culture that seemed dubious to say the least in light of the historical record. Rather than confront the situation with reason and logic (which in my experience are of limited value in any relationship), I suggested that the Developmental Model of Intercultural Sensitivity (DMIS) is a more useful tool to bring to an intercultural relationship.  According to the DMIS, there are six levels at which we can relate to a culture other than our own:  Denial, Defense, Minimization, Acceptance, Adaptation, and Integration. As we progress through the various levels, we come to realize the filter through which we inevitably view other cultures, abandon the ethnocentric belief in the superiority of our own culture and ultimately adopt an ethnorelative stance that grounds itself not in critical judgment but in clear-eyed understanding. Read more…

915 Views | 12 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/14/2018 4:41:40 PM

In the previous entry, I distinguished three initial stages of intercultural understanding: Denial, Defense, and Minimization. All of these stages can be roughly characterized as “ethnocentric” insofar as they assume one culture (usually my own) has the correct stance/attitude on cultural matters. This is a natural enough state for people to exist in and if I had to guess I would say that most of humanity ends up spending their lives in this state—convinced of the rightness and rationality of whatever system of beliefs they happened to have been born into. However, we can only move forward to a level necessary for a healthy cross-cultural dating by abandoning this naïve belief that our culture alone has attained the true way and adopting instead an “ethnorelative” perspective that refuses to pass judgment but instead contents itself with understanding the endless variety of cultural expression. Read more…

813 Views | 8 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/22/2017 4:19:28 PM

Now, one objection that might be raised with respect to the rule with which I ended my previous entry—that one should not say anything negative about China to your Chinese partner—is: Don’t couples need to be truthful with each other? And if the negative statement about China is true, shouldn’t I inform my partner about this fact? Read more…

920 Views | 7 Comments | 1 Articles | 12/14/2017 10:13:42 PM

Yong and I recently returned from a long delayed honeymoon to Greece. The location was her idea. My occupation has fortunately afforded me numerous opportunities to visit the birthplace of Western thought, many of which I have taken advantage of. As a result I have spent by my calculation approximately nine months over the course of my life wandering the islands and mainland, the mountains and seas of that amazing region. Hence, I would have preferred to explore a new part of the globe. But on matters such as where to spend your honeymoon (and on most other matters as well) I have found it best to defer to my Chinese wife. Read more…

896 Views | 12 Comments | 2 Articles | 10/25/2017 9:34:47 PM

Those infamous words from The Eagles' song 'Hotel California' - Read more…

943 Views | 5 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/21/2017 9:06:13 PM

My best mate, of more than 20 years, moved to Australia about 9 years ago. He and his wife have just returned from their first trip abroad. Their desination - Bali. Read more…

1151 Views | 5 Comments | 4 Articles | 4/5/2017 7:27:21 AM

Thanks to China’s rapid economic growth, the culture shock you are likely to experience in China's cities is much more subtle than in rural areas. Read more…

1005 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 8/5/2017 9:25:48 PM

Nothing—not sex, not politics, not money issues—is more important to a relationship/marriage than communication. You might read somewhere that money issues are the single biggest reason for divorce, but dig down and you will find that it was not the money that caused the breakup but the inability to communicate about finances—and often anything else for that matter. Read more…

1216 Views | 9 Comments | 1 Articles | 3/23/2017 10:40:47 PM

Chinese customs seem to be going through a cultural change due to the huge generation gap between people who grew up in rural communities and their children who crave smartphones and other things their parents could never afford. Read more…

1539 Views | 18 Comments | 6 Articles | 3/20/2017 9:46:28 AM

China has long been known for its wonderful ability to copy products. In March this year there was a national 'awareness day' during which people were told to consider the implications of buying 'knock-off' products. Copying products is almost part of Chinese culture itself. Read more…

1742 Views | 9 Comments | 0 Articles | 6/15/2016 10:51:49 PM

“This would never happen in China,” she said, and I had to admit she was absolutely right. Taking away citizens’ right to own a gun removes the possibility of mass killings in a society the same way that getting a vasectomy eliminates the possibility of becoming a father. Although I recall reading a year or so ago about a killing at a train station in Kunming where a guy with a knife killed 4 or 5 people, that scenario is light years from the killing of 50 and wounding of 53  that had just taken place at a nightclub in Orlando. Read more…

1430 Views | 3 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/21/2016 5:17:43 AM

Within just twelve hours of waking up from my nightmare, we had arrived at the entrance of the cave in Guilin just as the other visitors lined up and sank into its dark, shadowy mouth. We, too, with the other woman—who brought the tickets for us and whose name I didn't even know—queued in to be swallowed up and then expelled through another opening of the cave less than an hour later. Read more…

707 Views | 2 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/15/2016 10:39:56 PM

墙上挂着四幅画: Read more…

2613 Views | 27 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/12/2016 3:07:38 PM

My first blog will be my first experience in Taiwan ... and my goals for blogging will be .. Read more…

2291 Views | 27 Comments | 8 Articles | 2/21/2016 1:30:42 PM

After four memorable trips and going on a year or so of living in China - ranging from extreme urban areas such as Shanghai, Nanjing and Hangzhou through to the rural regions of Sichuan Province  -  I feel reasonably qualified to present a few random recollections and experiences of China. Those with a low boredom threshold please stop reading now.  Those idiots, fools and persons of low character, please also stop reading now.  This series of articles is intended only for the intelligentsia amongst us.  Read more…

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