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1239 Views | 98 Comments | 3 Articles | 6/14/2018 12:24:48 PM

Anger within me, camouflaged so well Read more…

743 Views | 34 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/31/2018 6:02:04 AM

            You know, the whole "Oh my God, you won't ever get a date with those profile pictures" would have carried a great deal more weight were it not for the fact that 34 CLM members and 12 ALM members have contacted me despite my profile pictures.  A couple of them have contacted more than once and one was so interested in me that she has contacted me no fewer than three times despite the fact that I have told her that I was not interested in her twice already.  I have said this before, too.  But like I said, not everyone reads every comment.  I simply have not been convinced that I was discouraging "worthy" potential partners because of my profile pictures.  I have been convinced that I have been discouraging the shallow, the gold diggers, the ones searching for trophy husbands and the ones primarily interested in impressing the outside world rather than pleasing themselves. Read more…

1447 Views | 68 Comments | 3 Articles | 5/18/2018 11:49:49 AM

"Dark recesses within the mind of maleficent man Read more…

604 Views | 14 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/31/2018 5:57:28 AM

            I began studying Latin in high school.  We used a textbook which employed Latin proverbs to help teach the language.  The author obviously intended to kill two birds with one stone, teaching us about ancient Roman thought as well as their language.  Among these proverbs were ars gratia artis, "art for the sake of art", amor omnia vincit, "love conquers all", and vestis virum reddit, "clothes make the man".  This last one obviously bore the greatest significance to the subject of this blog, my profile pictures. Read more…

832 Views | 22 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/23/2018 6:14:24 AM

            Since Melcyan and, I suspect, others as well, were interested in reading about how I met my ex-wife, I decided to make that the subject of my next blog entry.  At the beginning of 2009, I had spent the last nine months dating online.  During that time, I was using E-Harmony and was not specifically looking for East Asian women.  I found the experience rather disappointing.  I was surprised at how few of my "highly compatible" matches were interesting to me and how few of them were interested in me. Read more…

1125 Views | 15 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/9/2018 10:00:17 PM

            Every day I checked to see if she has logged-in again, and every day I was both disappointed and relieved that she has not.  I was disappointed that she has not logged-in and read my messages, thus proving my interpretation of the fact pattern correct.  I was relieved that she has not proven my interpretation false by logging-in and then failing to read my messages. Read more…

956 Views | 22 Comments | 0 Articles | 2/9/2018 9:57:45 PM

            I had peace of mind for the next nine days as I waited patiently for my almost perfect match to return from her vacation.  But on the tenth day, I began to feel uneasy again.  I dealt with my uneasiness by sending two more messages to my almost perfect match.  The first message was short, just a reassurance that I was still waiting patiently for her.  The second one was to correct a mistake which I had made in my second message.  Those mistakes revolved around some confusion which I had about the time stamps on CLM. Read more…

845 Views | 18 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/26/2018 11:17:40 PM

            At 6:00 p.m. I had resolved to upgrade my CLM membership.  I attempted to pay for the upgrade but I immediately ran into a problem.  The only card I had available to make the payment was the ATM card associated with my primary checking account.  Unfortunately, the card was a Mastercard and, for reasons involving international banking, PayPal would not accept it.  After three hours of fruitless attempts to use my bank card to pay for my upgrade, I sent an e-mail to CLM's customer support to ask them why I couldn't pay for my upgrade with a Mastercard. Read more…

437 Views | 2 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/22/2018 11:09:35 PM

Before I start on this blog, I want to share with you a rather funny story....... Read more…

744 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/2/2018 3:21:58 AM

            I vividly remember a case on another dating website where I encountered a woman with three or four pictures in her profile.  Her primary picture showed her wearing a business suit.  I did not find that picture particularly attractive but there was another picture showing her riding a lawn tractor.  She was dressed casually and she was not wearing any make-up or jewelry and that was the picture that made me interested in her.  That was the picture where I felt she looked the most beautiful and that was the picture that attracted me to her.  If her primary picture had been the only picture on her profile, I would not have given her a second glance.  I certainly would not have tried to contact her.  Naturally, she was an Asian woman living in Virginia and at the time she was a couple of years older than me. Read more…

876 Views | 23 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/29/2017 3:36:46 PM

When I was writing about my ideal match it never occurred to me that anyone would seriously object when I said that she would be both beautiful and sexy.  But then again, I had forgotten what I had learned in speech communication class:  that we interpret all forms of communication, even written communication, through the prism of our beliefs, experiences, emotions, and prejudices.  Thus, the reader will never perceive the message in the same way that it was originally conceived by the writer.  Words such as 'beauty' and 'sexy' are far more open to interpretation than others. Read more…

3735 Views | 65 Comments | 5 Articles | 9/3/2017 8:42:08 AM

Yet again, my eyes cast down. I felt to be an awful clown, living in a land where there was now no purpose to be. Because of she. The woman I loved. Great God above. What was I to do? Staring disconsolately at the floor however gave me no answers. Life was never this simple, but rather, an intricate architecture of highs and lows, taunts and teases, tragedy and triumph. Read more…

831 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/24/2017 12:10:02 AM

If I let you into a little secret, John has mentioned, on a couple of occasions, that recent blogs have had little to do with online dating. Let's fix that, shall we? Read more…

3573 Views | 42 Comments | 5 Articles | 7/15/2017 12:24:47 PM

This series unapologetically delves into the depths of the traumatic breakup with my former partner Lily and its immediate aftermath, including what happened in the fraught days and weeks following the separation. Writing it is providing a much needed catharsis, releasing me from many negative emotions associated with the galling break up. Read more…

1680 Views | 21 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/8/2016 11:26:49 PM

So, Trump became the new President of the 'Divided States of America'.....Yay ! Read more…

1527 Views | 27 Comments | 1 Articles | 7/2/2017 2:12:31 PM

This story continues from the last article.  It describes the day after I’d been unceremoniously kicked to the kerb by my last girlfriend, Lily. One of the less joyous times of my life. One that even to this day, is etched painfully into my memory. It's easy to say "Well, as one door closes, another one opens". Read more…

1588 Views | 24 Comments | 4 Articles | 6/14/2017 3:47:18 PM

"To see a world in a grain of sand, And heaven in a wild flower, Hold infinity in the palm of your hand, And eternity in an hour"  Read more…

1577 Views | 14 Comments | 3 Articles | 5/16/2017 12:21:36 AM

“In order to find yourself, first you must lose yourself.“  I felt rather annoyed by the smug words written in the stupid book in front of me. A supposedly learned treatise on how to live life and feel better. What utter bullshit it was!  How dare they suggest that people should become dysfunctional or desperate, before somehow miraculously stumbling across some sort of supposed salvation. Much better to simply skip the bit about becoming lost and go straight to deliverance! Read more…

1121 Views | 9 Comments | 1 Articles | 3/23/2017 10:40:47 PM

Chinese customs seem to be going through a cultural change due to the huge generation gap between people who grew up in rural communities and their children who crave smartphones and other things their parents could never afford. Read more…

2034 Views | 28 Comments | 3 Articles | 5/1/2017 12:22:12 PM

Learned  people inherently knew there were three channels to learn wisdom. The first method was by pondering and reflection, that supposedly was the most noble way. But this was for people smarter than me who sat cross-legged in caves all day and ate nothing but lettuce leaves. Read more…

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