Chinese Women, Asian Women, Online Dating & Things Chinese and Asian
2334 Views | 61 Comments | 5 Articles | 9/3/2017 8:42:08 AM

Yet again, my eyes cast down. I felt to be an awful clown, living in a land where there was now no purpose to be. Because of she. The woman I loved. Great God above. What was I to do? Staring disconsolately at the floor however gave me no answers. Life was never this simple, but rather, an intricate architecture of highs and lows, taunts and teases, tragedy and triumph. Read more…

536 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/24/2017 12:10:02 AM

If I let you into a little secret, John has mentioned, on a couple of occasions, that recent blogs have had little to do with online dating. Let's fix that, shall we? Read more…

2640 Views | 42 Comments | 5 Articles | 7/15/2017 12:24:47 PM

This series unapologetically delves into the depths of the traumatic breakup with my former partner Lily and its immediate aftermath, including what happened in the fraught days and weeks following the separation. Writing it is providing a much needed catharsis, releasing me from many negative emotions associated with the galling break up. Read more…

1222 Views | 21 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/8/2016 11:26:49 PM

So, Trump became the new President of the 'Divided States of America'.....Yay ! Read more…

1110 Views | 27 Comments | 1 Articles | 7/2/2017 2:12:31 PM

This story continues from the last article.  It describes the day after I’d been unceremoniously kicked to the kerb by my last girlfriend, Lily. One of the less joyous times of my life. One that even to this day, is etched painfully into my memory. It's easy to say "Well, as one door closes, another one opens". Read more…

1158 Views | 24 Comments | 4 Articles | 6/14/2017 3:47:18 PM

"To see a world in a grain of sand, And heaven in a wild flower, Hold infinity in the palm of your hand, And eternity in an hour"  Read more…

1216 Views | 14 Comments | 3 Articles | 5/16/2017 12:21:36 AM

“In order to find yourself, first you must lose yourself.“  I felt rather annoyed by the smug words written in the stupid book in front of me. A supposedly learned treatise on how to live life and feel better. What utter bullshit it was!  How dare they suggest that people should become dysfunctional or desperate, before somehow miraculously stumbling across some sort of supposed salvation. Much better to simply skip the bit about becoming lost and go straight to deliverance! Read more…

835 Views | 9 Comments | 1 Articles | 3/23/2017 10:40:47 PM

Chinese customs seem to be going through a cultural change due to the huge generation gap between people who grew up in rural communities and their children who crave smartphones and other things their parents could never afford. Read more…

1554 Views | 28 Comments | 3 Articles | 5/1/2017 12:22:12 PM

Learned  people inherently knew there were three channels to learn wisdom. The first method was by pondering and reflection, that supposedly was the most noble way. But this was for people smarter than me who sat cross-legged in caves all day and ate nothing but lettuce leaves. Read more…

629 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 3/7/2017 5:56:18 AM

Spring Festival in China is a tradition that involves the biggest human migration in the world. People from all over China head home to visit their family. Many of those young people who are still single are filled with dread, instead of excitement, at seeing their family again. They must face the wrath of their parents and grandparents for not being married. Read more…

3415 Views | 78 Comments | 3 Articles | 3/19/2017 12:29:42 PM

For those new to my blogs, this article is a continuation of the story that can be seen in the link below.  For the sake of continuity, it might pay newcomers to read the previous blog, before starting on this current one. Read more…

1266 Views | 18 Comments | 0 Articles | 10/25/2016 11:03:08 PM

For a Western man interested in Chinese dating, his becoming a member of CLM is as welcomed by many Chinese women as a portion of fried chicken is by the poorest people of Africa. Read more…

2703 Views | 37 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/16/2016 2:06:55 AM

Recently a new member posted a thread on the Forum in which he expressed concerns on a number of items, but specifically was concerned that he had messaged one member twice and so far not received a reply. He originally sent it as a letter to CLM, but we suggested he post a thread in order to get a broader range of responses. This blog is my in response to that thread, which you can find here: Read more…

971 Views | 4 Comments | 0 Articles | 5/31/2016 6:52:17 PM

The following article is based (mostly) on something I read online in the New York Times titled "Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person" by ALAIN de BOTTON. It was so pertinent to dating, including Chinese dating, that I had to share it with you..... Read more…

1667 Views | 3 Comments | 0 Articles | 6/20/2016 8:31:20 AM

Asian and Chinese internet dating is, like all online dating, rife with people trying to disengage you from your cash through various forms of internet scams. We try to protect you from these people and one of our best lines of defence is member reporting which we highly encourage. Unlike most dating sites who simply pretend sammers don't exist, we investigate every report and it is one of the best tools we have for getting rid of these people who are at best a waste of your time and at worst extremely vile criminals.  Read more…

16570 Views | 254 Comments | 8 Articles | 5/14/2016 12:49:47 PM

“Love is poison. A sweet poison, yes, but it will kill you all the same.” (excerpt from ”Game of Thrones”). Read more…

735 Views | 9 Comments | 0 Articles | 4/22/2016 10:14:13 AM

When I first came to my QLV to take up my job as an English teacher, I was given the task of teaching a subject called 'Civics'. 'What the hell is civics?' I thought, yet dare not speak the words aloud for fear of making myself look 'ignorant' in the eyes of my Chinese boss. Read more…

997 Views | 3 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/1/2016 12:43:02 AM

We had a fuzzy end to the year as a few of the bloggers (myself included) went to war. And a few members chipped in. Luckily sanity prevailed and everything settled on a good note. Perhaps it was a blessing in disguise as it maybe reminded us in the end that there are many things more important for us to spend our time and efforts on than whether or not a blogger’s choice of topics or writing style suits us. All the people who contributed to those few days of folly are good people with good intentions, so it shows how easily we can lose our common sense and do silly things or fail to do the right thing as a result. Read more…

2215 Views | 10 Comments | 0 Articles | 11/17/2015 3:58:03 AM

Okay, I admit that maybe I was overreacting but enough is enough! Someone brought to my attention a braindead article that got posted not once, but twice, in two major publications. In it The Telegraph UK and ChinaDailyAsia take the basic approach that every western guy who is attracted to Chinese or Asian women is suffering from a sexual perversion. Needless to say, as someone married to a great Chinese woman, and as co-owner of CLM and ALM, I was more than a little pissed at this crap being published as if it was an unquestioned fact, when it is actually a careless and extremely insulting slur with no basis in fact whatsoever. Read more…

2610 Views | 35 Comments | 5 Articles | 10/2/2015 2:24:14 PM

Following a few days settling in to my new teacher's quarters, my first English class was looming.  In fact, it was the very next day.  Having never had any teaching experience,  I was understandably a bit nervous. Read more…

Index of Blogs
Index Blog Articles