Chinese Women, Asian Women, Online Dating & Things Chinese and Asian
Peter lived for nearly a half-decade in China, including two as a Peace Corps volunteer, and is the author of Socrates in Sichuan: Chinese Students Search for Truth, Justice and the (Chinese) Way. It is the intention of his blog to foster the sort of intercultural understanding necessary for long term relationships.
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Online Dating and Deception

8065 Views | 26 Comments | 0 Articles | 11/12/2013 5:01:21 PM

Some things are not forgiveable. Deliberate cruelty is not forgiveable. It is the most unforgiveable thing in my opinion, and the one thing in which I have never, ever been guilty.” (Tennessee Williams, "A Streetcar Named Desire").  Lately I've been thinking about deception and online dating. The two things seem to go together, like China's economic growth and horrendous air quality: generally positive phenomena with dark shadow sides. Read more…

Zen and the Art of International Online Dating

2968 Views | 9 Comments | 0 Articles | 9/13/2013 6:13:32 PM
Several years ago the abbot at a Zen Buddhist residential center where I was staying for three months requested that I cease writing for China Love Match for the duration of my stay. When I asked why, I was told that this was not an issue for debate but was a requirement of my continued residence. Since I had already written enough columns to cover this period and I was intending on taking a break from writing anyway, I agreed to his conditions. Read more…

They're All So Beautiful, Part 2

4192 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 8/16/2013 4:20:51 PM
What is the stereotype of the Asian female in the Western mind? Does it play any role in the reason some Western men want to date Asian females? These are the questions that take up the bulk of Pars 2 & 3 of "They're All So Beautiful." This, recall, is the web documentary by Debbie Lum (director of "Single Asian Female"), which examines the phenomenon of Western men attracted to Asian women. Read more…

They're All So Beautiful

4091 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 8/7/2013 3:25:13 AM
I just finished watching a web miniseries on Western men dating Asian women. Titled “They’re All So Beautiful,” the series was created by Debbie Lum, who directed the documentary film “Seeking Asian Female,” a film that has been discussed in blogs on this site. Read more…

Chinese Women Waiting in Vain

10529 Views | 32 Comments | 1 Articles | 7/27/2013 3:43:12 PM
Recently I’ve heard some distressing things from Chinese women. For once, it did not involve my limited prospects with them. Rather, the discussions in question concerned their attitude towards the process of finding long-term relationships. In a relatively short period of time, several different China women from very different age groups all expressed the same sentiment to me: they believed that if they just wait around and go about their days as usual that love will find them, that they have to make no special effort because you cannot go out and look for love but must wait for it to find you. Read more…

Zombie Man!

2694 Views | 3 Comments | 0 Articles | 7/16/2013 4:01:13 PM
Here at China Love Match, the process of international online dating will ultimately lead many to international travel. For those who haven’t had the joy of this experience, I offer the following record of one such trip: my recent journey from Chiang Mai, Thailand to Tucson, Arizona. Hopefully it will help you to know what to expect when it comes time for your China travel. Since the trip crosses time zones and the international dateline, I will use UCT or Universal Coordinated Time (which is the same as Greenwich Mean Time) as the standard. Read more…

Speed Dating in China

3263 Views | 4 Comments | 0 Articles | 7/14/2013 12:33:53 PM
What if there was a medical test that immediately eliminated 95% of people as potential carriers of a disease and allowed you focus precious resources to perform a much more extensive exam on those who remained? Wouldn't it make sense to use that short, simple test to screen the population rather than force every single person to submit to the more extensive medical test? Read more…


4722 Views | 4 Comments | 0 Articles | 7/8/2013 5:32:00 PM
Three or four girls sit disinterestedly on a couple of wooden benches, lazily calling out "massage" in a half-hearted manner to passerbys on Lahkroi Street, only it is more like "Maaay Saahge!" One can understand their reluctance to put much effort into this activity. They are competing with literally dozens of similar places within a few block radius for at most a handful of potential customers. Their success rate has got to be, what, like one in a couple of hundred, or more like one in a couple thousand. But still, business being business, and their business being massage, one must persist. Although it is well before noon the day is hot and you are drenched. Thankfully, the clouds provide some relief, but it may only be temporary; the forecast is for sunshine. Read more…

Not in China Anymore

3103 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 6/28/2013 4:16:30 PM
There is scene in the Chinese smash hit movie Lost in Thailand, about a business trip to Chiang Mai gone awry, where the main character has arrived at the Bangkok airport. Wishing to get to his intended destination as quickly as possible, he jumps into a cab and frantically urges the driver to beep his horn to get the car front to move. The cab driver tells him to relax. He is in Thailand. There is no beeping in Thailand. They will get there when they get there. Read more…

An Ugly American

3370 Views | 8 Comments | 0 Articles | 6/19/2013 4:26:11 PM
Sometimes I think there ought to be a minimum amount of time that one is required to reside in China before being allowed to write anything about it. Otherwise you get pieces like the one I just read in an online magazine called Escape from America titled “A Foreigner’s First Thoughts on Living in Chinese Culture,” a collection of misperceptions, falsehoods and inanities. I can’t in good conscience encourage you to read the entire piece. But I will present some of its greatest hits (sarcasm intended) in order to see what you should avoid if you want to write intelligent commentary on China. Read more…
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