"Get's down to what it's all about. Making the wrong move at the right time." Read more…

So in the last post I discussed a New York Times article that supposedly provided a quick way to deepen a relationship. The method, described in the article “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This,” consisted of asking and answering a series of 36 questions with someone you are considering a relationship with and want to get to know in more depth. Read more…

One problem that confronts the dedicated user of China Love Match is how to get to know another person in enough depth that you want to fly half way around the world to check them out as a potential mate.  For those who are not living in China, this is standard operating procedure:  to choose from among the bounty of Chinese women presented on the site a small number to visit and then, from those few, to hopefully find one you wish to get serious about and settle down with. Read more…

I never met Gareth. In person, that is. I knew him, as most of you reading this will, through his writings. But that is not an inconsequential way to get to know someone. Indeed, most writers will tell you that this is their preferred way of interacting with the world. Read more…

Have we all gone insane? Read more…

Although there are numerous reasons Western men provide for explaining why they join international online dating sites like China Love Match, one that is frequently mentioned is feminism. Now it seems that Western men are not the only ones who have a problem with feminism.  A tumblr account "Women Against Feminism" has sparked quite a bit of controversy by portraying women holding up signs detailing their reasons for being opposed to feminism.  Here are some of what the signs are saying. Read more…

I received the following email the other day on CLM from a 28 yo Chinese female. Read more…

In his eBook “Online Dating in Seven Steps,” John states that free online dating sites pretty much follow the old adage “you get what you pay for.” While I had no reason to doubt him on this, I am also an empiricist, the sort of person who needs to find things out for himself.  This has gotten me in trouble more than a few times in my life, starting in Catholic grade school. My inherent skepticism was not appreciated then, and people have not exactly warmed to it in the ensuing years. And so it was with the free dating sites. I just had to see if the situation was as desolate as it was depicted. Read more…

When it comes to international online dating, there are certainly choices. Although eHarmony and match.com are perceived primarily as domestic dating sites, each of these sites has international options as well. In the case of eHarmony, the same website covers both domestic and international dating, while match.com requires international members to purchase a separate membership. Below are my impressions of these sites. Read more…

Relationships with Asian women tend to follow what are referred to as traditional gender patterns, with the women assuming a more passive role and men a more active one. By contrast, in Western dating things tend to be more egalitarian, with men and women sharing chores, responsibilities and roles. Indeed, a criticism one not infrequently hears from Western women about Western male-Asian female relationships is that they perpetuate stereotypical roles. According to a recent study, however, it is Asian women are getting the last laugh—and more sex. Read more…