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Peter lived for nearly a half-decade in China, including two as a Peace Corps volunteer, and is the author of Socrates in Sichuan: Chinese Students Search for Truth, Justice and the (Chinese) Way. It is the intention of his blog to foster the sort of intercultural understanding necessary for long term relationships.
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3778 Views | 9 Comments | 0 Articles | 7/15/2017 1:40:15 PM

Yong and I are at the doctor’s office. She has had some worrying symptoms lately. Indeed, the fact that we are here is some indication of the severity of the problem. The Chinese medical model does not dictate running to the doctor’s office at the first sign of a cough or occurrence of a broken fingernail. Instead there exists a list of foods you should or shouldn’t eat depending upon your specific condition as well as a host of concoctions to ingest to assist in the healing process. Read more…

What are a Chinese woman and Western man doing in India?

1459 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 5/10/2017 4:19:05 AM

This India adventure has been interesting. Four months as a Fulbright scholar has offered me the opportunity to interact with Indian college students, Uber drivers, and vegetable vendors; to walk in the footsteps of the Buddha, trace the journey of Rama, and float on the holy Ganges; to view Bollywood movies, Indian art shows, and the classical dance form of Bharatanatyam; to learn the difference among nan, roti, and paratha, as well as that among tabla, tampura, and sitar. In short, to experience first-hand—even if only in a limited and at an ultimately superficial level—India. Read more…

Intercultural Relationships and the Holidays

1760 Views | 6 Comments | 0 Articles | 1/18/2017 1:11:10 PM

“If all the year were playing holidays/To sport would be as tedious as to work.” --Shakespeare Read more…

A Chinese Woman Living in the Four Seasons

1944 Views | 2 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/30/2016 7:29:32 AM

[Note: In case anyone is wondering how things our going for Yong eight months after our marriage, here is an essay she wrote for her ESL class about her life in the west so far....Peter] Read more…

Cross Cultural Issues: Stealing Flowers

1524 Views | 5 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/13/2016 12:49:08 PM

So Yong wanted flowers. Usually this is one of her easier requests of her life in the West to fulfill. Certainly much easier than her request for “real” Chinese food, which requires a seventy-mile trip to Chicago’s Chinatown. Read more…

This Could Never Happen in China

2226 Views | 9 Comments | 0 Articles | 6/18/2016 1:24:01 PM

“This would never happen in China,” she said, and I had to admit she was absolutely right. Taking away citizens’ right to own a gun removes the possibility of mass killings in a society the same way that getting a vasectomy eliminates the possibility of becoming a father. Although I recall reading a year or so ago about a killing at a train station in Kunming where a guy with a knife killed 4 or 5 people, that scenario is light years from the killing of 50 and wounding of 53  that had just taken place at a nightclub in Orlando. Read more…

Food for Thought

3910 Views | 8 Comments | 3 Articles | 5/22/2016 9:49:08 AM

I once interviewed a Chinese poet who made an interesting, probably inaccurate, but ultimately insightful claim about intercultural relationships.  Asked why the number of Chinese men who dated western women was relatively small compared to the number of Chinese women who dated western men, he replied in one word: breakfast.  Chinese men had a clear idea of what they wanted for the first meal of the day (and for every other meal as well) and were not interested in the compromise, negotiation, or god forbid change, in dietary habits that a relationship with a western woman would entail. While we in the West obsess about appearances or fret about emotional compatibility, the Chinese mind, as is its nature, focuses on a practical, earthy, and ultimately much more relevant issue. Looks fade and disagreements are inevitable; but meals are forever, a permanent part of the marriage landscape. Read more…


6774 Views | 17 Comments | 1 Articles | 4/5/2016 6:00:20 AM

The international terminal at Chicago O’Hare is a relatively modest affair compared to its futuristic United counterpart at the same site, that airline’s largest, or compared to any of the four other terminals for that matter. Terminal 5 as it’s known is also separated from the rest of the airport so that reaching it requires either boarding an above ground train or getting on a shuttle and taking an escalator down to a nondescript waiting area. Read more…

This is Only a Test

4237 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 12/4/2015 3:09:59 PM

[Readers may be interested (but not required) to read the previous blogposts in this series, which describes a visit to America by one exceptionally daring Chinese woman.] Don't Do This with a Chinese Woman and First Sight Read more…

First Sight

4497 Views | 7 Comments | 0 Articles | 8/30/2015 4:04:42 PM

I arrived at the airport early, my mind a jumble of conflicting emotions. Excited, yes, about the possibility of a relationship with the Chinese woman I was going to meet; nervous, of course, about how we would get along, what we would talk about, what the weather would be like on our camping trip. But the dominant emotion was dread—the dread that comes from anticipating a confrontation with the unknown, the outcome of which is both significant and uncontrollable. Within a nanosecond of meeting face to face—before the words “how was your flight?” would leave my lips—I would know whether this relationship had a future. Read more…

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