There’s something quite amazing going on over in the CLM Forum, and I suspect that the CLM men may be pretty much unaware of it.  While we’ve all been watching the “adventures of Imi past” and the “adventures of Barry present” unravel in the blogs, there’s now another personal love adventure happening in the Forum capturing a ton of attention. This is the true story of the two month sojourn of LoveF into the Canadian city of Vancouver, to meet in real life, and to reside with, her online sweetheart, Fbear, and it is being told as it unfolds. Read more…

I started a thread a while back in which I asked people to comment regarding the stars of Imi's current blog series "My Love for Lily" and address two positions I had suggested: Read more…

Lily has just posted a great blog in which she describes how her online Chinese dating relationship with a Swedish man evolved and ultimately wound down. It really is a terrific read to get an idea about the thinking process a Chinese woman might go through over the course of determining whether a Western man is right for her or not. I think more than anything, it really tells us how much thought and analysis women put into relationships as compared to men. This is perhaps even more true of Chinese women than most other women, and it is perhaps even more true of Lily than of most Chinese women. But nonetheless there is little doubt that women do a lot more analyzing than men in the relationship game. Read more…

We recently received a letter from a member who was asking just that: “Is ChinaLoveMatch.net a Scam Dating Site?”  Well not in those exact words, but it is certainly what he meant. When the message was brought to my attention I was a little shocked. Nobody has accused us of Chinese dating scams up to now, and given our anti-scam efforts I was perhaps a little defensive in my response.  Of course, we like to think we are one of the best Chinese dating sites (well, actually we think we are the very best, but I am trying to be modest here). Below is the exchange of messages that passed between us. In the end they might actually be of more interest because it evolved into a discussion of how to not to scare interested Chinese women away by pushing too fast for a meeting, once the chinalovematch scams discussion came to a close. Read more…

As a lawyer, I got very used to hearing a quite famous line about lawyers. In fact my then wife, from an earlier life, was the one who most frequently loved to mock me by repeating it at every party we ever attended. But I didn’t mind because it really is a way for people to make fun of lawyers that does no harm to anyone. Everybody loves to hate lawyers, but there generally remains an underlying respect for the fact that without the best lawyers, the truly gifted and honorable ones, the world today would be a harsher and much less free world than it is.  Ok, ok, ok – I digressed, but there is a point. Read more…

I just received a Skype message today from my good friend, and fellow CLM blogger, Justin Mitchell, in which he reminded me of our earlier times together in Shenzhen, China. Justin had posted a blog in his own blogs (not on CLM) back at the time, being 2003, in which he wrote about a night spent partly in the bar I owned back in those days.  It was a little bar called Moondance, and was pretty popular with expats in China, which also tended to draw a lot of curious Chinese who were still looking to watch foreigners in action back in those days. Read more…