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John Abbot is co-owner of ChinaLoveMatch.net. Married to a lovely Chinese Lady and living in China, John knows and respects China, Chinese Women, Chinese People and Chinese Culture. His blog will include good stuff about Online Dating, Chinese Women, International Relationships and Things Chinese. Join John Abbot on Google+
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#2011-05-27 14:18:49 by towa

Hello John. I LIVE IN LONDON.I M BLACK AFRICAIN .HOW CAN i GET UN WOMEN FROM GUAGZHOO WHO SPEAKS ENGLISH. thank you.

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Hi towa, thanks for writing. I'm not sure how to answer this question, partly because I'm not certain what "UN WOMEN" means. However, the first thing you have to do is practise good Online Dating procedures. Regardless of your ethnicity, your skin colour or your Nationality, nobody is going to be interested in you if you have not posted photos, have not described yourself in more than a few short words, and have not described who you are looking for. So the first thing you need to do is clean up your own act and get your profile in order. Show yourself off in the best possible light.

Next, face the fact that as our stats seem so show, not all Chinese women are attracted to your ethnicity or skin colour. Forget them they don't know what they're missing. If they have closed minds, you wouldn't want to be with them anyway, and neither would I. So concentrate on those who are interested in you. There are still lots of them judging by those same stats.

So now that you're profile is complete and you're "lookin good" start messaging those ladies in Guangzhou who have indicated they are not adverse to meeting you. Those ladies already appear to have an open mind and therefore they're a great catch. Create amusing and catchy messages that will instantly have them wondering about you, wanting to know more.

In reality, on CLM, you improve your chances of meeting the ladies by about 10 times by upgrading. It's that simple and I'm sure it is true on all the paid sites. This isn't intended as a sales pitch, and only you can set your priorities as far as your budget goes, but if you're really seriously seeking a lifemate, then you need to recognize that by being a Gold member you automatically do 2 things. First you suddenly have access to about 9 times more ladies who cannot themselves afford to upgrade, or simply take the position that upgrading is the man's job. Secondly, you shine a light on yourself - you are saying "I am serious here, I want to meet my lady, and cost is not an object to me doing so." To women, not just Chinese women but all women, their prospective mate has to be capable of providing at least the necessary means of caring for the family. They need security, and seeing that you can pay for an upgrade in order to meet them tells them something about you that they need to know - you won't scrimp when it comes to meeting their needs, because right out of the gate you have paid for the ability to communicate with them.

Frankly, none of this advice has anything much to do with the fact you are Black or from Africa. My advice would be the same to anyone. Focus only on women who are not disinterested in you, present yourself in the best possible light and be very proactive in getting out there and meeting as many ladies as you can.

I hope that was at least a little bit helpful.
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