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Born in the UK but now living in Australia, Paul Fox has travelled to many places throughout China. He has seen the lighter side, the darker side, both the gentle and the seedy sides. He documents his experiences and is willing to share them with anyone who wants to listen. He is not afraid to say things exactly how he sees them, and is quite happy to "name and shame" when necessary.
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Chinese Culture - You Couldn't Make It Up.......Could You?    

By Paul Fox
2456 Views | 18 Comments | 4/22/2017 11:26:47 PM
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#2017-05-01 16:43:39 by melcyan @melcyan

 “Besides, I have heard female (Chinese) colleagues mentioning watching porn to make up for the learning deficit.” Jiansong


“I also know many Chinese women who watch porn. Not because of what it is, but because they feel they can actually LEARN from it “ Paul Fox


This is not the first time that I have read words like these on CLM. I don’t doubt that it happens. How incredibly sad that some Chinese women see this as a way for improving their knowledge about sex. I cannot think of a poorer learning experience.


These ladies need to be informed that the biggest learning deficit lies within the brain of the porn addict.


There is a lot written on the internet about how porn can both help and harm relationship development. Mostly it harms. Ladies, if your guy loves you and respects you he will never try to get you to do something that you do not want to.


The porn industry caters for their biggest source of income – the porn addict. The porn addict needs bigger and bigger hits. Nothing is out of bounds. It is no coincidence that pornographic images of minors are rapidly increasing. It is no coincidence that the demands made on prostitutes are becoming more and more extreme. It is no coincidence that a sex slave industry is now emerging and permeating the world of prostitution so that these extreme demands can be met.


Great sex (and libido) depends on how you use your brain, not your penis or vagina. @paulfox1, it certainly doesn’t depend on penis size.(that false belief produces yet another huge money making industry on the internet) Your quality of sex varies according to how much you value yourself and your partner. If your brain is geared towards love, respect and understanding and you choose your partner accordingly, then great sex is almost inevitable.

#2017-05-01 23:55:51 by anonymous16021 @anonymous16021

On my many trips to China I have noticed most corner markets, supermarkets all carry a vast selection of condoms and womens vibrators. In the little corner stores they are right at the checkout or cash register. I have also noticed in the last year or so full blown "sex toy" shops have opened up and not just a few. When walking by these shops I have noticed mostly women perusing the inside of these stores. Out of curiosity one day I went inside one of the shops and more than a few women customers were going gaga over the realiastic dongs especially the big ones. I am a little bit sad to see this trend happening in China as I am not sure it(sex toys/porn) is a good thing for the Chinese culture.

I agree with Paul that the chinese condoms are far too small so I bring my own supply from home. You can also see many signs in Pharmacies advertising sale of Viagra and Cialis, you do not see these kinds of signs in Pharmacies in my country lol  For a bit of fun I asked a lady who runs the corner store near my partners home if they carried XL condoms the lady said there was "no need" for that size in China...I shyte you not.



#2017-05-02 13:37:05 by Barry1 @Barry1



"During a recent trip to a zoo in LuoHe, a man took his son to see the lion. He wanted his son to hear the lion 'roar'. Instead of a 'roar', it 'barked'. The lion had been replaced by a Tibetan Mastiff dog, in a lion's costume (see picture). This has to rate as being one of the funniest things I have seen in China so far."


I'm not sure why you're laughing Paul.  This animal looks as near as dammit to a genuine, real life lion.  A great reproduction of a mighty jungle beast, if you ask me!   (rofl)(rofl)(rofl)

#2017-05-03 08:14:30 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


There's one I know of in my QLV (Quaint Little Village). Imagine a small shop but without a front facade or door. Essentially just 3 walls. On each wall there are a couple of dozen independent vending machines. Each vending machine is essentially a kind of box containing anything from a dildo to a blow-up sex doll.

#2017-05-03 08:19:15 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Back in the days when I used to come to China on business, I was regularly taken out for dinner and then on to a KTV (Karaoke). These venues were always full of female 'escorts' that one could hire in one of 3 ways. The first way was simply to have her company for drinks and singing, the other 2 involved her company in more intimate ways - but we wonlt get into that. The fact is quite simply that there were/are a great many of these girls who would never allow themselves to be 'hired' by a Western man - not even for drinks-only fun.

This was always due to the fact that they were frightened of the stereotypical issue of a Westen guy's 'manhood'.




#2017-05-03 11:59:33 by melcyan @melcyan

Porn needs to be covered in sex education, because if good healthy sex is a goal then PORN is a good example of what not to do.


“great sex is born out of great communication” You will never find examples of great communication in porn. Great communication is not just words, it is also our 24-hours-a-day actions.


The author of the words "great sex is born out of great communication", Cindy Gallop, can be seen giving a TED talk “Make love not porn” on this link


I find her words to be very powerful.


I believe strongly in the value of a loving monogamous relationship, so I would modify her words to the following “great sex is born out of great communication built on a foundation of love”


Cindy is not against porn. She is pro quality real life sex. Porn and quality real world sex have nothing in common. What good communicating lovers do in the real world is hotter and more amazing than anything we will ever see in porn.


Some porn movie stars, who are actually real life couples, have started producing videos for Cindy’s website showing great sex that is real with great communication. They believe that a more open, honest and healthy dialogue about sex can be created. Porn is the antithesis of this goal.

#2017-05-19 05:08:46 by anonymous16082 @anonymous16082

@JohnAbbot Hi John,why is Jiansong's profile deleted? Is he a scam ? His comments seem sensible.

Paul, sorry for taking up the space.

#2017-05-19 13:08:08 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@anonymous16082 - @Jiansong cancelled his own membership. I am not at liberty to indicate any reasons he gave, but he definitely was not a scammer.

I agree with you that his comments were well thought out and very reasonable and enlightening. I was disappointed to see him go.

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