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YayaLiu is 40 yrs old, and has College Diplomas in Marketing and Chinese Language. She has two occupations: Interior Decorating for a living, and Writing the love of it. Her blog will speak from the POV of a traditional Oriental woman on marriage, family, love, friendship, work and how to look at Western men… If you are a Western man YayaLiu will help you communicate more easily with Oriental women.
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What is the Real Chinese Woman?    

By YayaLiu
8430 Views | 18 Comments | 8/18/2011 3:23:18 AM
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I did not expect to open BLOG at CLM. Initially I went to the CLM, I want to see what kind of Western man. A month later, I feel the cultural differences,So, I hope the opening BLOG, I hope that Western men feel through my BLOG Chinese women's lives and thinking,even as small as molecules feelings, I am satisfied.

I recently read some of the BLOG, I was shock! The authors describe BLOG woman he met in China: greed, vanity, shallow, promiscuity, lying, fraud, cunning, do anything for money. Chinese women have become the devil incarnate. I carefully read the BLOG, deep in thought, the real Chinese woman, what kind?

Chinese traditional culture around the two words: loyalty and filial piety. Traditional Chinese women follow this fundamental principle, in China, which is called "keep the Women virtue", This means that a woman must do! Over the past three decades, Western culture into China, Chinese traditional culture has been greatly affected, but the core--loyalty and filial piety--never changed!!

The real Chinese women love the family, to respect husband. Family first, husband and children are the most important person. For the family, we can endure any hardship, we guard the family, because home is the warmest place--husband and children's habitat.

The real Chinese woman is gentle, considerate, attentive. We make delicious food, to do cleaning, laundry, obedient husband , wholeheartedly love husband, to take care of him.

The real Chinese woman is modesty. We do not play, we know that knowledge is endless, we strive to learn more. Quarrel and different views, we first look at itself.

The real Chinese woman: simple, thrift,not the pursuit of luxury. We do not have a lot of money to buy expensive clothes and jewelry, we can only buy simple dress, but we are dignified, beautiful.

The real Chinese woman loyalty, reject promiscuity.The vast majority of women I know, life is only 1-2 men.

The real Chinese woman is honesty, trust. I have not seen to reduce the age of the woman,not one!

The real Chinese woman is strong, brave. You see Murdoch's wife Wendi Deng, you will understand Chinese women can do anything for her husband.

The real Chinese woman is cautious, we do not easily open our hearts to others, we are always as careful to judge a man, Because our hearts belong to only one man.

The real Chinese woman is patient,wait,.we patiently wait for the right person, we are willing to wait for him any time. We know, hope and love buried deep in our hearts.

This is the real Chinese woman!

You do not see air, does not mean that the air does not exist; you in the rain, does not mean that the sun does not exist; you do not meet real Chinese woman, does not mean there is no real Chinese woman.

You come to the CLM, as you open a Pandora's box, you see the greed, killing, terror, disease, desire, suffering, but Pandora's seventh son is hope! Do you have hope you have love, you have love, certainly there is a real Chinese woman waiting for you!!

I do not doubt that BLOG, those demonic women, in reality, exist! However, anywhere in the world have such a woman! If you see a grass, so you think that you see the whole forest; If you see a few sand, so you think that you see the sea; If you see a fly, so you think this is the Phoenix; If you met some terrible Chinese women, so you think that all Chinese women are the same. If you to China, so you think you understand the culture of China five thousand years ..., this is poor!!

什么是真正的中国女人

我没有想到会在CLM开BLOG。最初我到CLM,我是想看看西方男人是什么样。一个月以后,我感受到文化差异,所以,我希望开通BLOG,我希望通过我的BLOG让西方男人感受中国女人的生活和思想,即使像分子那么小的一点点感受,我也感到满足。
最近我看到一些BLOG,让我惊讶!这些BLOG里描述作者眼中的中国女人:贪婪、虚荣、浅薄,滥交,说谎,欺诈,狡猾,为金钱不择手段,仿佛中国女人成了恶魔的化身。我仔细阅读这些BLOG,陷入深思,真正的中国女人究竟是什么样?
中国传统文化围绕两个字:忠和孝。传统中国女人遵循这个根本原则,在中国,这称为“守妇德”,意思是必须做到的妇女的品德。过去的三十年,西方文化涌入中国,中国传统文化受到很大影响,但核心从来没有改变。
真正的中国女人爱护家庭,尊重丈夫。家庭第一,丈夫和孩子是最重要的人,为了家庭,任何艰苦,我们都能忍受,我们守卫家庭,因为家是最温暖的地方,是丈夫和孩子的栖息地。
真正的中国女人是温柔、体贴、细心。我们做好美味的食物,我们为丈夫和孩子提供干净的衣服,顺从丈夫,全心全意地爱丈夫,照顾他。
真正的中国女人谦虚。我们不张扬,我们知道知识是无止境,我们努力学习更多。遇见问题,我们首先检讨自己。
真正的中国女人朴素、节俭,不追求奢侈的生活。我们没有很多钱购买昂贵的衣服和珠宝,我们只能购买自己经济允许的衣服,但是,我们打扮得体,爽心悦目。
真正的中国女人忠诚,守身如玉。我所认识的绝大多数女人,一生中只有1-2个男人。
真正的中国女人诚实,信任。我没有见过减少自己年龄的女人,哪怕一个!
真正的中国女人坚强,勇敢。你看默多克的妻子邓文迪,你会明白中国女人为了丈夫能做什么事。
真正的中国女人谨慎。我们不轻易地向别人敞开我们的心,我们总是小心仔细地判断对方,因为我们宝贵的心灵只属于唯一的男人。
真正的中国女人耐心等待。我们耐心等待正确的人,我们愿意等待他,任何时间。我们知道,希望和爱深深地埋在我们的心田。
这才是真正的中国女人!
你没有看到空气,并不等于空气不存在;你在雨天,并不等于太阳不存在;你没有遇见真正的中国女人,并不等于真正的中国女人不存在。你到CLM,如同打开潘朵拉的盒子,你见到贪婪、杀戮、恐怖、疾病、欲望、痛苦,但是,潘朵拉的第七个儿子是希望,有希望就有爱,有爱就有人愿意等待!
我不怀疑那些BLOG,那些恶魔般的女人,现实中存在。但是,这样的女人,存在于全世界各个地方任何角落!如果看到一棵草便认为看到了整个森林;如果看见了几颗沙粒便认为看到大海;如果看见了一只苍蝇便认为这是凤凰的模样;如果遇见几个丑陋的中国女人便认为所有的中国女人都相同;如果到中国便认为自己能了解中国五千年的文化……,这无疑是悲哀!

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#2011-08-18 08:28:57 by Jaguarguy @Jaguarguy

Yayaliu, I have read most all of your blogs over the last few months and I appreciate your insite into Chinese culture and women. I am going to comment about this because I have found on 2 occasions that what you write about is 100% true in the Chinese women I have met online.

I am a western man and came to CLM 3 years ago to find an asian woman for marriage because I was discussed with american women. After intially chatting with 4 or 5 there was one who seemed true to Chinese culture. We talked on QQ, webcam and phone for a year because I wanted to be sure she was not greedy, shallow or a liar. I know that you can only know truthfully in person but for me to come to China for a month I felt I needed to feel inside that she was truly what I thought a real Chinese woman would be.

She was exactly what you have typed and I was happy that she was. Unfortunately her life changed there and she could not bring her son to the USA if we were to marry and I could not move there because of my business so we decided to move on in different directions. She now has very successful clinic in Xiamen and I wish her well.

In January I meet another women but not on CLM but working for factory I do now business with. We talked for 2 months casually and now talk on QQ, webcam and phone 2 times a day. I must be very lucky because she is also exactly like traditional chinese women you discribed. I plan on traveling to China the end of the year to spend time with her and if she is as she seems we will discuss marriage.

I just wanted to comment that I ( I am only one western man) have met 2 wonderful Chinese women who are as you discribed so I am proof that there are caring, honest, loyal, trusting, traditional Chinese women out there for the right man just as you say.

I would also like to say, I never talked sex with them, until months later. I also never asked for pictures in sexy clothes, which I know some men ask for. If they offered these things right away I would have stopped talking with them. I think that is something some men need to realize also. If they want to impress you with sex talk and sexy pictures they are not a traditional Chinese woman.

Please keep posting as I do enjoy reading what you type.

#2011-08-18 11:19:43 by icecreamnini @icecreamnini

哇,说得太精彩了,你为中国女人说了句好话,yes,that is really Chinese women

#2011-08-18 14:05:19 by doctorj @doctorj

yaya, yet another thoughtful and sensitive piece! we men have a tendency to remember only the extremes among the ladies, the few liars and cheats. but anyone who has been here any length of time, and particularly those of us who have been in china know the majority are very much like what you characterize here. thanks for these words of support for the chinese lady!

#2011-08-19 13:24:35 by anonymous2284 @anonymous2284

You say too good, you perfectly interpret the Chinese woman, the most of Chinese women was born in 1950 - 1980, they can really know how to do a good wife and good mother,some westerners description only is some young girls or someone desire to change the current situation of the poor, So, if the western man only to get beautiful young girl, and ignoring the real feelings, may be they will be to pay expensive cost

#2011-08-20 10:09:51 by sherrylu @sherrylu

Hi Jaguarguy:
you said right, the real Chinese women is traditional , they never discuss sex at initially few times chat with western man, as you described if this Chinese women show your sexy picture and can talk about sex at your first chat, she obviously want to use sexy appearance to attract you, then to achieve their own goal. the result is you can’t walk in the same road.
I agree your way, the real Chinese women more would like to know about both work, life habit, personal hobbies, to children, friends, relatives of some views, and what plan for future life together
When you discuss these question with Chinese women, you can feel she is whether greedy, shallow, vanity, truthfully, loyal modest, considerate, intelligent, unselfish, then you can decide whether carry on. The same the real Chinese women also will decide whether carry on through with your communication

#2011-08-21 02:54:37 by keveen @keveen

You have described the traditional idea of a Chinese woman. Lots of Chinese girls and women describe themselves as "traditional Chinese girl" but that is just the idea they have of themselves. Everybody like to have a good self-image. In reality many are not as you describe. It seems to me they are just as much a mess of ideas as everyone else and just as confused about what they really want. :) Actually inconsistent, contradictory, sometimes insensitive to the needs of others and not so faithful. The only reason they are faithful is that many don't go out much. So they never get a chance to be unfaithful. The biggest defect in Chinese people is not saying what they really think or want. They get a shock when they come to America or Europe cos people can say things you might not want to hear.

#2011-08-23 02:18:04 by anonymous2299 @anonymous2299

I went to China to meet (name deleted), a woman I corresponded to for about a year. When we met, she was pushy and kept prodding me to get her a Fiance visa. She and her friend were obviously only interested in that, and after meeting me only for a few days, she went to my hotel to sleep with me, to entice me to get her the visa. She was not really interested in me, it was anyone who would get her the visa would do. She stopped talking to me when I was not to be pushed into immediate sponsorship. Good riddance!

#2011-08-23 23:09:15 by keveen @keveen

Of course there are just as many nice Chinese women as anywhere else and just as many messed up ones. :)

#2011-09-05 19:07:54 by thunderbolt007 @thunderbolt007

YayaLiu:

Your description of the pure traditional woman is very accurate. I have met many such women and i admire their pure sense of loyalty to the right man. Thank you for your support of what I have already discovered. I search for a woman such as you and will continue until I too have one of these marvelous people in my life.

#2011-09-06 23:12:39 by lotusmaster @lotusmaster

I live in China, and it is my experience that Chinese women play by a different set of rules when it comes to foreigners. For example my Chinese friend asked a girl in Chinese "Ni you mei you nan pengyou ma" She told him why so personal you don't know me why do you ask me that. She didn't know I speak Guangdong hua and Putonghua so I asked her the same question in English, she immediately told me no I have no boyfriend. This doesn't make her good or bad it's just an example that Chinese women treat us very different than they would Chinese men... The woman you describe I see everyday and know them well, and they are all married to Chinese men. I have never met such a woman married to a foreigner.

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