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Born in the UK but now living in Australia, Paul Fox has travelled to many places throughout China. He has seen the lighter side, the darker side, both the gentle and the seedy sides. He documents his experiences and is willing to share them with anyone who wants to listen. He is not afraid to say things exactly how he sees them, and is quite happy to "name and shame" when necessary.
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What The Freak.....?    

By Paul Fox
2355 Views | 40 Comments | 4/22/2019 12:38:12 PM

After the publication of my previous blog,(So You Wanna Learn English), I was asked what was the point of writing it?

I actually thought that was a dumb question, for reasons that should be blindingly obvious. However, if you need an answer I will happily provide one.


In my blog 'Beyond Insanity', I highlighted the fact that while it's quite common for a Chinese family to accept a payment in return for their daughter's hand in marriage, this transaction is not seen as a 'purchase'.

Then, in my blog regarding the English language, I tried to highlight the fact that, in the same way as the 'purchase', we just take English for granted.

In fact, we take pretty-much everything for granted.

I remember, many years ago, some good friends of mine bought a piece of beach-front land in Perth's northern suburbs. They then built their 'dream home' on it. They would spend many-an-evening sitting on their front balcony, glass of wine in hand, staring at the beautiful Indian Ocean. It's a wonderful sight, believe me.

Now, many years later, it's a case of, "Yep, there's the sea, so what?"

Complacency has set in - big time!


Perception becomes our reality - in everything!

Western men join CLM in the hope of finding their 'ideal partner', yet most expect them to learn English - despite it often being a 'stupid' language. Not only is it confusing, but Chinese and English are not 'good friends'. Sure, Chinese is a damn hard language to learn if you're a native English speaker, but English is just as difficult to learn if you're a native Chinese speaker.

We take English for granted, just as Chinese people take their language for granted, yet most male CLM members expect the girls to learn English and don't even contemplate the idea of them learning Chinese. Barry is a perfect example, (and I know he won't mind me saying that).


Why do Chinese people look at a Western guy and immediately assume he's 'rich'?

Just because there's RMB7 to $1 USD doesn't make a person 'rich'. Sure, one can earn a great 'living' here in China, but it's only by Chinese standards.

RMB14,000 a month is difficult to spend in China, but it's only $2000 in US Dollars, so it's 'relative'.

Most Chinese girls would be more than happy to find a husband earning such a salary, especially in towns and cities outside of big ones such as Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, etc.

It's not a 'good salary' when compared to the West, but it's perceived to be.

So, continuing with 'complacency' and 'perception', let me ask you a question- Do you believe in coincidences?

You may be aware of the weird 'connections' between Abe Lincoln and JFK, (if not you can easily find them on the Internet), but are you aware of the 'connections' between Napoleon and Hitler?

Napoleon and Hitler were born 129 years apart. They both came to power 129 years apart. They both entered Vienna 129 years apart. Both of them invaded Russia, at aged 52, 129 years apart. They both lost wars 129 years apart.

Did you know that the phone number for 'Obamacare', (1-800-318-2596) equates to 1-800-FUCKYO?

We're told that the speed-of-light is 299,792,458 metres per second. The Great Pyramid of Giza is built on Latitude 29.9792458 degrees.

They tell us that the daytime temperature on the Moon is 220 F, and at night-time it's -240F. Therefore, 220-240F - What does the electrical label say on the back of your TV or refrigerator?

Did you know that the defendant in the Rodney King trial was named 'Stacey Koon', or that the 'magic bullet' that killed JFK actually did a U-turn?

Crazy, eh? Have you ever wondered why there are 12 months in a year; 12 constellations; 12 hours of day and 12 of night; why there are 12 jurors in a trial, or why there's 12 days of Christmas? There's even 12 grades in school.

If I began a sentence by saying, 'One of the Chinese teachers in our school....', am I referring to a teacher who has Chinese nationality, or a teacher of Chinese?

Am I an 'English teacher', or a teacher of English? I was born in England, so I'm English, and I am a teacher. Therefore, by definition, if I was teaching Chemistry for example, I'd technically still be an 'English teacher'.

On December 5th, 1664, 1785, and 1860, there was a ship-wreck off the coast of Wales. On each occasion there was only one survivor - "Hugh Williams". What are the chances of that?

What am I getting at? The point I am so desperately trying to make is that we take everything for granted. We seldom give a second-thought to anything that doesn't involve our own little 'world'.

I recently had a little fun with John Abbot by telling him that CLM was doomed, insofar as the female members here are far too beautiful to ever have any hope of finding a rich man.

What do I mean? Well, why not take a look for yourself? The photos below are all 'wives' of rich and/or powerful, men.

In order -

Clementine Churchill. 'Wife' of Winston.

David Rockefeller and his 'wife'.

Amal Clooney, 'wife' of George. (Amal, or A Mal(e)?)

Macron's 'wife'

Eleanor Roosevelt, 'wife' of FDR

Ruth Graham, 'wife' of Billy

Gutle Schnaper - Rothschild. Famous for saying, "If my sons didn't want wars, there wouldn't be any"

Barbara Bush

Melanie Gates, 'wife' of Bill.

Kevin Balot - yep, a dude !

And finally, the pic that tells you the whole point of these blogs of mine.

So go on, ask me....'what IS the point, Paul?'

The 'point', my friends, is to try and get you to think for yourself.


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#2019-04-22 12:38:04 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

Paul, you wrote:

So go on, ask me....'what IS the point, Paul?' The 'point', my friends, is to try and get you to think for yourself.

The problem is that you're trying to get people to think for themselves about topics/puzzles that are of no interest to them. So why should they go to the effort of "thinking for themselves" in order to figure out what your point is if they don't much care what your point is?

People are in their own little world because that's the world that is important to them. If you want to entice them to step out of that world and into yours, then you're going to have to make it very easy for them to do that. It's you who wants them to make the journey, not them asking to make it. So it's on you to first actually pique their interest, and then provide them the transportation to easily make the trip.

By not explaining where you're going with this you're making it hard to get very interested. And then by not providing well researched facts and evidence so they can easily accept and understand your conclusions, you're providing no transportation so they can easily make the trip to your little world.

I suggest you rethink your approach to how you will try to awaken people to your deeply held beliefs, because from what I can see your current approach isn't working. Maybe the other people who read this will prove me wrong, in which case I'll be glad to admit it. 

What say you all?

#2019-04-22 13:27:09 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


"You're providing no transportation" is what you said.

Well before I comment further, here's a short 3-minute video I'd like to share with everyone.

#2019-04-22 13:42:52 by melcyan @melcyan

The human brain loves patterns. Reality seems to be a minor obstacle that is easily overcome by this special quirk of the human brain. The pattern making of Paul Fox's brain always continues to amaze. 


The list of human thought patterns in the world today seems to be endless. Reminds me of the Einstein quote. "Only two things are infinite, the universe and human stupidity, and I am not sure about the former."


#2019-04-23 18:09:20 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Patterns are what detectives rely on in order to catch criminals.

#2019-04-23 21:50:27 by oldghost @oldghost

Belabouring the point is not the same as making it - more like the flogging of the dead horse I suggest.  Pithiness is much undervalued (cliche phrases which I haven't used in a long time).  Let me add another - cut to the chase.  Both your 'language' article and the follow-up made me squirm and look askance for the exit.

My question about 'point' was more about 'getting to the point'. You may consider the question stupid as you say, but reflect - you weren't asked just once.  Does that not convey a message?

#2019-04-24 09:23:49 by Barry1 @Barry1


Paul, you're on a different level to most of the people here.  I say this as a compliment, not the reverse.

I'm reminded of the old adage, "casting pearls before swine".  I'm reluctant to say this however, because the pearls of information you often disperse are given to average people - sheeple? - who of course, are not swine. They're ordinary human beings. But they live with blinkered minds in a world of lies run by corruption at every possible level. Who can blame them for their all-encompassing ignorance?

So what hope do you have?

What hope do any of us have?

Just keep on maintaining the good fight, Paul. Akin to John the Baptist, preaching in the wilderness. Even if you save just one soul, your job here will have not been in vain.  

Cheers mate. You well and truly deserve a beer.  (beer)


#2019-04-25 04:57:48 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Both your 'language' article and the follow-up made me squirm and look askance for the exit.

I am not surprised in the least!

#2019-04-25 05:00:24 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Thanks, Barry. At least someone can see what I am trying to do here. I just hope that certain people who read my blogs and quickly condemn them don't go through too much pain when the inevitable happens.

Cheers, Buddy

#2019-04-25 05:13:12 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


You want me to cut to the 'chase'? Here is an e-mail that I sent to some friends a couple of weeks ago -


Yesterday, I'm out on a day-trip with a bunch of students. We're off to the temple, and mansion, of Confucius, in his 'home-town'.

I'm not going to bore you, but I did have some interesting 'questions' during this fuckin 'Disney-show', that I'd like to share with you.

Firstly, this dude 'died' in 479 BC. The first part of his 'temple' was built in the 11th century. So, clearly, there was no hurry to revere this guy as it's quite normal to wait 1500 years!

The next thing I noticed was the 'fact' that many Chinese emperors, over the years, had not only headed to this temple to worship this dude, they had all made 'sacrifices' to him. So let's get this straight, Confucius was a sage; a teacher, so why is he being treated like some kind of sacrifice-demanding god? Hmmm....

There are many buildings inside the temple grounds, but noticeably, they all had one thing in common. They were 'built', then re-built a few hundred years later, after burning to the ground. Not a few, but all of them, including the gates/entrances. Of course, the official story is that some emperor decided to 'move it'. So, you are going there to pay homage, and offer sacrifices, to your god, and at the same time you're screwing around with the positions of the buildings inside his temple? Good luck with that one!

One of the 'original' buildings, (constructed in 1583), has two wooden pillars at the main entrance. These pillars go all the way up into the roof structure. There was a large portion of one of the pillars where the paint had fallen off, and revealed the wood underneath. Laminated plywood!

Forgive my skepticism here, but how long has laminated plywood been in existence? According to Wikipedo, it's been around since the late 19th century, so how the fuck could a Chinese 'temple' have been constructed out of it 300 years earlier?

The whole Confucius story is a complete fabrication, but does it really matter? Probably not. The 'message' in Confucianism is simply, 'Don't be an asshole', which is the same message in Buddhism and Christianity. I guess the Chinese 'powers-that-were' needed to get this same message out to their people somehow.

Therefore, the 'CON-fucius' story is probably a good 'con', but a con nevertheless.

#2019-04-25 13:21:39 by melcyan @melcyan


“Patterns are what detectives rely on in order to catch criminals.”


I hope you did not interpret my comment as meaning patterns are useless. My comment was about focussing on our brain’s frequent ability to see patterns that do not exist. For example the ability of the human brain to find the image of Jesus Christ in the anus of a dog.


Many of the patterns fabricated by the brain are meaningless. Meaning has been created out of nothing or very little. A competent detective or a competent scientist will do everything they can to discredit a pattern that they have found. A scientist must do this before they attempt to publish their findings. A detective must do this before submitting their work for the prosecution.


When a person denies the existence of chance or coincidence then pattern making runs amok. Lies and fabrications proliferate.

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