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39 years old, DancingShoes was born and raised in the rural part of Wuhan. Finishing her education in Beijing, she has a Bachelor's degree in Engineering. She has been working professionally and living in Xiamen for many years, but now calls Wuhan home. A single mother for 8 years so far, DancingShoes has been growing up along side her child, maturing more and more. Independent emotionally and financially and working as project manager in a large international engineering company, DancingShoes is well traveled around China and parts of Europe.
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Travel China: Colorful Yunnan 彩云之南    

By DancingShoes'
4580 Views | 14 Comments | 4/6/2014 2:52:17 PM

at the foot of Yulong Snow Mountain

I would like to give a suspension to the articles of” travel to Germany”. It seems there are not so many people who like to talk of Germans or Germany, especially for the older people, they hate to talk about Germans and they think the crimes that the Germans committed in World War II were inexcusable. One of the friends here told me about his feelings to Germans like that.  But I, as a young generation in China, I don’t hate the Germans like that.  But I understand that the people in my parents’ generation hate the Japanese very much. My mother heard about too many sad stories in her childhood, and my grandmother herself exactly experienced the disaster in China made by the Japanese. She saw that, and she heard that herself.  So they have very strong hatred to the Japanese. Last week our Mr. Xi visited Europe and he made a wonderful speech in Germany. He warned the Japanese right-wingers and expressed clearly our posture on the international issues.  Nowadays the Germans and Japanese are so different on their acknowledges to the Wars.  Most of Chinese hate Japanese, but very few hate Germans.



So I will still continue sharing the travel in China. I do not want to get somebody annoyed by my articles…I just wish everybody would be happy ok?



There were still a few days annual leave remaining for this year so I snatched a moment of leisure to have a lazy holiday in Yunnan in the late autumn.  It was my first time to travel to Yunnan.  The clean blue sky, Yulong Snow Mountain, Cangshan Mountain and Erhai Lake, the green trees and the white towers… with the brook gurgling over the ancient cities… I loved all so much! I would like to come here again soon.  In the last day I was waiting for my flight to get home, I spent the all afternoon in Cuihu Park in Kunming City. There were so many black-headed gulls trippingly circling at the lake, or resting on the visitors shoulders at times. It was so harmonious that the humans get along well with the Natural surroundings.  The sunshine in the afternoon was so warm in the park, clock had been slowing down here.  I sat alone on the bridge in the park, looking around and there was an old couple who were sharing one sugar-coated haws on the bridge next to me. It was so romantic and sweet, and so real!  On my way to the airport, I had a stopover at the flowers market in Kunming and I bought 2 large bundles of flower and some flower essential oil.  Yes I would like to bring a little bit of the Yunnan smell on my home.



The ancient Lijiang city is always a nice place worth visiting. And it is said here is the best place for a romantic affair? It is a good idea to check into a hotel here and pick a room with a window facing to Yulong Snow Mountain. Just stay here for a few days, enjoy the soft time with absence of mind, and go to taste the local cates when you like.  There are so many pubs here.  Usually there are some music pubs at the side street, and I enjoyed the music just sitting outside at the stone-step, it was also nice and relaxing to just hear the music flowing over on the street.  Dali, I think it is the town where I always dream to live.  There are not so many bustling commercial shops, not so noisy large crowds.  It is a clean beautiful town with the white towers temple buildings and lots of green trees.  Cangshan Mountain and Erhai Lake are just as close as in your neighborhood.  The clean brook runs across the old town.  I got a pair of nice cheap silver ear rings in the old town and I could not wait to put them on at the time.  This little thing made me a delightful day!  I was not able to visit the beautiful Shangrila and Xishuangbanna this time, but I definitely would visit these places next time soon, and Lugu Lake.



I loved the air, colors, culture and all the styles there.  And the slow paced life there got me slow down too. I do love to travel alone, some times. I always think that,  a person who could hear his/her inner voice only when he/she gets to calm down, and then knows what he/she wants. I do not like the bustling and hustling places like the commercial streets in the big cities.  There are too many people in the crowded city who are anxious to get a quick success and instant benefits, and everybody walks in a hurried pace, and me too. I did not know what I was seeking for and what was in the end of the chase.  The life I was longing for and yearning all the time is still my early life in the countryside -- lying on the back of my cattle buffalo in the wild field, with my eyes closed and just enjoying the sunshine.  The air was full of the nice smell of green grass and fresh earth in the wild field… so carefree and unrestrained!



While we are alive, we should cherish every moment and well treat everyone around us, especially the ones we love. With years of single life, I am growing up to a strong-minded and independent woman. I no long consider myself a weak-minded or a fragile woman. There are two burdens on my shoulders - one is my young kid, the other one is my job to support my life. Whenever, the family is always the safe haven for us. If we are wronged outside, we would just think of the warmth from our loved ones in the family, and my tears would always be filling in my eyes at the moment.  From now on, I want to treat all the ones I love with my love, and show my love to my parents and honor them.  And my son, who is in the youth rebellion time, I have to learn how to take the double patience on him,  to accompany him during the time when he is growing up.



Please be a broad-minded person, love our family and love ourselves, with more gentle words and love.



德国之旅的介绍暂停吧,我觉得这里不是很多人喜欢德国。尤其是稍微上年纪的人,对德国和德国人很不喜欢。这里有个男性朋友就是这样跟我说的。他们认为德国人在二战中犯下的错误,是不可原谅的,因此他们不喜欢有关德国人的任何话题。但是我作为新一代的年轻人,我没有亲身经历我无法产生那种憎恨感。我也理解,我的母亲那一代人也是非常憎恨日本人的,因为在她的童年时代她听说了太多悲惨故事,还有我的外婆的青年时代,也正是日本人侵略中国的时候,她们那一代人耳闻目睹的感受非常深刻。但是我对日本人就没有那种强烈的憎恨感。这次习大大访问欧洲,不是还在德国发表了很棒的演讲,给日本右翼分子敲了警钟吗?其实现代的德国人和日本人对战争的认识是不一样的。我们可以憎恨日本人,可是没有理由憎恨德国人。



所以我想我还是接着开始中国之旅吧,尽量让大家都高兴,嘻嘻。



年假还有几天没有休完,于是我在这个深秋偷了6天空闲去了云南。这是我第一次去云南。纯净的蓝天下,玉龙雪山,苍山洱海,绿树白塔,溪水潺潺的古城......我非常喜欢,我想我以后有空还会去的。最后一天,等航班回来,还剩下整个下午的时间,我去了昆明的翠湖公园。很多的红嘴鸥,在湖面翩跹,或在游人的肩头栖息,人与自然那么和谐。午后的公园里阳光温暖,时间在这里慢下来,我独坐在小桥上,看身边的一对老人共吃一串冰糖葫芦,那份浪漫和甜蜜很真实。看看时间,我准备出发去机场,路上去了昆明的花卉市场停留了一小会,买了两大束干花,还有一大堆植物精油,把云南的味道带回家,呵呵~~



丽江古城总是值得去的,据说这里是最好的艳遇之地。租住一个从窗户就能看到玉龙雪山的旅馆房间,在那里停留几天,享受那里的柔软时光,发呆,吃当地美食。这里的酒吧也是林林总总。我喜欢那种清吧。一般位于背街的一些清净的地方,我不用进去,只是静静地坐在门外的石板上,听音乐流淌过来。还有大理,这应该是我最想要生活的地方:没有过多的繁华商业,也没有喧嚣拥挤,城市非常干净漂亮,绿树白塔,苍山洱海就在眼前,纯净的溪水穿流过大理古城,我在古城里给自己买了一对好看的银质耳环,当时就戴上,臭美了好一会儿。美丽的香格里拉和西双版纳,我这次没有来得及去。下次的旅行中我会专门去这些地方,还有泸沽湖。



我喜欢这里的空气,色彩,风情。这里的慢节奏,让我也情不自禁放慢脚步。其实我更喜欢一个人旅行。我总认为,一个人在静下来的时候,才会倾听到自己内心的声音,知道自己想要的是什么。我不喜欢熙熙攘攘的商业街,拥挤的都市里每个人脚步匆匆,急功近利,我也一样,不知道自己追逐的到底是什么。我憧憬和怀念的生活仍然是小时候那样在田野里放牛,在我家的那头大水牛的背上,无忧无虑无拘无束,闻着青草的味道闭上眼睛晒太阳。



活着的时候,我们都应该珍惜且善待身边的每个人,尤其是自己的亲人。多年的单身生活,让我的内心逐渐成长独立强大,我不再认为自己是个脆弱狭隘的女人。在我肩头的担子上,一头是我年幼的儿子,一头是我赖以生存的工作。我相信汗水更甚于泪水。无论何时,家永远是自己的避风港,在外面受到委屈的时候,想起亲人的温暖,总会让我禁不住泪湿满眶。从现在开始,我要好好地爱我的家人,好好孝敬我的父母。还有正在进入青春叛逆期的儿子,我也要学习如何去应对,用加倍的耐心去陪伴他一起成长。



 让自己的胸怀更宽广一些,语言更温婉一些。爱家人,爱自己。



 


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#2014-04-06 15:02:56 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

First, DancingShoes, I would really regret your not carrying on with your plan to write about travel in Germany. I think all the members would feel the same as I do.

It is true that the Germans were hated by many Western people at the end of World War II, but that was almost 70 years ago now, and most Westerners have by now chosen to forgive and forget. Germany is a very popular country for tourists from the West and German men are very popular with the Chinese women on CLM. You should not let the few people who continue to hate Germany for their errors long ago influence you to stop writing these blogs about Germany that so many of us are really looking forward to reading.

Second, I agree with everything you have said about Yunnan. It really is a lovely province. My wife and I especially enjoyed the cities of Dali and Lijiang, both of which we found incredibly romantic and peaceful.

#2014-04-06 17:40:02 by panda2009 @panda2009

"While we are alive, we should cherish every moment and well treat everyone around us, especially the ones we love. With years of single life, I am growing up to a strong-minded and independent woman. I no long consider myself a weak-minded or a fragile woman. There are two burdens on my shoulders - one is my young kid, the other one is my job to support my life. ..."

@DancingShoes,
Work hard, raising children, caring parents, these are the source of happiness. The value of life lies not in the length of days, but in the use we make of them.

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none------William Shakespeare

#2014-04-06 17:49:56 by Jennifercc42 @Jennifercc42

喜欢你写的彩云之南和欣赏你美丽的情怀,真的很美!(y)(f)

#2014-04-06 17:51:03 by Barry1 @Barry1

@dancingshoes

"they think the crimes that the Germans committed in World War II were inexcusable"

Well, let me say that my father was a bomber pilot during World War 2, flying Lancasters, a famous bomber plane back then.

He told me many Australian pilots were in fact trained in Canada, before then being sent to London, where they were based.

He said in his flying squadron of 30 pilots, 27 were killed. Dad was only one of three pilots in his group who survived the war.

He told me stories about flying over Europe, often dropping bombs on the German cities. On one occasion, his plane was so badly damaged by anti-aircraft guns that upon limping back to England on one engine, he ordered everyone in the aircraft to jump out and parachute to the ground, as Dad wasn't sure whether the plane would be able to make it back to the airfield and land safely. Such were the heroic exploits of these brave men and their proud legacy should never be overlooked or forgotten.

Then when the Japanese attacked Pearl Harbour, all the Australian flying crew were withdrawn from Europe, in order to fight the Japanese forces who by that stage had overrun Singapore and were instigating the infamous death marches of Allied prisoners.

The Allies were beaten and starved by the Japanese as they marched. Those who fell were frequently bayoneted. Some of those who collapsed were beheaded by Japanese officers who were practicing with their samurai swords from horseback. The Japanese culture at that time reflected the view that any warrior who surrendered had no honour; thus was not to be treated like a human being.

It's all too easy for us to lie back now in our comfortable leather recliners watching our big screen TVs, sipping our cold beers, saying "Oh, let's forget it". I say however, if ever we fall into the trap of diminishing or ignoring the lessons of history, then shame on us for the lack of respect we show to our parents or our grandparents, many of whom suffered appallingly at the hands of both the Germans under the spell of that psychotic sociopath Hitler, and the similarly cruel Japanese.

Those who attempt to diminish or erase the bitter lessons learnt from the past in all likelihood will sooner or later be doomed to repeat them.

So to Dancingshoes, I'd request that she please feel free to write as much or as little as she likes about Germany. For the record however, let me say that whilst I don't actively dislike either Germans or Japanese, I for one feel mighty proud of my father who dropped bombs on both of them.

God bless your soul, Dad.

#2014-04-07 14:49:00 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@barry1 - wasn't the whole point of fighting the Germans and Japanese in WWII to defend the freedoms they were trying to take away form our fathers and to fight against the hatred of other races being promoted at the time by those two nations.

Nobody said we should "forget it" as to the events and suffering of World War II. But that does not justify preventing a young Chinese lady who is 3 generations advanced from those times from writing about travel in Germany today. I can't help think that your Dad, and my own father who was also a fighter pilot during WWII, would wonder what the hell they were fighting for if they heard someone suggest such a thing.

#2014-04-07 15:05:46 by paulfox1 @paulfox1

@dancingshoes
I also think you should continue your writing about Germany
Whilst the past is the past, it is unfair for any living westerner to despise a living German for what his parents or grandparents did during WWII
Likewise it is unfair for a Chinese person to simply hate a Japanese person because of what his or her father/grandfather etc may have done in the past
As John Abbot rightly says, it was 70 years ago now and certainly 99% of WWII veterans will be dead by now

@JohnAbbot

I must take you up on your comment about westerners forgiving and forgetting
Whilst this is a hugely debatable subject I feel compelled to throw my two-pence in here
There is a huge difference between 'forgive and forget' and 'let bygones be bygones'
Most westerners are prepared to let bygones be bygones when it comes to the atrocities carried out by the Germans and the Japanese during WWII simply because the low-life scum who operated and condoned the treatment of fellow human beings in POW camps and Concentration Camps are no longer alive. Many of these men were prosecuted for crimes against Humanity in their later life - and they deserved it in my opinion

For a westerner to state in 2014 that he 'hates the Germans' (for what they did during the war) is nothing more than pathetic
Imagine being served in a coffee bar in Berlin by a young German waiter and then telling him that you hate him - why? what has HE done to deserve your hatred?
It's stupid and pathetic 'learned behaviour' and it is certainly not justified now

Is that same German coffee bar waiter expected to go through life apologizing to every westerner for what his fore-fathers did during the war? - The mere thought is ridiculous

That said, I am happy to adopt the 'let bygones be bygones' approach, but as for 'forgive and forget' - NO WAY!

Why SHOULD we 'forget' what happened during WWII? It is part of modern history and the atrocities carried out by the Germans and the Japanese should be told to future generations so that things like this NEVER happen again!

#2014-04-07 15:23:57 by paulfox1 @paulfox1

@Barry1 and @JohnAbbot

Girls, girls girls, please put down your handbags before you have each other's eye out!
John, I believe Barry was simply responding to your 'forgive and forget' comment. I have already responded myself and I think your chosen phrase there was out of order. You should have said 'Let bygones be bygones' instead

How can we forget? and how on earth can we 'forgive?'
I mentioned the Berlin coffee-bar waiter earlier and the only reason we should hate him (or any other German person for that matter) is if he is prepared to stand proud and condone the actions of his forefathers. The chances are that many many Japanese and German people are embarrassed by the actions of their forebears and don't want to be associated with those actions in any way.

So come on, lighten up fellas. We should ALL be encouraging Dancing Shoes to write more of her Germany blogs

As Basil Fawlty famously said - "Don't mention the war!"

#2014-04-07 15:43:56 by Barry1 @Barry1

@JohnAbbot

"that does not justify preventing a young Chinese lady who is 3 generations advanced from those times from writing about travel in Germany today. I can't help think that your Dad, and my own father who was also a fighter pilot during WWII, would wonder what the hell they were fighting for"

It seems you did not understand what I said here. Let me repeat:

"So to Dancingshoes, I'd request that she please feel free to write as much or as little as she likes about Germany."

How does what I said above "prevent" Dancingshoes from writing about Germany?

Furthermore, what the hell are you dragging my father's name into this for, attempting to put thoughts you THINK he may or may not have possessed, when you didn't even know him?

I could talk about YOUR father and what he may have thought but I have far more deference and respect for both him - and for you - than this.

I demand an apology from you. Just because you're the manager/owner of this website doesn't allow you to ride roughshod over the sensitivities, thoughts and feelings of others, in so sensitive a topic as World War 2.

Furthermore, how can any thinking human being "forgive and forget" the appalling slaughter of SIX MILLION Jews in Aushwitz and the other Nazi death camps? Forgetting about the other FORTY FOUR MILLION casualties of WW2, from all sides. The Germans' conduct during the war was ABHORRENT and they should never be allowed to forget this by people such as you, sitting in your leather lounge chair in front of your big screen TV. So when you make your claim, "that was almost 70 years ago now, and most Westerners have by now chosen to forgive and forget", I beg to differ.

YOU may have chosen to "forgive and forget", but I for one will never forget.

#2014-04-07 19:17:02 by melcyan @melcyan

@JohnAbbott@Barry1

DON'T MENTION THE WAR!

These are the famous words of Basil Fawlty. He doesn't follow his own advice and the carnage he causes to his German hotel guests is hilarious. We are not laughing at the pain of the Germans but about Basil's monumental insensitivity, naivity and his incredible ability to dig himself into an even deeper hole. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yfl6Lu3xQW0
If you don't have youtube access, here is part of the script

Basil: Listen, don't mention the war! I mentioned it once, but I think I got away with it all right. [returns to the Germans]

 So! It's all forgotten now, and let's hear no more about it. So, that's two egg mayonnaise, a prawn Goebbels, a Hermann Goering, and four Colditz salads.

Basil: Is there something wrong?
Elder Herr: Will you stop talking about the war?
Basil: Me! You started it!
Elder Herr: We did not start it!
Basil: Yes you did — you invaded Poland.

#2014-04-08 11:07:38 by dancingshoes @dancingshoes

@Barry1

I think I can understand your feeling, as I can understand my grandmother's hatred to the Japanese. In her youth she had to paint her face to black and dirty everyday so that she woul not get nabbed by the Japanese soldiers when they were sweeping over the villages to seek the pretty girls.

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