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Things to Know Before Dating a Chinese Woman    

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2278 Views | 8 Comments | 11/6/2016 2:52:26 AM

Dating a Chinese woman requires understanding Chinese culture.

So, you are contemplating dating a Chinese woman. Yes, it’s true that finding a Chinese woman of your dreams is more or less the same as finding a woman from any part of the world. However, the difference in culture might complicate matters for you just a little bit. To increase your chances of finding and dating the right Chinese woman, you should learn more about the Chinese culture and learn more about their differences. In that way, you will be able to go about your search with ease and confidence.



There are some things that you should know before you start dating these lovely, hard-working women from the far side of Asia. This will not only help you to know how to have fun along the way, but it will also help in ensuring that you don’t have many surprises. If you asked me, I would advice that you do your research and get some Chinese dating tips to help you to find and date a woman from China.



To be precise, here are some of the most important things you should know before you start dating a Chinese woman.



Chinese women rarely show their real character



During the initial stages of a relationship, many Chinese women prefer not to show their true character to you, and to their peers and parents. Probably, they will only show you their true character when they are very sure that the relationship is going to lead to marriage. Otherwise, most of them will wait until after marriage. These women are forced to do this due to a Chinese culture where the family and peer pressure is extremely high.



Stability



The top most dating advice for foreign men who would want to find and date a woman from China is that you should do everything possible to demonstrate that you can provide stability in a relationship. Chinese parents value relationship stability above everything else. The parents, the woman you are planning to date, her friends and peers will try to find out if you have had short-term relationships in your life.



If you mention knowingly or unknowingly that your past relationships have been short-term, then you can be sure you won’t date a Chinese woman. So, it is better if you don’t mention it, and it does not matter whether you had such relationships when you were a teenager.



If the parents and the woman you want to date are certain that you have the ability to provide and guarantee that stability, then it won’t matter whether you are a foreigner and you will have a very easy time, not only with your dream woman, but with her family as well. If you have a truthful Chinese male friend, then he will tell you that they often guard their relationship history for this reason.



Determination and commitment



Before you start dating a Chinese woman, you should know that most of them have a strong determination and commitment to see to it that their relationships work and succeed. This is because at some point, you will have to join her family effectively, and because the parents and her peers expect the relationship to be stable, she will always try her best to make it succeed. These women also wish and desire to make their relationships succeed. Therefore, they will try their best to ensure that the relationships are successful.



Love may not be a determinant



While there are few Chinese women who might consider love to be the most important factor in saying yes or no to a man, many of them don’t think so. In fact, many of them don’t understand how love and a marriage choice are related. If you go through many Chinese dating tips, or if you seek dating advice from the experts, you are less likely to be told to show real love to a Chinese woman. In fact, most of them don’t understand why other cultures link love and relationships.



If a Chinese woman says she loves you, then it’s not always the same kind of love you might be thinking of. In their culture, love means doing loving things to you. So, it’s important to know what she means if her response is yes when you ask her whether she loves you. However, with time, she will come to adore you greatly. This is just about the same thing that happens to all people really. Love takes time to build up.



Parents will most likely reject you



You can be certain that when you show interest in a Chinese woman with the aim of dating her, the parents will reject you immediately. This is not something you should worry about because they just don’t want to be seen as being more than willing and ready to give away their daughter especially to a foreigner. When you show up, most parents will try to set their daughters up with their neighbors’ sons to see what you will do.



Be ready to follow the Chinese dating etiquette



Many Chinese women are traditional and if you want to get to know one of them with an aim of dating her, then you must be ready to follow the Chinese dating etiquette to the letter. Otherwise, you will encounter some complications.



Know the cues and signs



Unlike a western woman, a Chinese woman who is attracted to you will do things indirectly as a way of showing her attraction. Actually, such differences are some of the reasons why you need to seek dating advice before dating a Chinese woman so that you understand the cues and signs.  If you don’t know these cues and signs, then chances are, it may pass you by.



For instance, a Chinese woman who is attracted to you will show her attraction by doing things such as remind you to wear warm clothes when the weather is getting cold, and by advising you to stay healthy and take care of yourself. You can be sure that on her part, she is trying to show that her feelings for you are much deeper. As you know, these pieces of advice from western women simply show friendship.



With those few Chinese dating tips, you are now ready to mingle. Sign up on a good Chinese or Asian dating site and start chatting with ladies from China. You will get an experience that you will never forget.



Author bio:



I'm Peter Wang, the founder of LovelyPandas. My dream is for a world full of love and romance. I seek to help people find love and build amazing relationships. You can find useful online dating tips and honest dating site reviews on my site.


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#2016-11-06 03:55:40 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

This blog post has been provided by Peter Wang, who is the owner of Lovely Pandas, a site that provides extensive dating site reviews and tips for dating for people in cross cultural dating, international dating and even trans gender dating. Of note, Lovely Pandas has seemed to steer clear of promoting the sites that are known scam sites, such as AsianDate.com, Chnlove.com, Anastasia.com, etc.

Because of that we're pleased to be reviewed on Lovely Pandas and pleased that he has recognized us as a top quality site. We hope you enjoy his blog and we suggest that you add numerous comments to it, because maybe Peter will be happy to come back and respond, allowing you to gather further good advice on dating Chinese or Asian women. 

#2016-11-06 08:07:55 by paulfox1 @paulfox1

Welcome, Peter Wang. This is an interesting article and is full of good advice. However, there are a couple of points I'd like to raise if I may.

 

1) You said in point number 1 that Chinese women will rarely show their 'true character' until after marriage. This could be a huge 'red flag' for many Western men. Once their wife shows their 'true character', it could be too late!

 

2) Chinese women are often portrayed as being 'spoilt little bitches'. Up to a point, this is true and I believe that it's a direct result of the (now scrapped) 'One-Child-Policy'. Whilst we can't help who we fall in love with, my advice would be that if a Western man falls for a woman who has no siblings, then don't rush into marriage. She needs to become more accustomed to our 'Western ways' than perhaps you do to her 'Chinese ways'. Many of these 'spoiled' women have never experienced the word 'No' and many are likely to have a 'tantrum' (called a Sajiao) when you refuse to buy her a new dress that she can hang in her wardrobe alongside the other 50 dresses that she never wears.

 

3) These same Chinese women are often referred to as being 'materialistic'. Again, this is true up to a point. Some of them, like many Asian women, regard the 'Laowai' as being rich. Western women usually have a good understanding of what it takes for us to earn a living, but many Chinese women just see that every $1 = 6.5RMB, and nothing else.

Recently, a young woman from Shenzhen was reported to have conned 20 'boyfriends' into each buying her an I-phone 7. She sold all the phones and raised enough money to put a deposit on a house. Some Chinese women called her a 'cheating bitch' whilst others called her 'resourceful'.

 

Of course, this kind of behaviour is not exclusive to Asian women, nor Chinese women in particular, but it's definitely something that Western men need to be aware of.

#2016-11-07 23:17:35 by melcyan @melcyan

I would like to make a few comments about "some of the most important things you should know before you start dating a Chinese woman." by referring to my history with my Chinese partner.

 

1. Chinese women rarely show their real character

 

This was not true for me. The only part of my Chinese partner’s character that was hidden to some extent was her impatience. Every other aspect of her character was evident before our relationship started. I have two Chinese penpals that I have communicated with for a long time. I don’t think they have hidden their real character from me either. I am interested to hear from men with a Chinese partner. Did your partner hide who they really were until you were engaged or married?

 

2. Stability

 

My partner and I know each other’s relationship history in detail but details of my past history are censored by my partner before they are communicated to other members of her family. Likewise, full details of my partner's history are not communicated to my family.

 

3. Determination and commitment

 

Failure was not an option. The first two months of our relationship was kept secret from most other people. If the relationship collapsed during this time her family would never have known about it.

 

4. Love may not be a determinant

 

If everything else is right (respect, honesty, attraction etc) it is inevitable that love will grow.

 

5. Parents will most likely reject you

 

My partner did the preparation to make sure that this was impossible.

 

6. Be ready to follow the Chinese dating etiquette

 

I just displayed consideration and respect for my partner. That was enough.


 

7. Know the cues and signs


 

For instance, a Chinese woman who is attracted to you will show her attraction by doing things such as remind you to wear warm clothes when the weather is getting cold, and by advising you to stay healthy and take care of yourself. You can be sure that on her part, she is trying to show that her feelings for you are much deeper.

 

This was definitely true for me.

#2016-11-12 03:11:47 by Map1 @Map1

This is good advice as I've experienced some of this with my girlfriend. She does tell me to wear more clothes, exercise more and gives me food when we eat together. I do the same with her. I've made some faux pas with the dating etiquette. Sometimes not paying, although I didn't know the state of our relationship, whether we were boyfriend/girlfriend or close friends at that stage. But she told me that I should have paid for meals and bought her clothing anyways. One thing is she's really concerned about financial stability, which isn't an indication of that she's a gold digger. Especially if she marries me and quits her job. She also wants ot take care of her parents (filial devotion) and have us buy an apartment in China so we could live there and rent it out for income. I own a home in the US. She does hide her character due to past relationships with Chinese men. So it's hard for her to trust me. But we're working on it. She's concerned about me and wants my best.  Sometimes she second guesses herself as to whether we should remain together or just be close friends. I'm not ready to give up yet.

#2016-11-13 06:56:28 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


@Map1

Why do you read a book on a subject that you already know a lot about? Perhaps in the hope that you may find one little snippet of information that you didn't already have?

 

You said, 'Sometimes she second guesses herself as to whether we should remain together or just be close friends. I'm not ready to give up yet.'

 

I have my own thoughts on this, but I really don't want to air them here. I'm probably the LAST person on this planet that you would want to take advice from, but I would be happy to give you the opportunity to make that decision for yourself. Ask John Abbot for my e-mail address and I'll communicate my thoughts with you privately.

 

 

 

#2016-11-13 07:00:25 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


@melcyan

'For instance, a Chinese woman who is attracted to you will show her attraction by doing things such as remind you to wear warm clothes when the weather is getting cold, and by advising you to stay healthy and take care of yourself. You can be sure that on her part, she is trying to show that her feelings for you are much deeper.'

 

This is something that I have come to realise is 100% accurate.

 

"It's cold, wear more clothes."

"Drink more water."

"Did you eat breakfast/lunch/dinner yet?"

 

Those little  'messages' that she sends you on a daily basis can be annoying at times, even frustrating, but they ARE sent with the best of intentions.

#2016-11-13 19:57:52 by kalzorch @kalzorch

According to Alison Armstrong (http://understandmen.com/), most women try to be the woman that they think their intended wants.  Rather than show their true colors, they will twist themselves like a pretzel to appear as whatever they think their man wants them to be.  While this may be satisfying for both in the short term, it is unsustainable.  Ultimately the woman decides it is not worth keeping up the facade, and the man wakes up one day to discover he never really knew his wife.  I suspect this is probably one of the major reasons that so many marriages go down the tubes.

#2016-11-19 14:22:56 by sandy339 @sandy339

It is fun,but kind of contradiction: “ Chinese women rarely show their real character” REALLY? I highly doubt about that I think it depends on personality rather than races. Like what you said at the very beginning “finding a Chinese woman of your dreams is more or less the same as finding a woman from any part of the world.” How could you conclude in this way only by your limited experiences?

“your past relationships have been short-term” might fail your relationship with Chinese women? Haha, this is more interesting and shows how low educated Chinese women you might meet. It has been changing so much. But you are still at this stage, LOL

“many of them don’t understand how love and a marriage choice are related.” I bet you are wrong again, if you have interest to read Paul’s research (at some thread I think )on why we want a relationships and marriage with a foreigner, most of us show we need love + ticket, life is too short and boring for just having one.

“a Chinese woman who is attracted to you will do things indirectly as a way of showing her attraction.” It is not always the case.

“remind you to wear warm clothes when the weather is getting cold, and by advising you to stay healthy and take care of yourself. You can be sure that on her part, she is trying to show that her feelings for you are much deeper.”That is so true LOL.

Sorry Peter Wang, thanks for sharing your opinion and sorry for my different opinions about it . Good Luck!

 

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