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Born and raised in Maryland, USA, and attended the University of Maryland, but now living in Pennsylvania, RTByrum is an author and publisher of 9 books but does not make a living at it. His places traveled include Britain and China. His past marriage was to a Chinese woman for 3 years. He since claims to have found the secret to happiness and hopes to share that happiness with someone special, and through his blogs, perhaps also with you.
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By RWByrum
1772 Views | 27 Comments | 3/24/2018 2:20:25 PM
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#2018-04-04 11:42:32 by Barry1 @Barry1



" this place must have been quite the flame fest in the past."


You're dead right, Roger.  This blog area has seen some amazing verbal jousting in years past, some of it well meaning and some purely vitriolic, resulting in more than a few cases of introspective soul searching and bruised or bloodied egos.  (shake)

#2018-04-04 13:36:40 by RWByrum @RWByrum


I witnessed a bit of that at the end of last year but I wasn't sure how representative that was.

#2018-04-04 22:07:40 by anonymous17001 @anonymous17001

@RWByrum, maybe the comment from autumn2066 about your pictures/looks didnt bother you, maybe if you had publicly said the same about her it wouldnt bother her either, although I doubt you would pen that for the public to read. 

@Barry1 how true! I personally miss your blogs, they were personal, real and eye opening for the Western men here. Hope we get to read a new story from you soon...take care mate!

#2018-04-05 14:20:14 by RWByrum @RWByrum


You are correct.  I don't post those kinds of comments in public.  For that matter, I don't even make them in private.  When I send a woman a rejection message I don't tell her that I find her unattractive even though, nine times out of ten that was precicely the reason for the rejection.  Usually, I simply say that she was not what I was looking for or that I am not interested without explaining exactly why.

#2018-04-05 16:57:17 by Barry1 @Barry1



"I personally miss your blogs, they were personal, real and eye opening for the Western men here."


Thanks for this, buddy.  I may be starting a new blog series soon, as I've been miraculously offered a teaching position at Yanan University in Shaanxi Province. Whilst waiting for my work visa to be approved however, I'm full of self-guessing and grave doubts about whether I can survive there, without being able to speak a word of Chinese, except for "nihao" (hello) and "xie xie" (thank you). 


It's a huge challenge for an ageing, brilliantine stick insect like me (apologies to "Fawlty Towers") who otherwise is in a lazy semi-retirement. I may get severe cold feet at the very end and pull out.  But decision time is imminent.... as my visa is eighty per cent approved already and should come through within the next two weeks.


Cheers mate.  (beer)


#2018-04-19 14:08:43 by Barry1 @Barry1




By way of update, in my last comment here, I posted that I had secured a teaching position at Yanan University in Shaanxi Province. The university it seemed had some sort of exemption from the age rule. I had been assured multiple times by them my 63 year old age was no problem.


After three months of form filling out and over $500 in document notarisation and degree authentication costs, including a full medical, at the very end of the process I was suddenly informed a few days ago that I was too old!  :o


This was exceedingly disappointing after the arduous (and expensive) work visa application process.  Why had they waited three months to tell me this?


I've complained to the Chinese recruiting agent about the unsatisfactory situation, requesting compensation for the hundreds of dollars spent on the fruitless exercise. She has passed my complaint to the university but so far, they don't seem responsive to my reasonable request. No surprises here, it's exactly what I had expected.  The agent refuses to divulge the name of her contact within the university, otherwise I'd get one of my Chinese friends to phone the person up and tear strips off them.


I had also mentally prepared to write a new series of blogs about my forthcoming adventure in China but unfortunately this won't now occur.


Somewhat bewildered by this unpalatable turn of events, I have a vague idea now to purchase a motorhome and travel around Australia in it. Spending up to a year or more, no hurry.  I am now on the brink of retirement, so time's no longer an issue.


Life is certainly full of unexpected twists and turns, isn't it.  |(

#2018-04-21 00:10:02 by melcyan @melcyan



Sorry to hear that working in China has ended for you. "Good news, bad news, who can say?" I think the very old story of the Chinese farmer who says these words has been posted on CLM before. Maybe by you. Here it is again.


A Chinese farmer gets a horse, which soon runs away. A neighbor says, "That's bad news." The farmer replies, "Good news, bad news, who can say?"


The horse comes back and brings another horse with him. Good news, you might say.


The farmer gives the second horse to his son, who rides it, then is thrown and badly breaks his leg.


"So sorry for your bad news," says the concerned neighbor. "Good news, bad news, who can say?" the farmer replies.


In a week or so, the emperor's men come and take every able-bodied young man to fight in a war. The farmer's son is spared.

Good news, of course.


I wish you all the best for the future.

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