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Imi was born and raised in Europe, Hungary. After finishing his school years, he moved to Canada to search for a better life. He lived in Toronto for 13 years and currently resides in Vancouver. He is a romantic at heart with a strong desire to always do the right thing. He would like to give hope to the Chinese and Asian ladies with his story and send a message that love eventually finds everybody.
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The Hotel Maid the Shouting Boy and the Manager - Part 2    

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2624 Views | 35 Comments | 5/10/2018 12:57:58 PM
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#2018-05-14 12:05:00 by Barry1 @Barry1



" the connection between you and Imi and Imi's partner) is too weak...."


I don't fully understand, Melcyan.


My reference would say I have known Imi for the bulk of his adult life - twenty plus years - and have employed him in various roles as a valued second-in- charge of my businesses.  At all times Imi has exhibited immense honesty, integrity and depth of character.  His multilingual language ability in particular is way above average, demonstrating high inteigence, as is his remarkable communicative, empathic and social skills!


I also would say I have met Imi's dear wife several times on my trips to China and can vouch with hand on heart, as to the extraordinarily strong, loving bond between them!   (h)(h)


I would finish with words to the effect that Imi therefore is an extremely honorable, beneficent and sincere person with whom I would entrust my life with!   (muscle)

#2018-05-14 12:47:40 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@Barry1 - will your letter be written from a Hungarian address to cover the early years of your 20 year relationship with Imi, or a Canadian address to cover the latter years?

Will it be written in the Hungarian language or Canadian English?

I trust you will avoid all those strange Australian English idiosyncracies, right Mate?

#2018-05-14 17:48:21 by Barry1 @Barry1


"will your letter be written from a Hungarian address to cover the early years of your 20 year relationship with Imi, or a Canadian address to cover the latter years?

Will it be written in the Hungarian language or Canadian English?

I trust you will avoid all those strange Australian English idiosyncracies..."

Good questions, John.  Thank you for raising them. 


May I suggest that if Imi would like me to write a glowing letter of commendation for him, that Imi, you and I all get together in an online chat session and brain storm as to the best way to handle it. 

I'm sure that with Imi's great imagination, plus your dextrous legal skills, plus my ability to lie through my teeth, that the most spectacular letter of reference ever created will be born!   (muscle)

Thanks in anticipation for your valued assistance in this most delicate matter of the heart, John!  (handshake)(beer)

#2018-05-14 22:32:36 by melcyan @melcyan

Hi Imi


You said -


"Still, I have to ask them why the immigration officer in Hong Kong didn't call me if she had a question for me. Why she asked my wife what I would do, how I would prove that I've been in China to see her six times. And the answer would have been simple. Since submitting the application, which states four times, I've gone there two more times. My passport can prove it."


Please do not question their procedures or competence in Hong Kong or Canada. You can say I was disappointed that I did not get a chance to speak with the immigration officer in Hong Kong. In one simple phone call, I could have made it clear that I have reunited with my wife in  6 separate visits to China.


From what I can see online, the overall process for Australia and Canada is similar. The differences are minor.  Did you clearly link each of the four dated visits in your application with events in China demonstrating the genuineness of your relationship? (There is zero chance that your application failed due to the immigration officer's jealousy)


I supervised the entire process for my partner's niece and her fiance here in Australia. I checked and rechecked all the criteria and guidelines and proofread their words and all accompanying words before they were submitted. We all kept copies of what we wrote. You must have a copy of all correspondence because they expect your past words to be consistent with future words. Hopefully, you will be successful with this first stage and be adequately prepared for the follow-up stages in the years ahead. Ask your lawyer for a copy of your application. He will have one. You must have one in your possession.


"They can't say no to us second time around. On what grounds?" They have not said yes the first time because you have not provided them with sufficient evidence (according to their rules and regulations). 


They need hard evidence that your relationship is genuine. So far they do not have sufficient evidence. Give them sufficient evidence. Make it idiot proof. Right now there is a difference between what IS and what they SEE. You need to make sure they SEE what IS. This not a debate or an argument. Have they got all the evidence that they require according to their rules and regulations?


"This is just a test of our commitment to each other, nothing more." You already are committed to each other. That is not the problem. That is not the test. The problem is making the genuineness or your relationship 100% clear to the people who are handling your case. You are yet to do that. Please make their job of saying YES to you an easy one. You do that by providing them with overwhelming evidence on paper and in person that your relationship is genuine.


My guess is that your previous failed sponsorship has zero bearing on this case. If it otherwise then it will only be to give the presented evidence for a genuine relationship extra careful scrutiny. Right now, at this very moment, according to their rules and regulations, they do do not have sufficient information gathered on paper and in person to say YES to your application.


You need to significantly add to your existing written evidence and in-person evidence. Make the evidence so compelling that their only option is to say yes.


Best wishes


#2018-05-14 22:39:31 by melcyan @melcyan



This is not the right time or place for your attempts at humor. Imi has a serious problem that needs serious attention.

#2018-05-14 23:35:00 by jellyfish @jellyfish


Dear all, 

After reading your blog, I totally understand how frustrating it could be!!!! The immigration will only go worst everywhere, not limited to North America. Imi, this is the battle you and your wife have to fight. I am very sorry to hear about all the crap you have to bear. 

I could relate to your wife's feeling. Endurng all the frustrations and overcoming all challenges, this is the only way that you could fight for your blessed future. 

All my best to you, 


P.S. Dear all, sorry for my inappropriate questions on previous comment. I am sorry and I am not very thoughtful. 

#2018-05-15 15:28:32 by Barry1 @Barry1



"This is not the right time or place for your attempts at humor..."

Who's being humerous here, Melcyan?  I'm deadly serious when I say I'll be happy to write a glowing reference for Imi in whatever tone of voice or style considered appropriate to the occasion.


Actions speak louder than words....  hence my offer to help Imi in a practical way, rather than merely mouthing words of sympathy.  No offence meant to you or anyone else here, Melcyan...  I know you're a good and honest man... but sometimes when one's back is against the wall, goodness and honesty simply isn't enough and one has to fight fire with fire!  (muscle)

#2018-05-16 21:09:30 by Imi5922 @Imi5922


Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. We'll certainly fight for our future and never give up. All the best to you as well!

#2018-05-16 23:06:17 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Hear hear !

#2018-05-17 02:35:06 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@Imi5922 - no need to resubmit Part 3.  But getting away from the Word issues in future will be much appreciated.

Regarding the recent comments by @melcyan - I urge you to pay close attention to what he suggests. I have a nagging feeling that you maybe expecting the people who review your appeal to "know what you know", when in fact they only "know what you show them". So you must show them everything you have that demonstrates the depth of your marital relationship.

And never forget that anything can go wrong and often will. For example, you are dealing with bureaucrats, and the one (or ones) you come up against may be the super diligent type or the lazy shit type, or anywhere in between. In addition, he/she maybe having a great day and be wholly concentrated on your appeal, or a very bad day and be wholly concentrated on the explosive fight he/she had with his/her spouse that morning, which has him/her on the road to divorce (or some other catastrophic personal crisis).

Because of the "lazy shit" type, or the "in personal crisis" type, you have to make it as easy as possible for the person to decide in your favor. You have to make the approval of your wife's visa a complete no brainer

Don't anticipate that the person will have questions and will ask them. He/she is not obligated to ask any questions to seek clarity. A good person doing a good job will do so, but you can't bet on it. So do everything you to can to make it so there are no questions to be asked.

This is your lawyer's job, but the same things that apply to the person hearing your appeal also applies to your lawyer. He might be the super diligent type or the lazy shit type. He might be haveing a good day or a very bad day. But guess what? If he succeeds brilliantly he gets paid and you go home happy, but if he fails miserably he still gets paid and you go home frustrated, angry and very sad. So review his work and ask for corrections or additions, over and over again, until you are satisifed that your submission is a no brainer and can't fail. 

And it is a no brainer when anyone who reads it cannot possibly fail to conclude, quickly and easily, that your marriage is a lifelong bond between two people who are deeply in love and committed to each other for the rest of their days.

Sorry if I am now repeating myself or seeming to lecture. But frankly, for many of us, your success in this matter is important to us. You're family here, and we all care about your well being. I don't want to leave anything unsaid that might help you, and I am sure that melcyan, and Barry, and everyone else feels the same way.

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