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Imi was born and raised in Europe, Hungary. After finishing his school years, he moved to Canada to search for a better life. He lived in Toronto for 13 years and currently resides in Vancouver. He is a romantic at heart with a strong desire to always do the right thing. He would like to give hope to the Chinese and Asian ladies with his story and send a message that love eventually finds everybody.
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The Hotel Maid the Shouting Boy and the Manager - Part 2    

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2623 Views | 35 Comments | 5/10/2018 12:57:58 PM
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#2018-05-12 15:03:16 by oldghost @oldghost

@john abbott: is there no facility to edit or delete one's own comments?  I have duplicated one.

#2018-05-13 08:05:34 by melcyan @melcyan



Barry your offer sounds good but it has no practical benefit. In fact, if it was accepted it would be likely to lessen rather than increase chances of success.


The problem is what it is. Nothing can be gained by pointing the finger at bureaucracy. You have to do everything that will maximise your chances within the current rules and regulations. Those rules and regulations are in a constant state of change. One thing that is not changing in Canada or Australia is the following -The relationship must be bona fide, ongoing, and both parties must intend to continue the relationship after permanent resident status has been granted to the applicant. The evidence for this must be very compelling. If you fail this vital step you will not even get to the starting gate. New evidence of the existence of an ongoing genuine relationship will be required in the future.


I spoke to a friend last night whose Chinese wife has just been granted a temporary visa. First step successfully completed. He is using an immigration lawyer. I asked him if he had read all the required paperwork and criteria for successful approval. He had not. I urged him to do so because the better he understands the current process then the better their chances of final success. Never give a lawyer 100% trust.

#2018-05-13 09:15:53 by Imi5922 @Imi5922

Thanks for all your comments.


@melcyan. We had to submit the appeal in thirty days. If we hadn't, the case would have been over. So, finding a good lawyer, I believe, would have been hard to accomplish in thirty days. Money was also a factor in staying with our current lawyer. We sent the appeal in days, which, I think, is a strong sign that our marriage is legit. Right now, I don't really care who our lawyer is. The most important thing is I will have the chance to speak before the judge. The lawyer is not going to win our case for us. My wife and I will. We just need the lawyer to get the appeal in front of the judge. I've also been wondering if printing out the "Could It Be My Last Christmas" article, with my wife's pictures and CLM members comments in it, could actually help to prove that I'm serious about my wife, and our marriage is not something for her to gain permanent residency status in Canada. What do you think?        


@oldghost. I believe every country has a different immigration policy. And not just that, but, within a country, there are no two cases that are similar. We had to fill out the applications separately. I was the sponsor as the husband, and my wife was the sponsord. Two different forms. Immigration rules are changing almost monthly. It depends on ongoing world events and the relationship between the two countries that are involved in the process. In our case, it didn't help either that I had sponsored someone before as my common-in-law partner to get Canadian residency, who, after getting her status, left me in a month. Thank you for your comment.


@Barry1. Thank you for your comment. I might get in touch with you when I'm in Australia to sort out our differences in person. :) I'm just kidding. The support, coming from you, means a lot to me. We've had more than a few battles between us in the past, but let me tell you something, it takes a man to stop for a minute and give some words of encouragement to a battered opponent. Thanks again for your words.                  

#2018-05-13 11:26:58 by Barry1 @Barry1



"Barry your offer sounds good but it has no practical benefit. In fact, if it was accepted it would be likely to lessen rather than increase chances of success."

Is my character so low in the eyes of the world, Melcyan  -  that by giving a glowing reference, it would actually REDUCE the chances of success, not increase them?  (sweat)

#2018-05-13 11:31:55 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@oldghost - the only facility to edit or delete one's comment, once they have clicked the "Submit Comment" button, is the one you have discovered. That is to write another comment asking the moderator (me) to ignore or not approve your previous comment, or post an edited version of the earlier comment, and add a note asking for the new comment to be posted instead of the earlier one. If you do that I will generally comply but will not post the request to delete your earlier comment or the note asking for the new one to be posted.

Of course, a person can always edit or delete their own comment by reviewing it and being sure it is what they want to post before clicking on the "Submit Comment" button.

#2018-05-13 11:40:05 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@jellyfish - I am sorry for the delayed response. I was certain I had responded when you posted your question, but cannot locate that response now.

Please just send your post and accompanying photo(s) to and write "Attn: John" in your message Subject Line. I will get it published for you shortly after I receive it. I will also send you instructions on how to post your own blogs in the future.

I look forward to reading it.

#2018-05-13 12:23:48 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@Imi5922 - the bottom line, as has already been stated by several commentors and yourself, is that what the entire visa process is supposed to be about the person or persons approving it being satisfied that the relationship between the sponsor and the applicant is a genuine relationship in which they have formed a strong human and heartfelt bond as a result of which they both truly wish to spend the rest of their lives together.

Simply put, they want to be sure the two of you are truly in love.

Your photos should be of two people who are loving and caring. Who look happy in each other's company. Who, when in a group of family or friends, look like they are clearly seen by the other people in the photo to be a couple.

When you are interviewed, whether together or individually, speak about each other with love in your voice. Do not fail to declare your love for each other with strong heartfelt commitment. Do not go into the interview, or your appeal hearing, prepared to argue with the person(s) hearing your appeal about how unreasonable the process has been. Don't give them shit for how much this is costing you financially. Don't go in to give them a piece of your mind.

Instead go in prepared to give them a piece of your heart. Tell them that you love this woman with all your heart - and mean it. Tell them you can't live without her - and mean it. Look at her with real love in your eyes. And, of course, she must do the same things on her end.

And if circumstances allow, if you are sitting close or side by side, touch each other. I don't mean hugs and kisses, but subtle things. Rest your shoulders against each other, hold each other's hand. Let them see a real closeness between you, and let them see that you see yourselves as a team, and as a family. Let them see a real loving bond between you.

These are things most people will shy away from doing. They seem contrary to the formal situation you are in. But just the same, it is what they are looking for - signs of true love. So let yourselves relax, don't be formal, expecially between each other, and instead be the true couple that you are so they can see it and can feel your true commitment to each other.  

Whether it is Canada, Australia, the US or anywhere else, this is the true, underlying test that they expect you to pass. Convince them you truly love each other.

#2018-05-13 18:27:43 by Imi5922 @Imi5922

Hi, John. Thank you for your answer. You said the same thing what our lawyer told me. It gives me a piece of mind about him. I understand if I'd go in there and speak my mind, we would lose the case. I need to talk from my heart, which is not a problem because I don't have to lie. Still, I have to ask them why the immigration officer in Hong Kong didn't call me if she had a question for me. Why she asked my wife what I would do, how I would prove that I've been in China to see her six times. And the answer would have been simple. Since submitting the application, which states four times, I've gone there two more times. My passport can prove it.

An old Chinese lady told me something when I worked on her hardwood floors on the other day. I told her what happened to my wife and me. Her first reaction was that my wife couldn't join me in Canada because the immigration officer was jealous, and if the interviewing officer were a man, my wife would have granted entry. She also said she knew a couple to whom the same thing had happened, and that the rejection must have felt even harsher for them because they had a six-month-old baby together who was with the mother in China. Of course, the couple appealed and won the second time around. I hope the same thing will happen to us. This is just a test of our commitment to each other, nothing more.

Thanks for your answer.       

#2018-05-13 22:15:04 by melcyan @melcyan

" Right now, I don't really care who our lawyer is. The most important thing is I will have the chance to speak before the judge. The lawyer is not going to win our case for us. My wife and I will."


Imi, these words from you encourage me. If I were you, I would write the application again (without guidance or editing from the lawyer and without a word limit or a limit on the number of photos ), using every relevant example, photo and witness that demonstrates your relationship is genuine. In your rewrite I would include some information from CLM. Get some people who know what they are talking about to review what you have written. When your final draft is finished you take it with you to your review meeting. When you get stuck for words or want to back up your words with hard evidence then you have it right there with you.


I also endorse John's words on how you present yourself as a loving couple at the review meeting.


#2018-05-13 22:34:37 by melcyan @melcyan


Even if you had the highest character in the world your words would be useless because the connection between you and Imi (and Imi's partner) is too weak. However, Imi has shown gratitude for your moral support. Your offer as moral support is definitely useful.

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