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Born and raised in a small and remote village of China with two siblings, Zoe had a childhood with wild freedom in nature. After finishing her education at Dalian Foreign Languages University, she has been living and working in Dalian. A woman of strong feelings and a passion for life, Zoe's first series of vibrant articles will tell you about the rollercoaster ride that was her first serious relationship with a Western man. There is much you can learn from her telling story. After that we'll see where else she can take us and what other wonderful experiences she might share.
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The End of Our Relationship Part 21 - Heavy Heart    

By Zoe
8309 Views | 20 Comments | 7/25/2013 5:10:15 PM

Staying at home later on and watched a movie, meanwhile waiting for H to come from work. He bought things to eat on the way home, typical German cold dishes. I was not hungry at all after a big pizza at noon, so he would not bother making himself things to eat either.

Looked at him holding a piece of black bread and eating, I was very sorry, although I knew that westerns were used for cold stuff. I shall have made him some dinner, a piece of fried beef and some vegetable soup would be nice for him. I washed an apple for him, said to myself, definitely I will make him dinner tomorrow.

The next day he was off from work for one day and took me out. We went to Lake Constance, it connects German, Switzerland and Austria, with picturesque view of blue sky and clear water.

While walking along the board-walk which is extending to the lake, I saw an old couple sitting on the wood bench facing to the lake reading books, I couldn’t help wondering, how far H and I could go, this couple looked so peaceful, but confronting in such a painted like scenery, I was not in ease at all.

On the hand rails, there were scrawls by people wrote or carved, I guessed it was like everywhere people would leave their evidence as ‘xxx has been here’ or some young loving birds left their promises and testify of forever love.

H pointed to some words and said, it must be from a girl.


He then translated to me: xxx, you are a jerk, we fell in love three month ago, but you broke up with me in MSN now. H said again, this xxx is a boy’s name.

I was a bit upset though, it seems no matter in east or west, always girls are who get hurt in a relationship.

How far could we go? If someday H wants to break up with me, in what way would he do it?

We had dinner in the small town where the lake is, H took me to a Chinese restaurant named ‘PANADA’. Perhaps H thought because I am a Chinese, he had to take me to eat Chinese food.

To be honest, the food in there was terrible, it seems to Westerners, a plate of rice covered by some stir fried vegetable and meat, plus a pair of chopsticks, would make a Chinese dish. Eh, what a pity of my profound and multifarious Chinese food!

On the way back, we exchanged very few words, actually all the day we didn’t talk that much either.

There was music on from the radio, he was whistling and singing by followed the songs. However, I could feel his unhappy, he was not happy being with me!

His silence made me heavy, the heavy feeling made me more reserved, and all these thickened the air above us.

When there were red lights or traffic, he took out a pen and piece of paper, writing something down. I asked what he was doing, he said that suddenly he remembered there was something he got to talk in the meeting the next day.


湖边的扶栏上不时有人们或写下或刻下的涂鸦,我猜不外乎类似 XXX到此一游,或小情侣们记下的海誓山盟甜言蜜语。




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#2013-07-25 18:11:40 by prana @prana


#2013-07-25 21:09:43 by Tinaz @Tinaz

come on, try to make each other happy and find sth. in common.
I read about blog and pay attention to your happiness with your Mr. Right.
Hope he will be the right person for you.

#2013-07-25 22:09:49 by haifeng @haifeng


#2013-07-25 22:45:18 by springflower06 @springflower06

@ Zoe

I really like to read your blogs.

Your words show that there are some worries in your mind. To be honest, being Chinese females we always overlook that a good communication plays an important role to build up a relationship. Especially, in an international dating process we have to express our opinions more frankly and straight forward in order to avoid misunderstandings.

Zoe, you need tell him what actually your thoughts and worries are.

#2013-07-26 11:09:08 by shazaohua @shazaohua



#2013-07-26 14:30:47 by lisa0221bj @lisa0221bj


#2013-07-26 23:39:45 by zhangxiujin @zhangxiujin



#2013-07-27 09:11:24 by grace2013china @grace2013china

Dream is beautiful, at the same time it is too heavy to seek for.


#2013-07-27 13:22:32 by anonymous7011 @anonymous7011


#2013-07-27 15:30:41 by grace2013china @grace2013china

你把你的这段经历描述得充满了美丽,哀怨和惊心动魄,让我叹为观止! 你似乎是想把心中巨大的失落用文字永远铭刻和铭记下来,使其上升为永恒的精华并永留存于宇宙.虽然他已离你而去,浪漫的故事已经结束,但那段故事你会不屈不挠地让它的美丽永留世间.




You describe your story so beautiful and sad, also touching, I'm very impressed. I know you want to keep the beautiful moment forever. You want to write it down with your words to let it alive in the universe.

You are seaching the most beautiful thing in the world.

The different culture between west and east is huge, and we grow up from different background, those we have to face the reality.

But we know we'll never give up our dream.

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