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The End Of Our Relationship Part 13 - The Dreaded Visa    

By Zoe
5200 Views | 6 Comments | 5/2/2013 3:50:19 PM

The German Embassy in Beijing is a little bit imposing.

In the evening, sitting on my bay window, I rested my head on his legs, feeling sad about the parting from H soon. He must return to the hotel that night, because his flight was in the early morning, and his former colleague would pick him up from the hotel and see him off in the airport.

I said, Okay, I will try to get the visa and see you in Germany.

Late in the night, after H left, I was still sitting by the window, reflecting the experience of these two days, it felt like in a dream.

What would be following was that I would have to fill the void of the future days without him being with me. The next day, I got his email, said, It was two perfect days, hope we will find the way to continue.

I folded my hands and crossed my fingers, praying to God, if there would be a price, I was willing to pay with my life and health for being together with this man in the future.

In the following days, I started checking the visa issue. Never had a thought that I would fly to Europe some day by myself, people told me it’s very hard to get a visa to Europe, without a good reason, it would probably get denied, especially in my case: single woman, at the age of getting married, having no saving in the bank.

By coincidence I ran across a website: Travel through Europe. Wow, such a great website, for any questions, any problems, there is an answer for me, It was really a treasure for me.

I read people’s experience written in the forum, and started preparing papers accordingly.

At the beginning, it seemed no clue at all for too much paper work to do. But slowly and one by one, I got everything ready soon.

A couple of days before the visa interview in Beijing Embassy, I applied from my manager for two days leave, planning to have a short vacation in Beijing with a good friend. Out of blue, my manager didn’t approve it, she asked a explanation for my leave. I understood her because it was end of the month which was the busiest time in every month for work. But I would not want to tell her what I would be doing because it’s so personal. Therefore, my manager kept the application and refused to approve it.

I was grinding my teeth in anger. What if she would definitely not give me the permission? I would go for it in any case. What if I got fired?

Those days, I had the impulse to kill my manager.

I knew, I surely would go for the visa even though on a price of getting fired.
It came to the day that I would head to Beijing in the evening. I went to my manager’s office as soon as I got to work in the morning, by coaxing and pestering, I got the permission from her.

I breathed with release and thanked her a million times before jumped out from her office.

第二天,我收到他的一封邮件,说这两天如此完美快乐,hope we will find a way to continue。


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#2013-05-02 16:03:15 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

You obviously had amazingly strong feelings for this man, and it is always worth remembering that there are many people in the world who never get to feel those feelings in their entire lives. You are blessed that you have felt what you did, even if it didn't last.

#2013-05-02 20:14:58 by sunsmiling2 @sunsmiling2

It's very hard to build a long distant relationship.But the reality is that for many people,for many different reasons,they can't find their love around them.As for me,I have ever tried developing a long distant relationship.Unluckily,it didn't work out at last.Very hard to work it out.

#2013-05-02 21:33:06 by hellen1020 @hellen1020


#2013-05-03 14:45:05 by dramazing @dramazing

Yes, yes.....I second all of John's words. Such depth of feeling, this is the very essence that drives us onward, through adversity. And for sure, so many never get to feel them - personally, I have felt them more often than has been good for me!! However, those of us who believe, we keep-on climbing aboard the roundabout that is pure & real Love.
It's great to read your account, written with passion and keeping us all waiting to see how it all concludes. Well Done!! :)

#2013-05-06 13:55:38 by chenhelen @chenhelen

Hope you end well with H. But you need to be more frank about what you feel about H, why not just tell him that you like / love him?

#2013-05-08 22:08:23 by romantic008 @romantic008

the same story happened to me as yours. I fell in love with him and i thought he was my only one. just because i got sick because of the bad weather in beijing . He left me . So some foreigner is really not reliable. Love is just tempory donot be childlish to believe there is love can last for ever. Just when my lover come i welcome when he left i say good bye have a good journey that is all !

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