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The Big, Bad, Bogeyman Under the Bed    

By Paul Fox
871 Views | 12 Comments | 11/30/2019 9:05:41 AM

What time is it, right now, at the centre of the North Pole?

I guess the simple answer would be, "Whatever time you want it to be"

If you were standing right at the centre of the North Pole, would you be spinning like a ballerina doing a pirouette?

I'd rather have questions that can't be answered than answers that can't be questioned.

Yet the world we live in often encourages us to question things, but for the most part it's a case of 'sit down; shut up; do as you're told', and 'don't ask questions'

I am in the minority when it comes to watching TV. Quite simply, I don't. I get my 'news' from other, more relaible, sources, but that's my choice.

Have you ever seen the movie, 'The Network'? There's a very famous 'rant' during which a guy who works for 'the network' is screaming and shouting at the audience, and telling them that everything they see on TV is propaganda and lies, yet they all think he's crazy......

After the 2016 U.S presidential (s)election, the world was told that Russia hacked it. Since then there's been non-stop talk of Russia being the 'bad guy', then it was China, now it's the Ukraine.

I see constant talk of China's 'evil' credit-scoring system, a never-ending (fake) trade-deal, as well as all other kinds of propaganda being rammed down the throats of the 'sleeping' population regarding China......and it's ALL BS!


It got to the point where I decided to essentially 'stick-up' for China; the country that has been my home for the best part of 5 years.

I began by leaving comments on YT videos that were putting out information that was essentially regurgitated mainstream nonsense regarding China.

Pretty soon I had no less than 5 content-creators contact me and ask me to do an interview.

I never heard from 4 of them again. The fifth one took me up on my offer and we eventually scheduled a time, then did an interview that lasted for about an hour. (link below)

After he uploaded it I went to look at the comments below it. I was shocked.

They varied from things like, 'Oh wow....this is amazing', to, 'This guy's talking sh1t'

A couple of weeks went by and I received an e-mail from the channel owner. He said that one of his subscribers lives in China and would like to make contact with me.

We connected, and after a few days of passing 'small-talk' we finally got round to having a video-chat.

In a nutshell, this guy is from Europe, he's around 30 years old, has lived in China for nearly 10 years, and is married to a Chinese lady.

He told me, in no uncertain terms, that everything I said in my interview was 'spot-on'. Yet everything I said in my interview is the exact OPPOSITE of what the 'fakestream media' is telling people in the West.

He also mentioned the 'This guy's talking sh1t' comment, and told me that he had replied by asking, 'Have you ever been to China?'.

The response, (from the original commenter) was 'No'.


So a person that has never been to China is telling people like me, and this European guy, who totally agreed with me, that we're 'talking sh1t' - Go figure!

It's been said that TV is the most effective mind-control 'weapon' ever devised. I agree. Even Richard Nixon said so when he talked about the American people believing everything they see on TV. In the meantime the propaganda and lies continue. These days I've become convinced that Trump's 'fake news' is perpetrated simply in order to see how many idiots there are out there.

NASA found 'extra-terrestrial sugar' on meteorites - are you kidding me? Do people actually believe this stuff? I guess they do.....after all, the guy who's never been to China knows more about China than I do....he saw it on the telly!

It's all just 'Lipstick on a Pig'


You can see the 3-minute speech (rant) from the movie here -

My interview on China here -

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#2019-11-30 09:05:29 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

Just to make a small correction, the movie you mentioned was "Network", not "The Network". It was a great movie and won a ton of Academy and Golden Globe awards. Among them both the Acadamy and Golden Globe awarded Best Actor to Peter Finch (the guy in the rant), Best Actress to Faye Dunaway and Best Screenplay to Paddy Chayefsky. In addition the Golden Globes awarded Best Director to Sidney Lumet.

In spite of winning all those awards it was beat out for both the Academy and Golden Globe award for best picture by a little known film called "Rocky". 

I highly recommend that for anyone who can find it to watch the entire movie instead of just the clip. It will tell you how long ago the Main Stream Media in the west started pumping out propoganda..

Having lived in China for 11 years I can tell our readers that the West is badly misinformed about what China is really like. I loved my years in China and would not have missed it for anything.

That doesn't mean that there are no flaws in China. Of course there are, but fewer flaws than in most of the first world Western Countries in my opinion. By far the majority of Expats that I knew in China agreed with that.  

#2019-11-30 18:51:33 by paulfox1 @paulfox1

If people REALLY want to know how our minds have been 'mined' over the years, I strongly suggest watching the movie 'Wag The Dog'. It's a huge eye-opener.

Yet the sad truth is that most people simply don't WANT to know.

They go along believing everything they see on TV, and never ask questions such as 'who's taking the photos?' when they see footage from 'Not A Space Agency', etc.

2 billion people drink coke, so it MUST be OK.

It's recently been brought to the fore that all 'vax in nations' are harmful. It got so bad that the CIA-owned Facebook banned anyone from listing the ingredients...but hey.....who cares, right?

Oh, I bordering on 'cons-piracy'?

The CIA canned their own project in exactly the same month as Facebook was created, and their own project was designed to do exactly the same thing as FB does....It's no secret, go check it yourself.

People willingly give up their privacy in order to get a few 'likes''s insanity!

There's more truth in movies than ever there is on the TV.

People are forced to live a life of debt and servitude, while not having time to question anything.

The Internet, for short for 'International Net'. It's a WorldWide Web.

Snippets of truth can always be found within the lies.

A prime example can be found in the BuyBull - go check 2 Corinthians 4:4


#2019-11-30 19:43:00 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


John, the TV propaganda started way before 1976. I grew up in the UK, and if people couldn't afford a TV, the government essentially gave them one. It was imperative that all households had one.

TVs are now available that are suited to bathrooms FFS!

Television = Tell Lie tells you your 'vision'

Have you ever heard of 'Deep Fake'? If not then I suggest you go's incredible what CGI can do these days.....and a little frightening tbh.

I use an (old) Samsung Galaxy phone - (the last one made that allows you to remove the battery)

Whenever I turn it on, an 'eye' appears at the very top, and stays there for about 3 seconds. It just serves as a reminder that everything we do is watched / monitored.

Most modern TVs have a camera (if they allow Internet connection), and that camera can be hacked by anyone with a little knowledge of computer programming. You could be 'enjoying' your missus on the couch while everyone in the local bar is watching. Is this paranoia? Haha, it sounds like it, but sadly it's all true....

#2019-12-01 02:00:05 by newbeginning @newbeginning

interesting article...I would also say that Chinese citizens are badly misinformed about what life is really like in the West. If most of them knew the reality of western life they would stay in China...

Question for paul, do you believe the numbers that portray 75% of chinese wives cheat on their husbands? If these numbers are accurate and according to more than a few Chinese women I know personally that have said the same thing, then I would seriously think with wide open eyes before marrying a chinese woman.



#2019-12-01 14:23:43 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


I agree with you regarding Chinese perception of life in the West. They seem to get this pre-conceived idea that it's some kind of 'Utopia', when in fact, the opposite is true.

As for Chinese women cheating on their wives, I have actually heard the opposite is true.

This is because after a woman is highly encouraged to marry, she then MUST have a baby. Once she becomes pregnant, then sex is basically 'off the menu' for the best part of 12 months.

Conversely, I have found that divorced Chinese women are often quite (how shall I put this.....?) 'hungry', which is most likely due to the fact that they haven't 'had any' for an extended period of time.

Of course, I see this as being purely natural, yet I have no reason to say that Chinese women 'sleep around' in perhaps the same way a Western woman might.

You say that a few Chinese women have given you this information. Perhaps it's 'bravado', or the desire to make you think they are the 'same' as Western women?

For the most part, I would say that it's often difficult to get most Chinese women to have sex, unless they are sure that a possible longer-term relationship may develop.

#2019-12-01 20:24:11 by paulfox1 @paulfox1

I really don't want John to accuse me of dragging this blog into CC, so I'll try to be as sensible as I can.....

Firstly you have this propaganda being put out by the Western media that China is some kind of 'bogeyman'.

Conversely, China seems to portray the West as being some kind of 'Utopia'.

Both scenarios are complete BS.

I had a student who couldn't wait to go to Canada, yet one month after arriving he sent me a message saying, 'I hate this place'

I asked him why and he told me that he hated it because he couldn't buy a beer.

My reply was, 'You're only 17'

He said, 'I can buy one in China', to which I replied, 'You're not IN China'

My best friend is an English teacher in Cambodia

Tonight she told me that she was 'pinged' by a cop because she was driving her bike the wrong way down a one-way street.

This is not usually a problem, but the cop was hungry. They eventually agreed on a $5 'fine', and the cop gave her a piece of paper, out of his notebook, that had an 'X' on it......

Fair swap?

Meanwhile, in the USA, two cops crash the wrong house, shoot the dog, (who was the guardian of an epileptic), keep the family hostage for 2 hours, before admitting they are in the wrong house......Oops....sorry, but there's nothing you can do about it.........

Coppers, sadly, believe that their clown-suit and shiny badge somehow gives them 'power'. Yet once in 'civvies' they have no power at all....

Time to 'wake-up', my friends..........


#2019-12-04 13:18:57 by oldghost @oldghost


Thinking of a Chinese student in New York ... that shady town of 10 million or more unscrupulous freedom loving New Yorkers.  Like a babe in the woods.  Last week he was telling me he had finally had some social success, met a genuine New Yorker, someone outside his student group.  Then something about a $500 car repair bill, and alarm bells were ringing... the lesson ended before he could finish the story, but I already had a sinking feeling it was too late to warn him.  Sure enough, next time, he feels very bad when someone falls on bad times, and so he parted with $150 victimised by a cynical bad luck story.  Simple life in China does not prepare one for the harsh realities of 'sophisticated' Western culture.

Peter Finch died very shortly after that movie ... ah, I see the Oscar was posthumous! Heath Ledger too!  I vaguely recall A Town like Alice and The Shiralee The Nun's Story and perhaps The Pumpkin Eater from the 50s

#2019-12-05 20:14:58 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Sadly, there's always someone ready to take advantage of someone else. Sure, it happens in China too, but perhaps less often, (or less chance of it happening) - therefore Chinese people are sometimes more 'trusting'.

In fact, your story here highlights even further the 'chat' that @Melcyan and myself have been having over in the Forum. We trust everyone until such time as we have no reason to.

Imagine if you'd been a life-long friend of Eggstain or Prince Andrew. Would you still respect them today?

When I write my blogs here, I am speaking from experience. Most of what seem to come over as perhaps 'derogatory' only come about because my trust/respect was abused.

#2019-12-29 06:24:40 by kalzorch @kalzorch

Paul, while I largely agree with you, there are a couple of nits that I feel a need to correct.  1) The internet was so named long before it went international.  It means "between networks", not "between nations".  It sounds obvious now, but 50 years ago the idea of connecting networks was like pie in the sky.  2) The World Wide Web is the HTML thingy that was built on top of the internet, at least a decade after the internet was fully operational.  3) You assert that anyone with a little knowledge of computer programming can hack the camera built into modern TV's.  Well, I've got decades of experience as a professional computer programmer, and it's not obvious to me how to do it.  I suppose with enough research and effort I could, but it is hardly as trivial as you suggest.

#2019-12-29 11:48:46 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


It's probably speculation on both sides - after all, who really knows?

As far as hacking the camera in your TV, I don't believe I said what you say I said, but the point being that there are certain 'entities' that have the capability to hack into them. By 'entities' I mean Google, FaceBook, and other players in silicon valley. Not so much the 'man-in-the-street'.

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