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I am from a small and beautiful village in Sichuan province, and have been a foreign trade sales lady for 9 years after I graduated from college. Three years ago, I divorced and began a small business. As a divorced woman, I am fortunate that I can support myself and my child. 因為曾經的得與失, 讓我倍加珍惜現在的擁有和通往幸福的一切可能!
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Thanks for Breaking My Heart    

By Enya
5090 Views | 16 Comments | 12/2/2013 9:45:16 AM

On American Thanksgiving weekend, Enya gives thanks herself.

Before I start this title, I want to say thank you for all of the comments on my first blog. You guys make me more confident to continue. :-)   Some friends thought I am a very brave and strong woman when read my story, but I consider myself a very common Chinese woman, even a little shy and cowardly some times.  I remember when I just graduated from college, because of lack of confidence, I lost the chance of a  good job. I still remember that was a Taiwanese owned factory, the man interviewing me said that the best job for me was to be a wife, not a sales lady...:-)



When I finally found some confidence in my work, there came a serious problem from my marriage. Till now, I still can't talk with someone about my last marriage face to face because there was violence involved. For a long time when I heard some one talk with same accent from my ex home town, the voice made me shiver...



But I am proud of myself that I made a right choice to win my son back with me. During that time, because my son had already been in his father’s hometown, my close friends, my lawyer and my relatives all of them asked me to give up because they thought I had little chance of winning. Even the Judge wanted me to give up. 



But I kept going and I won. I did everything that I could do. I told myself I have to try it 100%, not 99.999%, it must be 100%...



This story happened three years ago. Now struggle and hate have melted away...and gratitude and calm is full in my heart. THANK YOU FOR BREAKING MY HEART is now a favorite song of mine.



I do not belong to any religion, but please allow me thank all the Gods and Goddesses for the divorce thing happening when my son was so young. It hurt him less and he doesn't have bad memories of his father. Even though the whole divorce was terrible,  it brought out courage and strength in me that I had never known before. I am grateful for that now I have  the chance to find a man who will love me and will be filled with gratitude for me being part of his life and I would love him and be filled with gratitude for him being part of my life ...I even thank my ex, he brought me a lovely son, when I say, baby I love you, he will  say I super love you mom...:-)



Some people on this Chinese dating site may have experienced a lot of pain in their lives too. It is important to not let painful events in your life limit the way you see others and the world.  I believe the more you focus on gratitude in your life , the more joy you experience NOW then you would have more to offer a future partner.



Here again I’d like to share my favorite song with all of you and hope you had a happy Thanksgiving Day and a wonderful weekend!



在我下筆前,我在這裡謝謝大家對我的第一篇文章支持和鼓勵. 是你們讓我想繼續這篇博文:-)



一些朋友在聽了我的故事後,可能覺得我是一個很堅強很勇敢的女人. 但我自認為是一個很普通的中國女人,有時甚至有些膽怯和懦弱. 我記得剛畢業時還因為這個丟了一份不錯的工作. 那是一個台資工廠,我至今還記得那個面試的人對我說,我比較適合給別人當老婆而不是做銷售...:-)



當我在工作找到一點自信時,我的婚姻又出了嚴重的問題. 因為當時的一些暴力行為, 時至今日,我仍然沒辦法和別人當面詳述那時的情景. 有時當我聽到別人講話中帶有他們家鄉的口音,我都會不寒而栗.



但我很驕傲我做了一個正確的決定, 打官司贏回我兒子. 那時因為我兒子已經在他父親的家鄉了.我的朋友,親戚,律師都勸我放棄算了,甚至法官也讓我的律師勸我放棄,因為贏的機率太小了.



但是我一直堅持努力,堅持尋找各種方法, 我告訴我自己我一定要100%的去努力,99.999%都不行,一定要100%, 哪怕輸了,也對自己和孩子有個交待. 但是謝謝上帝,我贏了!



這些已經是三年前的事了, 現在所有的那些斗爭,那些恨已經散了. 取而當之的是平靜和感激.



我不是嚴格意義上的任何宗教人士,但是請允許我感謝所有的神靈,感謝他們讓這一切發生在我孩子還很小的時候,他對這一切沒有一點記憶,也降低了對他的傷害,讓他不至於對他的父親又不好的印象. 感謝他們因為這件事,讓我變得比從前堅強和勇敢.感謝他們給我機會去尋找那個真正愛我的人,那個因為我而對生活充滿感激的人,而我也會感謝他走進我的生活. 我甚至感謝我的前夫,感謝他帶給我這麼可愛的孩子,每次當我說 “寶貝,媽媽愛你!” 他會說 “媽媽我超極愛你!” :-)



我想這裡可能有些姐妹也曾有過和我一樣的可怕經歷, 我想最重要的是不要因為這些經歷限制了我們對他人對生活的看法,我相信如果我們多一點對生活的感激, 我們就會多一些當下的快樂, 也會與未來心愛的人多一些分享.



再次把這首我最愛的歌獻給大家, 並祝大家感恩節快樂!



 



Sinead O'Connor的《Thank you for breaking my heart》



歌词是:



thank you for hearing me



thank you for hearing me



thank you for hearing me



thank you for hearing me



 



thank you for loving me



thank you for loving me



thank you for loving me



thank you for loving me



 



thank you for seeing me



thank you for seeing me



thank you for seeing me



thank you for seeing me



 



and for not leaving me



and for not leaving me



and for not leaving me



and for not leaving me



 



thank you for staying with me



thank you for staying with me



thank you for staying with me



thank you for staying with me



 



thanks for not hurting me



thanks for not hurting me



thanks for not hurting me



thanks for not hurting me



 



thank you for helping me



thank you for helping me



thank you for helping me



thank you, thank you for helping me



 



thank you for breaking my heart



thank you for tearing me apart



now i'm a strong, strong heart



thank you for breaking my heart



 



thank you for hearing me


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#2013-12-02 12:15:31 by melcyan @melcyan

Enya, I love your approach to life. Gratitude is amazing. Some say it is the secret to happiness. Gratitude to your ex must have been very healing for you.
Your song "Thank you for breaking my heart" has lyrics that don't seem to match your situation but I realize that I do a similar thing with some of my favorite songs. The parts of the song that match my thoughts (sometimes just the title) become the whole song and I am no longer conscious of the rest of the song.

#2013-12-02 12:54:30 by panda2009 @panda2009

Enya:
You are a wonderful person and very good mother. It is also the type that I like.

#2013-12-02 14:14:34 by anonymous8243 @anonymous8243

这个台湾人面试时这么说是没水准的。至少很不专业,要是在国外,你可以sue他。

#2013-12-02 15:17:38 by Barry1 @Barry1

Another wonderful, heartfelt article, thank you for sharing it, Enya.

And just as before, it's written in English so we silly Westerners out here can read it properly without needing to use an often imprecise translator.

You mention that you're simply a common Chinese lady, but given your resplendent intelligence, wisdom and strength of character, I can assure you that if all ladies are like you, China has an extremely bright, resurgent and prosperous future ahead of it indeed.

You may say "Thank You For Breaking My Heart" to your exhusband, but in return, may I say

"Thank you dear Enya, for being such a delightful and inspirational human being, especially to your son of whom you now feel so rightfully and wonderfully proud."



#2013-12-02 16:16:29 by Enyaluo1977 @Enyaluo1977

@anonymous8243
那時剛來廣東找工作,有些工廠還要未婚證呢,呵呵...我也發現我們中國人真能忍.

#2013-12-02 19:59:17 by fangfang5168 @fangfang5168

When I look at you sunshine smile, this years it isn’t take away your true, kind and beautiful! I must congratulate you and firmly believe that happiness is waiting for you at the corner, god is fair, it will make your happiness back to you again, enya, come on!

#2013-12-03 16:53:20 by qdphoebe @qdphoebe

这是多么让人心碎的一句话,“thanks for breaking my heart”,如果我们可以不成熟该多好,永远有一个可以宠我们爱我们,给我们遮风挡雨的男人, 如果我们非要成熟,可不可以不要有这么沉重的代价,可不可以不要这么痛彻心扉。 如果让我选择,我想说:如果不能担当,请不要来伤害我。“dont hurt me pls".

#2013-12-03 18:28:08 by yeranyi @yeranyi

不管前面婚姻如何,我认为还是不要提,一来 是告别了过去就不必提起,二来,在公共论坛给自己的过去留下些颜面,也为那个一起的人。

几个中国离异女子没有不堪回首的伤痛呢? 只是不再提,因为已过去。

#2013-12-03 19:17:21 by Enyaluo1977 @Enyaluo1977

@panda2009
Thank you! My son is 5years old now.I hope one day I could be a successful mother as you!

#2013-12-03 19:52:38 by Enyaluo1977 @Enyaluo1977

@Barry1
Thank you, Barry! Your words make me blush:-)

There are many wonderful Chinese ladies on this site. Some of them may not speak English very well but they are very intelligent and smart. I learn from them a lot when I read their Chinese comments.

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