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Stop It !    

By Paul Fox
377 Views | 6 Comments | 1/14/2021 7:34:00 AM

My most recent blog was confined to CC, and ended up with zero responses save from John and Barry. No surprises really.

So I hope that this one will end up in the 'normal' blog forum.

I want to talk about a conversation I had with a good (UK) friend here in China, which he later said 'blew him away'.

I have touched on this subject in the past, but it was a long time ago.

The subject itself is a little 'deep', or even 'profound', but it's something that we all need to innerstand.

I'll begin with a question:

At any time during your life, have you been walking down the street, or through a shopping mall, and found some money?

I would guess that most of you would say 'Yes'.

My next question would be - 'Were you looking?'

Now you're all going to say 'No'.

We, as guys, often tend to kind-of 'grade' women on a 'scale' of perhaps 1-10.

My friend has been looking for a partner for years, but, in my opinion, he set his sights too high. He had a set of criteria that he wouldn't budge from.

So I told him that he's essentially looking for a $100 note and would walk past a $50 note, or even a penny, that he saw lying on the floor.

Of course, he said my argument was ridiculous - but is it? Really?

We all seem to have a tendency to set a bunch of 'parameters'. Chinese women are terrible at this.

'I want someone who id 179cm tall. If you're 180cm then you're too big, and 178cm is too short'. I have no idea why Chinese women have this fixation with height.

I have lived in China since late 2014. Going to a market to buy some stuff from someone you've never seen before usually ends up in a 'polite' conversation.

There are, typically, three questions;

1. Where are you from?

2. What's your job?

3. How much do you earn each month?

By answering the first 2 questions seems to mean that you'd answer the 3rd, yet many of us Western guys would never ask the 3rd question.

If you do answer the 3rd question, you are giving false information.

Sure, if you work as a teacher and get paid 20,000 yuan a month, that seems a lot when compared to a typical Chinese salary, but we don't get paid in July and August, and most schools only pay you 50% during Chinese New Year.

So 20,000 a month for 9.5 months means an annual salary of 190,000 and not the perceived 240K

The way that the Chinese (especially women) discuss finances makes many of us think they are materialistic. Yet in reality, they are no more materialistic than Western women.

Chinese women are, perhaps, just a little bit more open about it.

All women want is Love and security - That's IT !

There are 'diamonds' to be found amongst the 'dung'.

I told my friend to lower his 'sights'. We often find what we're looking for once we stop looking for it.


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#2021-01-14 07:33:49 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

This blog reminds me of the very popular television series, Seinfeld, that ran for 9 or so years in the 1990's. The title character, Jerry Seinfeld, was constantly meeting and dating new women in his quest to find his perfect mate. 

In spite of many of these women seeming to be pretty desirable and likable, some little flaw would always come up that prevented Jerry from being able to close the deal or to settle on the current candidate.

Of course, being a television show, every one of these ladies were to die for and us mere mortal males would be drooling for the chance to be with any one of them, but for poor Jerry there was always some little hiccup that killed the relationship just before it could fully take hold.

By way of example, in one case the woman was physically stunning, both body and face, and had a fantastic personality, but her hands were oversized for her body. Jerry just couldn't get past those "man hands" as he referred to them.

Of course, over the years we viewers came to realize that Jerry was subconsciously torpedoing every potential relationship because deep down he had no desire, or perhaps stomach, for a serious long term relationship.

Perhaps that's the situation with your friend?   

#2021-01-14 14:26:25 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


Interesting comment about the 'man hands', John.

Obviously Einstein (and many many others) have no problem with this, haha.

#2021-01-15 08:56:57 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

You mean many others such as Barack Obama. Einstein and Obama are not the same as Jerry Seinfeld because Jerry was dealing with a very feminine and attractive woman who had one rather masculine feature.

Einstein and Obama each were/are dealing with "women" who appear to have multiple almost overwhelming masculine features. In Obama's case there are videos that would seem to confirm his "woman" appears to have a masculine version of the most important feature of all. 

In Jerry's case there was always just one little feature that spoiled the relationship for him. Often pretty petty features. Besides the Man Hands woman, I recall another one who had an annoying laugh and another one who was a terrible dancer but thought she was a great dancer.

Einstein and Obama's women had/have multiple masculine features that would turn most men off but were attractive to the two of them. Totally different situation if you ask me.

#2021-01-15 19:04:13 by Barry1 @Barry1


"In Obama's case there are videos that would seem to confirm his "woman" appears to have a masculine version of the most important feature of all."

The most important feature of a person arguably is their brain. Are you suggesting John, that Michelle Obama had an obviously bigger head size - brain size - than other equivalent ladies of her stature?  :^)




#2021-01-16 10:39:25 by paulfox1 @paulfox1


I never got into that TV show, but I get your point.

#2021-01-16 10:56:04 by JohnAbbot @JohnAbbot

@Barry1 - I must concede that the most important feature of a person generally is the brain. I should have completed the sentence you have quoted as follows:

"In Obama's case there are videos that would seem to confirm his "woman" appears to have a masculine version of the most important feature of all when it comes to proving masculinity."

To be clear the feature we are discussing would be one's male genitalia which differ dramatically with a woman's female genitalia.

As I am sure you intended, the video you have linked to is one of several out there that make my point about Michael. Thanks for posting it.

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