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我出世在一个美丽的国家,经历了动荡的时代和历史的变迁,终于回到了祖国。当岁月积淀女人的智慧与理性,我终于剥下华丽与虚荣,学会积累生活和人生的体悟,我在这里与大家分享生活的心灵感悟,感悟人生的真谛。I was born in a beautiful country, Vietnam, and lived through the turbulent era and the history of changes, then finally returned to the Mother China. With years of accumulated wisdom and feminine rationality,I finally peeled off the gorgeous and vanity. I am here to share with you inspiration, love, hope and thankfulness and their role in understanding the depth and true meaning of life.
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She Forgave Her Husband's Lover 她宽容了丈夫的情人    

By Xin73
7732 Views | 27 Comments | 7/1/2012 7:43:21 AM

We want to present another new blogger, Xin73. This lady has an incredibly interesting history, having been born of Chinese heritage but in Vietnam, and lived through much of the turbulence in that country in the last part of the 20th century. Now rooted in China, well educated, and having learned many lessons of life, Xin73 hopes to explore and share with us her thoughts and feelings on many subjects. Here is her first blog:

She Forgave Her Husband's Lover

Life often occur to unpleasant things, this may be rooted in the others to his own injuries,
and we often because of these injuries full of melancholy in my heart, feel depressed, when we hate someone else at the same time, oneself also immersed in the unhappy emotion, Of harm in addition to others,there are our own. people are not perfect, who will make mistakes, who has advantages and disadvantages, Therefore, we can treat yourself shortcomings, why can't forgive other people's fault? When you keep in mind the shortcomings of others, ask yourself is also have this or that problem? let yourself happy, enrichment, to forget others to their own harm, the hearts of discontent, resentment, throw away all!forgive others, is to forgive yourself. the following is happened in my side of the story, the heroine is my former colleague, the man is my ex-husband's comrade in arms.

This pair feelings of sweet lovers after a seven-year love marathon. spanning a variety of obstacles finally married life together. although the monthly led a meager salary, living in the dormitory units, but two people still lived a very sweet . the wife discovers that she is pregnant, the husband heard the news ecstatic.

However, fate is always like to tease people. the wife is pregnant for three months later, in a way to work, was accidentally to be motorcycle knocked down, after the doctor's struggling to rescue, the children eventually miscarried, the fetus inside her belly eventually aborted, the doctor told her, the accidental injury to her uterus, she may not be pregnant again. Thereafter, this family life changed completely, husband was no longer so distressed wife ... ... .

Wife at heart full of guilt to husband , think very sorry husband, although the husband no longer the same as before love yourself, she still make all-out efforts to take care of his life. Soon, the wife found her husband's behavior increasingly strange. colleague 's remarks confirmed her conjecture, her husband had an affair. she often with tears wash face, begged her husband to cherish they happiness. however, indulged in another section of the feelings of men, how will listen, instead, the said to her:“you can not have children, can not let my no child. my lover pregnant, you must go and I are getting a divorce!"

The wife listened, heart is like a knife cutting by pain, now she understood thoroughly, their feelings have gone no longer exist, decided to get a divorce fulfill them. at the same time, her husband execution in work the mission, accident suffered a car accident, died on the spot. wife heard the news, very sad, even regret not earlier divorce fulfill them. Legitimate she hide in the home cry , A pregnant woman knocked on her door. after opening the door, see the redness of the eyes of this woman, she knew the identity of the other side.yes! the woman is be way her husband's lover. her come to the purpose of, Pleading after the birth of own child. let the lost husband woman, adoption of her child.

The past this the destruction of their own happy family woman unexpectedly put forward so this idea. she flatly refused. At this time,husband's lover to kneel down to beg her ... ... .
her heart is shaken. In any case, this child is innocent. And,the child's body flowing after all is the ex-husband's blood.she finally agreed to the request,and to forgive her ex-husband's lover.

The story of the wife to forgive her former rival, it needs a great courage, but she has done. husband betrayed her own, her husband died, help him to assumed the responsibility. With their own tolerance and generosity dissolved the old hatred, her tolerance not only to give the child opens the door, but also for their own to open a heart the passage.

We are in the vast world,contradictions and frictions are inevitable with others. If we can easily open the hearts of hatred, hatred will grow up quietly in his own body. ultimately affect own normal life. we should hone a tolerant realm of life. whether we choose what kind of goal in life, learn tolerance can make our life more happy. forgiving someone else's negligence, signify for others to wake up the time and the opportunity to repent, for others a seeking redemption way.

Can broad magnanimity the forgive others to hurt you own, will be able to deeply comprehend life, achieve the otherworldly realm of life. life honed to such a high state, Then nothing can any difficulty overwhelm yourself.

In my colleague's marriage, let me ganwudao, even if a person has one big mistake, as long as he turn over a new start, should get the people to forgive. tolerance and trust others, that is the affirmation of human nature, Is also is help people, Its significance exceed money support.

Hope has read this article, you also have the same feeling.

她宽容了丈夫的情人

生活中经常会发生让自己不愉快的事情,这可能是根源于他人对自己的伤害,而我们往往会因为这些伤害心中充满惆怅,闷闷不乐,在我们怨恨别人的同时,自己也沉浸在不快的情绪当中,受到伤害的,除了别人,还有我们自己,人不是那么完美的,谁都会犯错误,谁都有优缺点,所以,我们能善待自己的缺点,为什么就不能原谅他人的过错呢?当你对别人的缺点耿耿于怀时,想想自己是不是也有这样或那样的缺点和问题呢?要让自己快乐,充实,就要忘掉别人对自己的伤害,将心中的不满,愤恨统统抛掉,饶恕别人的同时,就是宽恕自己。下面就是发生在我身边的一个故事,女主角是我以前的同事,男主角是我前夫的战友。

这一对感情甜蜜的恋人经过长达7年的爱情长跑,跨越了多种障碍终于结婚生活在一起。虽然每月领着微薄的薪水,住着单位的宿舍楼,但两人仍然生活过的非常温馨。妻子发现自己怀孕了,丈夫得知这一消息简直欣喜若狂。

然而,命运却总是喜欢捉弄人。在妻子怀孕三个月后,在一次上班的途中,不小心被摩托车撞倒,经过医生的奋力抢救,孩子始终没有保住。医生告诉她这次伤及她的子宫,她很有可能以后不会再怀孕。此后,这个家庭的生活彻底改变,丈夫不再像以前那样心疼妻子……..

妻子心中对丈夫满是愧疚,自认为很对不起丈夫,尽管丈夫对自己不再像从前那样,她还是尽心尽力照顾他的生活。不久,妻子发觉丈夫的行为越来越诡异。同事的一席话证实了她的猜想,丈夫发生了婚外情。她终日以泪洗面,苦苦哀求丈夫珍惜他们的幸福。但是,沉湎与另一段感情的男人,那里能听得进去,反而对她说:“你不能再生孩子,总不能让我没有孩子吧,我的情人已经怀孕了,你必须马上和我办离婚手续!”

妻子听后,心如刀绞,此刻她也彻底明白昔日他们的感情已经荡然无存,决定离婚成全他们。就在此时,她的丈夫在执行任务工作中意外遭遇车祸,当场死亡。妻子得知这个消息,非常悲痛,甚至后悔当初自己没有早一点离婚成全他们。正当她躲在家里流泪的时候,一个大肚子的女人敲开了她家的门。打开门之后,看到这个女人同样红肿的双眼,她就明白了对方的身份。不错,这位身怀六甲的女人正是前夫的情人。她来的目的,是恳求女人在自己孩子出生后,收养这个孩子。

这个昔日破坏自己幸福家庭的女人竟然提出如此非分的想法。她断然拒绝。这时,前夫的情人下跪来求她…….这时,她的心动了,无论如何,这个孩子是无辜的,并且,孩子的身上流淌的毕竟是前夫的血。她终于答应了这个请求,并原谅了前夫的情人。

故事中的妻子原谅了她昔日的情敌,这需要一种极大的勇气,但是她做到了。在丈夫背叛自己的情况下,在丈夫死之后,替他承担了责任。用自己的宽容和大度化解了昔日的仇恨。她的宽容之心不仅给这个孩子敞开了一扇大门,也为自己打开了一条心灵的通道。

我们在茫茫人世间,难免与别人产生矛盾和摩擦。如果我们轻易地开启仇恨之心,仇恨便会在自己的身体里悄悄成长,最终影响到自己的正常生活。我们应该历练一种宽容的人生境界。不管我们选择何种人生目标,学会包容都能让我们的人生更加快乐。宽容别人的过失,就意味着给别人醒悟的时间和悔过的机会,留给别人一条寻求救赎的途径。

凡是能够以宽容的气度原谅别人对自己的伤害,就能够深刻地领悟生活,抵牾人生,达到超凡脱俗的人生境界。人生历练到如此高的境界,也就再没有什么困难能压倒自己了。

在我同事的婚姻中让我感悟到,任何人即使曾经有过天大的错误,只要他改过自新了,就应该得到人们的原谅。宽容和信任他人,即是对人性的肯定,也是对人的帮助,其意义超过了金钱的支援。

希望读完此文的你也有同感。

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#2012-07-01 11:42:40 by aku1234 @aku1234

Congratulations for your first blog entry Xin73 and a very touching story.

Forgiveness is the way to go.

#2012-07-01 16:52:11 by destiny1 @destiny1

她的宽容使她获得了做母亲的权利,完美了女人的生命。

#2012-07-02 00:15:42 by shlshl @shlshl

看着别人的故事从中感叹人性的真善美,可当自己真正去面对时谈何容易啊!时光的流逝本也让女人的生活变得更加现实!!!

#2012-07-02 01:12:45 by danruble @danruble

A few sayings come to mind. " We all make mistakes" or,"To error is human, to forgive, devine" and "There but for the grace of God, go I" Very sad and uplifting at the same time...Simple and elegant prose.. Bitter sweet. I think back to an earlier blog about the unknown neighbor that jumped from the tall building..One can not help but be touched by such stories. The latest to write here in terms that make me think and feel. Thank you. I look forward to more of your writing.

#2012-07-02 01:51:34 by urdivine @urdivine

I believe we agree.

Forgiving others is NEVER for the benefit of the person who did you "wrong". It is ALWAYS for you.

'Forgiving' means to let go. It means to no longer hold on to a negative emotion or continue with a negative thought pattern.

Those are the real cause of disease.

Whatever negative experience you have in your life, it is there because YOU, usually from a deep level, attracted it.

Lack of love, lack of money, lack of health, lack of joy etc. etc. do not happen because the person simply has bad luck in life.

There are no accidents. Everything that happens in your life, happens for a reason and it is all to help you evolve, [grow; develop].

Xin73. Good story. Thank you.

#2012-07-02 12:05:28 by niuniuzh @niuniuzh

为什么自己不能养,要让情敌收养,有点奇怪......

#2012-07-02 18:30:41 by oldstudent @oldstudent

wow, very emotional at the point when she came to see you; yes, we are all victims of our own fears and prejudices. ...but well done, she and you both faced it.
people often say we get stronger from such things but I'm not so sure, the next one can be pretty rough too but we can sure get smarter.

#2012-07-03 13:04:36 by destiny1 @destiny1

She adopted her husband's lover's child, because her tolerance achievements of her own to become a great mother. This is good.

#2012-07-03 22:16:07 by lucyy @lucyy

poor english

#2012-07-04 15:17:42 by xin73 @xin73

Hi aku1234
Thank you for your comments and appreciation.I will continue to strive to write more and better works.

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